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hi things just got a lot more financially unstable here if anyone would like to donate to a trans, disabled household while we figure out how to get back on our feet itd be hella appreciated

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we have got to be less nice about astrology. we got people out here being emotionally immature and terrible at navigating interpersonal relationships and blaming the stars. the stars didn't do nothing to you, learn to hold yourself and others accountable for their actions and just try to do better and stop incorporating "people are who they are as fated by birth" into your beliefs even casually everyone has agency

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The concept of "spyware" has disappeared from the common internet lingo after it became the case that the word could now be used to describe nearly every major website and a huge percentage of the most commonly-used software.

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I don't think the ways some trans women sometimes dress or style themselves is an actual Issue We Need To Do Something About

I think some people (including some trans women) are just very transmisogynistic about (other) trans women's appearances, and that's all there ever is to those “discussions”

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It’s wild to me to see transvestigator conspiracy theories online that could be so easily explained by natural human variation. That woman has a deep voice? Yeah, sometimes they do. A woman has broad shoulders?? Maybe she plays rugby or hits the gym a fuckton. There’s a “bulge” in her tight pants?? Maybe her vulva is just fat. All the “markers” of trans woman that transvestigators use to harass any woman aren’t even things unique to trans women.

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going to start using this for every dipshit post i see on here

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One thing from genderqueerdykes recent transmisogynistic screed thats stuck in my mind is the insistence that trans women exhibit toxic masculinity by interrupting people, cause like. The main way that men talking over women manifests isn't men interrupting women (they do that a lot too, but its a lesser contributor). What happens when a man wants signifies he has something to say? Everyone shuts up and listens. What happens when a woman does it? Everyone carries on as if nothing happened.

So what are you to do if you aren't content with simply not speaking, and waiting until social decorum decides it is your turn doesn't work, because your turn is never? You make it impossible to ignore you, social decorum be damned. You interrupt people, you are aggressive and confrontational about getting a word in because its the only way you'll get one in at all.

Feminists got framed as aggressive bitches so often because they correctly determined that your options as a woman are to either not be heard, or to be heard and called an aggressive bitch for it, and they chose the latter. How insidious is it to reframe that feminist practice of demanding your voice be heard irrespective of social decorum as a signifier that trans women exhibit toxic masculinity, are man-like, to weaponize both dysphoria and the language of feminism to shut down transfeminists.

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i mean the other thing about socio cultural frameworks by which we understand sexual violation etc is you have to take into account that most rape/assault/harassment doesn't even get widely interpreted through the lens of "this is a unique trauma and you are tainted forever" it gets interpreted through a lens more like "this probably didn't even happen and i don't know what you're talking about and if it did happen it was no big deal. also you are tainted forever (in a way where i refuse to even name the reason why)"

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if sex is no big deal and just a normal thing like having dinner with someone, how do you square that with the belief that children can't consent to sex? Like idk this whole thing of "sex is a normal act like any other and we shouldn't treat it differently" makes me soo uncomfortable because i feel like it's really obviously not in a lot of situations? Otherwise what's the difference between being told by my boss to have lunch with one of our prospective clients being told by my boss to blow one of our prospective clients? :/

let's take your dinner example to its logical conclusion, because you are on to something here, but I don't think quite in the way that you think.

children are forced to eat food that they this really dislike (due to sensory issues, allergies, or just run of the mill unfamiliarity) quite regularly by their caregivers. they are also sometimes denied the right to eat because they didn't behave the way their caretakers liked, and sent to bed hungry, or barred from eating food that they can handle, and instead left to go hungry because they won't eat food they can't handle.

treatment like this causes a lot of food issues and trauma to children. It exacerbates eating disorders and erodes a child's sense of their own body autonomy. It can also cause children to have nutritional issues and a scarcity mentality around food that can be really damaging to them.

similarly, people are forced to share meals with people who they are viscerally uncomfortable around all the time too, often to extreme negative effects. employees are forced to sit down with clients who debase them or harass them. Young people in particular are forced into sharing tables with relatives who have crossed their boundaries, insulted them, abused them, bullied them, and whom they want nothing to do with. people in recovery from eating disorders are surrounded by co-workers, family members, or friends at meal times who speak about calories and weight loss and comment on their own bodies and other people's bodies in incredibly invasive and triggering ways that often make them feel way worse, and make taking care of their own bodies far more difficult.

when a powerful institution wants to exert control over other people, they also often do so using food. prisoners are given almost no control over the kind of food they eat, and are often given very low quality food that is in a disgusting condition, or that violates their own nutritional requirements or religious beliefs. patients in hospitals and in mental institutions are also subjected to such treatment, and people in poverty are expected to eat anything that they are given without complaint. It is an extension of their dehumanization to control and limit the kinds of food they're allowed to access, and how and when they are permitted to eat.

each of these experiences surrounding food can be incredibly violating and harmful. food is quite frequently a tool of control and abuse. yet it is not because there is some magical quality to food or to dinners that make them uniquely fraught with the potential for trauma. these experiences are traumatic because they involve a violation of a person's body autonomy, and a lack of social power.

sex isn't any different from dinner. we just have a series of cultural beliefs surrounding it that make the pressure involving sex something that's both a lot more acknowledged, and mostly encountered in the private realm.

Sex is treated as an almost magical thing, at once both sinister and sacrosanct, and so people are primed to see the potential for harm in it, and it is frequently used as a tool for harming people because it is so loaded, but that doesn't mean there aren't abuses involving every other mundane human activity that we simply are conditioned to ignore because doing so is so normal.

People's body autonomy surrounding food is violated traumatically all the fucking time. unfortunately because we consider dinner to be a neutral activity and sex to be this incredibly fraught and almost magical one, we ignore the massive amounts of coercion, pressure, and violation surrounding food.

your boss shouldn't be able to force you to get dinner with someone. and people are uncomfortable with discussions about body autonomy that neutralize sex, because it forces them to confront how little freedom we actually have in every facet of our lives.

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this should be very extremely obvious and i really thought it was to everyone but telling trans women that they're "socialized as male" and then telling her she still interacts with the world in some fundamentally inescapably male cishet misogynist way is both extremely transphobic and utterly incoherent with how gendered socialization actually works. like for example the very basic idea that children are generally punished for not conforming to gendered expectation, which means some kids are raised more as queer than as either male or female. you're doing the thing, you're doing the terf thing of making trans women out to be fundamentally dangerous or harmful to other women.

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you simply need to be able to recognize and criticize transmisogyny in general and not just the extremely over the top JKR type shit, you are not actually growing if you refuse to consider the idea that other queer people can reinforce and benefit from transmisogyny on smaller levels too

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Hey, let's talk about anons like this, because I know some people haven't been in a position to see the patterns these play out in on broader scale and may indeed not spot the trap.

And it is a trap.

An ask like this has several purposes.

First, it uses social justice language in passive aggressive and manipulative ways to try to coerce a behavior. In this case, the desired behavior is usually for the recipent to participate in community shunning and/or harrassment. The language above is intended to put the recipient on the defensive where, in the haste to disassociate themself from the Bad Thing, they quickly disassociate themself from the bad person, often with no particular fact checking or evidence.

The message is also intended to create a sense of being surveilled and judged by an unknown amount of people with unknown amount of social power and an unknown amount of relevance to your life.

Notice that these asks are usually framed as if they are coming from a follower or potential follower, someone who is addressing you personally and who cares about your opinion and who your blog has an effect on. However this is usually.... very much not the case. If you've ever had the misfortune to watch a gossip campaign from like this from the outside, you will very quickly notice that messages like this get sent in mass batches to dozens and dozens of strangers. (You can often turn these up with a tumblr search, if you look.)

The sender does not know you and probably does not follow you. They have a person they don't like (possibly for their stated reason and possibly not), and they are going through the reblogs of a post from that blog and mass messaging *everyone* with a form letter. They will not see your response and they will probably never even see your blog again.

Which brings us to the second goal of whisper campaigns like this:

Notice that I blacked out the names above? That's because when the recipient answers anonymous asks like this, they provide a platform for the opinion on their blog. An anonymous message like this that gets posted doesn't just spread gossip and apply pressure to the recipient, it is spread to the recipient's entire community.

The *goal* is to get access to your community. The *goal* is to use you as a soapbox.

Is the information accurate? Did anyone check? Does the anon have an ulterior social motive? BIG SHRUG

If you go into the comments on one of these whisper campaigns you will see that *most people never bother to check.*

They assume good faith from a follower, they're off balance defending themselves, and they jump straight to conciliation.

It's a really, really effective form of social manipulation, and really really commonly misused.

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diet talk is so inexpressibly nonsensical the instant you know anything about "the human body" or "nutrition" or if you think about it for three seconds

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