chillabuse
i am soft because i chose to be
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chillabuse · 9 days ago
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she's singing in another room and my dog is asleep at my feet. my grandma asked me why i haven't found a man yet and i laughed. oh, you know. i like my house clean.
my girlfriend is also my man is also "my partner" if i'm in a professional setting. yesterday we went to a ren faire and a man mimed at me - you're together? and at my delighted nod, his baffled, you're gay? made me laugh. a woman with rainbow hair said i love the two of you together. you're both so beautiful it's absurd.
my dad introduced my partner as my "..... friend. or whatever" the other day. he knows we're dating. in the same way, i was never able to get my sister's husband to stop saying that's gay like it's 2008. he still uses the word fa***t, and my sister's defense of him has always been well, he's just kidding.
my lover and i dance to old music in a tiny kitchen. we judge new music together and take food critique very seriously. we watch love is blind before we fall asleep and agree that if they had a queer season, it would be bloody but also make for excellent tv. of fucking course queer people would know someone for only 2 weeks and agree to get married. what are you saying.
at a bar with friends, a man puts his hand on my wrist. got a boyfriend? and yes, i do have a boyfriend, she's amazing. i am texting her while i wander around a gas station named after geese. i am visiting a swing state for a wedding. in the candy aisle i overhear: she's actually like a lesbian it's disgusting. two teenage girls with packaged sandwiches in their hands, giggling. no literally, like. i'm not, like. okay with her being there while we're all, like, naked and changing.
my girlfriend and i tailgate, drink gin and cider out of cups. from the frat group beside us, a man corrects himself with one of his friends: bro, i mean, nonbinary entity, and it makes everyone around him laugh, myself included. he razzes his friend the same way i would have killed for at 19 years old - like nothing happened, he continues: you apply sunscreen like an alien. he does a little sassy (and fairly accurate) dance interpretation of the motion. his friend is laughing so hard they're crying.
i am lucky, i live in a safe neighborhood in a safe state. my masc passenger princess comes up from DC. i drive her for an hour to where all the leaves are a violent arrangement of color. we walk along the trails, letting autumn into our blood. in this part of the state, there's a lot of pickup trucks and trump signs. when we chastely kiss before getting into the car, i accidentally make eye contact with a woman holding her child's wrist. she looks disgusted. she looks fucking pissed.
two hours later my girl and i are eating dinner on a patio, soaking in the last warmth of new england sun before the chill of winter sets in. we are giggling and trying to talk through plastic vampire teeth. at another table, i see a young woman sit up straighter. i watch her watch us. she blushes and takes her partner's hand from across the table. shy, like the taste of evening has just become something deeper.
it's worth it for this moment, i think. my lover is still humming the same song she's been singing for four days straight and i don't want to kill her for it. her guitar is beside my bed. her toothbrush is in my bathroom. in a few moments i will make us lunch. we are lucky enough to have found each other. it is lucky enough to be in love.
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chillabuse · 9 days ago
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everyone from childhood seems to have carved out a life for themselves. i still feel 15 and completely hopeless
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chillabuse · 2 months ago
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having so much love in your heart is beautiful and amazing right up until you’re alone in your bedroom clutching at your chest and whimpering like a wounded dog
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chillabuse · 3 months ago
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Buspar got upped so my dreams have somehow become even more vivid and scary than before
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chillabuse · 4 months ago
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Guilt follows me like a stray dog
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chillabuse · 5 months ago
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pre–amphibian, margaret atwood
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chillabuse · 5 months ago
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pathetic affirmations (button sets, part 2) by Claire Thompson
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chillabuse · 5 months ago
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lonely girls my beloved. i see you staying in your room, i see you standing in grocery store aisles feeling the sudden wave of isolation wash over you. i understand how badly you want and how bad that makes you feel. i get it. we're not alone. but we are.
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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do you ever think oh actually i am never going to stop being eleven years old and lonely
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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we diagnose you with a creeping sense of alienation forever. incurable
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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hey man I found a piece of your soul stuck in the text messages of old friends you don’t speak to anymore. do you want it back
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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grief is so crazy like what if i forget what her laugh sounds like. does she know i loved her. i miss her so much. i catch myself doing things she used to do. i wish i could call her. i miss her so much. i do a crossword puzzle. i cry while washing the dishes. does she know i loved her? my heart feels like a hummingbird. i miss her so much. what if i forget what her laugh sounds like. what if i forget.
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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don’t worry. it’s easier to love you than you think
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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“I love you. I love you, but I’m turning to my verses and my heart is closing like a fist.”
— Frank O’Hara, Mayakovsky
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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hey man I found a piece of your soul stuck in the text messages of old friends you don’t speak to anymore. do you want it back
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chillabuse · 6 months ago
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love changes you, in the end, I will not recognise the shape that I am
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