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The Amalfi coast looks good on us 🌹

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IG: @stylevitae

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The gorgeous women of New York at #SipNSlay, founded by @itsreallynana, showcased the beauty of Black women, fashion, and everything extraordinary.

Video by @capturedbychinny

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Jasmine Tookes, 2024, via Instagram.

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Martha Nussbaum

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Clueless (1995) dir. Amy Heckerling

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discipline is self care

self care isn't just face masks and bubble baths, it's also doing your assignment in advance so you won't pull an all nighter before the deadline, cooking at home instead of ordering out; discipline is an act of self love and care

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And that's on mother.

im not in hypergamy circles so idk but this mentality on everything else. Your friends. Your job. Your family. Your country. The question is, outside your delusions and dreams- if the roles were reversed, would they do the same? Exactly. If your boss finds a better fit he will just fire you. The country you're loyal to- lmao. Your family, would they make the same sacrifices for you?? Your friends, if the situation was reversed, would they show you the same mercy? Exactly . & I mean outside your delusions. Realistically speaking,with the years you've spent together. Would they really? This is equality, ladies. Do unto others exactly what they would do to you.

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throughout history it has been a man’s job to provi..

no, throughout history men have actively prevented the independence of women, they have actively prevented our mobility, rights to an education, and livable income. they’ve abused our reproductive capability and passed us around like properties, they’ve used religion to rationalize their hatred of us, and to put us in a place of subordination. so y’all can shut the fuck up about men being “providers” like it was some benevolent gesture, in an attempt to rationalize sexism.

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male writers will make up entire universes where anything can happen and it's filled with rape and prostitution.... that's what they fantasize about

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As a girl or woman, raise yourself to be an intellectual. Raise yourself to be a reader, a traveller, a curious explorer. Raise girls who are independent livers and thinkers, who are critical of standard narratives and status quos and societal and religious dogma. Girls and women will never benefit from being naïve, stuck in one place, unaware, ignorant, out of options, close minded etc besides deriving from these states a false sense of safety, but the patriarchy reaps massive profits from afflicting these conditions.

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A couple of professors told me that their students see reading books as akin to listening to vinyl records—something that a small subculture may still enjoy, but that’s mostly a relic of an earlier time.

The economic survival of the publishing industry requires an audience willing and able to spend time with an extended piece of writing. But as readers of a literary magazine will surely appreciate, more than a venerable industry is at stake. Books can cultivate a sophisticated form of empathy, transporting a reader into the mind of someone who lived hundreds of years ago, or a person who lives in a radically different context from the reader’s own. “A lot of contemporary ideas of empathy are built on identification, identity politics,” Kahn, the Berkeley professor, said. “Reading is more complicated than that, so it enlarges your sympathies.”

Yet such benefits require staying with a character through their journey; they cannot be approximated by reading a five- or even 30-page excerpt. According to the neuroscientist Maryanne Wolf, so-called deep reading—sustained immersion in a text—stimulates a number of valuable mental habits, including critical thinking and self-reflection, in ways that skimming or reading in short bursts does not.

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You don't need to have all the answers right now. You just need to focus on the next small step in front of you.

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SZA

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I love the shrine in my wallet. Amex cards and love letters jammed into pockets