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the song made me giggle a lil as a trans guy

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can i have some of your autism? just a taste bro i swear

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Trump paused communications from all of our health agencies. He wants them reviewed.

You will be much less likely to know from now on during the early days if we have something like the current rising bird flu epidemic. You will be less likely to know about any illness epidemics. Even once things are confirmed and being reported in some media outlets, there's a non-zero chance that you are not going to see any urgency or any communication at all from places you are used to.

For the love of little green apples, please start masking again. Please be more careful with your health then you have been over the last 4 years.

https://wapo.st/4aqfN44

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the plan? fill my house with chintz so the guy my husband is cheating on me with won’t have anywhere to fuck him

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i have such a low threshold for bullshit now that i'm seconds from telling this woman on the crochet subreddit to leave her husband, even though i know it won't end well for me.

she made him a wool hat and stressed repeatedly to him that it couldn't be machine washed. he washed it anyway, destroying her work. she's trying to play it off like a funny anecdote, how it was sweet how sorry and sad he was in the aftermath, but then let it slip this kind of thing has happened multiple times/continues to happen in their relationship, because he refuses to accept her knowledge as a textile artist and constantly ruins the nice things she makes or buys for either of them. i think he should be killed.

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An ad for your deepest desires :)

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can you posr the video that the. pelican is from

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Be gay, trans and alive

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this 532 page science fiction novel could have been a concept album

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On Thanksgiving, I witnessed something I think was one of the best parenting moments I’ve ever seen.

I’ve been adopted by my coteacher’s family, and since I have no family around where I live for the holidays, she invites me to her house. I go to birthday parties, soccer games, family events, the whole deal.

Her young son (he just turned 5) was swinging around a toy on a string in circles. She asked him quite a few times to stop because he was too close to people and it could hurt them, but he still continued to do so. While he was swinging it, it smacked her pretty hard in the leg, hard enough to leave a bruise later.

Right away, her husband ordered him to apologize, and with a rather less than sincere voice, he said “sorry.”

She looked at him dead straight and said, “I don’t accept your apology.”

The kid was floored. He just stood there and didn’t know what to do. Her husband asked her why she said that, and she said, “He’s not sorry. He doesn’t know what he did wrong or how to fix it. He just said it because you told him to. So, no, I don’t accept his apology.”

After a few seconds, she walked away. The kid just stood there, confused and not knowing what to do. So, we at the family dinner table, walked him through what happened.

“She asked you to stop so no one would get hurt, and you didn’t listen. And now, someone got hurt.”

“Do you think saying sorry made it stop hurting?”

“Do you feel bad about it?”

“What can we do to fix it?”

And he agreed he should stop swinging around the toy and went to a different room so no one would get hurt. No more forced apology. Just action.

Eventually, about an hour later, he offered a sincere apology to his mom and gave her a hug. Only then did she accept his apology and told him why. Not because he said he was sorry, but because he stopped once he realized what he was doing did hurt someone, and he went on to fix the problem.

So many parents force their kids to apologize, and she’s told me time and time again it always makes her feel uncomfortable because usually the kid doesn’t regret their actions or want to apologize. Parenting isn’t always pretty words and being gentle. Sometimes you have to prepare them for real-life situations, and unconditionally accepting or being understanding of their actions isn’t always the best way to go.

Not only is this teaching him how to genuinely apologize for his behavior and do better, but it also makes him realize words are just words until action is taken. That’s the only way things get fixed.

Is there gray area? Absolutely. Is this always going to work? Absolutely not. But, is it a step in the right direction to teaching children how to genuinely apologize? Most definitely.

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To reiterate:

Trump's transphobic Executive Orders regarding healthcare and Federal documents are currently unenforceable and are not current actionable policy of the Federal government.

Do not despair.

Do not panic.

And most importantly: do not comply in advance.

Staying alive is a radical act as a trans person in Trump's America.

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yarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr you greedy fucks

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Love Bugs 3" Acrylic Charms by FrogTreeGames

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there are only two genders btw. people who are alive and people who are fucking dead