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Behold! My new family crest!

Luna and Nova are royalty in this house 👑

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AAAAAH I LOVE THIS GAME SO MUCH!!! I missed siffrins birthday but im only a day late!!!

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Bigi Bum Bum

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drew some totally normal sadnesses

blank bg and individuals below the cut

edit: i posted some of my thoughts that went into these designs! if youd like to read you can find it in the reblogs

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Been thinking about this since Eurovision

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A year ago I made some silly Trigun fanart that brought all the bigots out of the woodworks, so I told them that everything I draw is gay, including Space Cat. And now he has a boyfriend, welcome Rainbow Cat! 🌈

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i am shocked that i havent seen this yet

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Silvester Belt and Nemo fan art

This came to me in a dream idk what to tell y’all 😭😭😭

Base by K3nel1OS on DeviantArt

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Fan art of Saba

I’ll take a break for now. I might make some more fan art of other contestants after the shows.

Background:

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Fan art of Nemo

If you can properly decipher the binary you get the satisfaction of being cool. Also thanks for taking the time, I’m sorry for making you go through that 💜😭💜

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The most useful part of learning what crystals are supposed to do for you is that you’ll immediately know what a person is striving for or feels like they need more of in their life depending on which ones they wear or decorate their space with.

For example, a person with this stone on their desk at work is for sure struggling with concentration and focus (I know this one particularly well because it’s often used for ADHD in spiritual circles)

No idea what they’re trying to do with this machine though. I’m seeing a lot of prosperity and grounding stones…?

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Fan art of Teya Dora

Background:

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Fan art of Silvester Belt

Improved some things from the last one and I’m feeling pretty good about it. Definitely more to come!

Here’s the background:

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Fan art of Baby Lasagna!

I feel like my art style changes every time I try to draw real people. Anyway this was an experimental piece. It was fun but it takes maybe a bit too long to draw. I did learn a lot so expect some more art kinda like this!

Here’s the background.

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It might simply be that I don’t frequent ADHD forums enough but I haven’t seen a whole lot of talk about learned social withdrawal.

As a child I made friends left and right but as we all turned into self-conscious teenagers it slowly became more and more difficult for me. Plain and simple, other people thought I was weird. For some reason I never got bullied which I think is related to something my teachers kept telling my parents “She’s such a sweet, bright child and we can tell she’s not malicious or trying to be disruptive on purpose but we can’t teach her anything”

Basically people couldn’t figure me out. I had good social skills with both children and adults, I had a good moral compass, i felt compassion and empathy for others and was willing to go against my friends if I felt they were being bullies, I taught myself English and my drawings showed good observation skills. Because of all that it was decided I should start school a year sooner than most kids and my parents were very proud. Unfortunately that’s probably one of the main reasons why I was never diagnosed with raging ADHD as a child. People soon realized I didn’t do well in a school setting but assumed it was because I “wasn’t done playing” and my ADHD symptoms were interpreted as childishness.

So as I got older my classmates started to distance themselves from me. They were always kind and friendly but they didn’t know how to deal with me and ever since then people have always been worryingly comfortable with calling me weird to my face. I get the impression it’s because they think it’s a choice on my part. To them I’m clearly of “normal intelligence” so I must be acting like this on purpose and my parents would repeatedly tell me to “just act normal” as a child when I told them I was struggling to make friends. I tried so damn hard but kept failing. I knew something had to be different about me and when I first heard about ADHD I thought “That’s me! That’s how I feel!” but my parents said that was impossible because I wasn’t hyperactive.

Because nobody wanted to help me I eventually learned to just stop trying to make friends and keep to myself. I was so tired of being told by friendly, well-meaning people that I was so weird and quirky and unique only for them to distance themselves once they realized it was permanent and not something I could turn on and off for parties. I always enjoyed being alone so it wasn’t a huge loss but it did feel incredibly lonely at times.

Things got a lot better when I became an adult, mostly because adults are generally more chill than teens so my ADHD behavior isn’t as embarrassing to them and ironically they’re often surprised to learn I don’t make friends easily. Unfortunately I learned to be withdrawn in my formative years so new friends are still a rarity. Before I really sat down and put my past into context I even started to wonder if I had autism despite not connecting with anything autistic people said about their experiences. I went as far as to be tested but wasn’t surprised when the diagnosis was negative because of course it was, I kinda already knew that. I was just looking for an explanation.

So while there can be overlap between ADHD and autism (I have just such a friend) my experience is also that oftentimes people with ADHD simply learn to stay away from social situations and entertain ourselves which ends up looking like autism to outsiders.