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Hi Annabelle thank you so much, seriously your response meant so much. Especially to hear that you have people in your life experiencing the same thing. It makes me feel less lonely and excited for the future! Sometimes I just feel embarrassed thinking it’s just me experiencing this at 27, so I feel a lot better.

You’re welcome!! Never ever feel embarrassed. Life is full of trails and tribulations and you’re not alone. Good luck out there ❤️

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Hi Annabelle, thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I agree with everything you said. It’s just been hard I feel as if no one is in my position being a 27 year old that had an engagement called off. But I’m going to take your advice and try to see the positive!

If it’s any consolation. I have one 25 year old friend who called off her engagement, a 27 year old friend, a 32 year old friend. I also have a friend in London who is under 30 and divorced and thriving now in the dating world. All of these people are women by the way. Perhaps no strangers or new people you meet are openly talking about their past but I know it’s more common than you think. but if I’m honest, I don’t think it’s something you need to ever lead with or make apparent to someone you’re just getting to know - of course if it comes up and you trust the guy you can be honest but I rarely talk about my ex boyfriends with men A) they don’t care / want to hear about it B) it’s your private and personal life and until you get to know someone (dating consistently) it’s none of their business. Unless of course it’s your personality and you don’t mind to talk about it but I don’t think you need to. Also, I genuinely think anyone you will tell will find it admirable and a great character trait to have the intelligence and strength to do so. Everyone has their own story and baggage and things that have happened in their life - maybe what might help you is focusing your attention on other people’s stories and taking the pressure off yourself.

Also if you don’t already - I think volunteering if you have gone through a break up / change in your life / maybe you’re dealing with anxiety or depression is the best thing you can do. I started in 2023 and this charity I find incredible and it’s change my perspective on life. Maybe something to think about for 2025 ❤️

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Hi anabelle I’m 27 years old and was engaged however it has been called off, I’m originally from Canada but moved to New York with my now ex-fiancé. I truly don’t know where to start (dating again as 27 and being previously engaged) any ideas or thoughts? Thank you

Hi my doll. You’re in basically the greatest city in the world and you’re young. I know the weight of the breakup and end of your engagement must seem massive but you’re in a very generous spot. Newly single in NYC is a dream for most. Try to channel how it might be scary into how much opportunity you have. You don’t need to start anywhere other than focusing on yourself and rebuilding your confidence which I don’t think you should lack any. So many people I know have broken off their engagements and I find it so brave and incredible. Don’t over think and have FUN. Go out and make friends and be stupid and date and explore, you’re in your 20s!!!!! You’ve avoided marrying someone who wasn’t right for you that’s a reason to celebrate and be proud of yourself. Relax, breathe, enjoy your youth and meet a million men. Trust trust trust me you’re exactly where you want to be. If you need anything else or maybe if you need some connections message me on instagram and I can see what I can do. Chin up girl there’s nothing to worry about ❤️

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Previous anon here! Thank you for providing such a sound and gentle response, you’re so sweet ❤️ I live in Toronto and it’s VERY stale in comparison to London (very jealous you’re in such a vibrant, outgoing city!). I went down to King last weekend and it was beyond dead. I loved your advice about being secure with yourself to spot red flags and move on immediately. I’m very quick to attach and that’s something I’ll definitely need to work on before I start dating again. Thanks again! xx

Of course it’s my pleasure. I lived in Toronto for a bit and agreed on the deadness, can be like that sometimes. My friends and I loved going to One lounge at the hazelton in Yorkville, Hemingways, the oxley, dbar, and parc ave for like proper bar vibes. We would meet tons of people. Maybe try these spots if you havent already and have fun - less serious you take dating the more you will attract ❤️

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Just got out of a 4 year relationship and I’m terrified to get back out there! I’m turning 27 soon, not old at all but feels like everyone is paired up already! Do you have any tips for dating? I feel like guys have gotten so much worse (cheating, love bombing, indecisive etc). Also none of my girlfriends have any single guys in their network so the apps are my primary source of action rn

Hi ❤️

I promise you, like truly promise that there are so so many single men out there and you do not have to fear about people being already coupled up. You made brave a really amazing decision ending your last relationship because it wasn’t working - lots of people stay in dead relationships so it really shows that you have tons of self love and you want the best for your self and someone else.

I never go on the apps. I currently just meet men at the pub / restaurants, or through friends maybe. But I’m a very social person and love meeting new people so this is why I’ve never felt like I need apps. I would recommend not going on them either, I think it will mess with your idea of what’s out there, at least for the first while maybe try to just be open to meeting people out.

It’s easier for me as I live in London which is a very social city with lots going on - I’m not sure where you live?

My tips for dating is just to be mentally in a good space, be happy, engaged, not looking around desperately to see if there’s cute guys there just be enjoying yourself and usually the right people end up sitting beside you or coming up to say hi. There’s also nothing wrong with striking up a conversation with someone at the bar when you’re ordering, this is easy and good practice.

Now onto the issue with men today, of course there are going to be love bombers and cheaters but you can’t think that way. You have to trust yourself and your gut and be an intelligent woman and able to see the red flags and move on. There’s shitty men and women everywhere but have faith in yourself that you’ll find someone who is morally sound and who loves and treats you with respect. There are definitely men out there looking to date and be in relationships and love women properly. But if your type is some nonchalant guy who makes you feels confused then of course you’re going to think men are shit. Love bombing is very easy to pick up on.. I will literally stop responding to texts if I feel it’s going in that direction. I can’t be bothered and it turns me off.

I hope this helps a bit. Let me know if there’s anymore specific you need help with or anything. Good luck out there ❤️

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Do you have any comfy sneaker recommendations? I’m liking the look of Puma Palermo’s or Gola sneakers but not sure

Honestly I don’t wear runners other than when I go to the gym.

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What was the brand of your yellow Halloween outfit a few years ago?

I got the top and shorts from etsy! They’re just some vintage brand. Not sure the name :(

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What is the African safari you went on?? It looked amazing … !

My dad organized with a family friend who works for Abercrombie & Kent. Was incredible

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How come you're not working? What kinda volunteer work is it? x

My job ending and I’m doing some travelling in September so will look again in October. The charity is called Smartworks. I volunteer as a dresser - it’s incredible.

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You look like your having the best time in London! What does a typical day look like for you?

London is truly wonderful. Right now I’m not working so it’s mostly gym and then hanging with friends running errands and doing my volunteer work.

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I’m going to London soon which are the best neighbourhoods/areas for pubs, bars, restaurants etc?

What kind of scene do you like? More posh or more chill / fashion / hipster ? Then I can help ❤️ and how old are you?

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You give such good genuine advice 💓 I love your timeless and old school yet progressive and open-minded approach to things. Thank you for answering so many questions all the time and not steering away from things that are “taboo” or stigmatized.

This means the world! Hopefully I can help whoever does ask in some small way 💕

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how can I feel confident in expressing my sexuality again after being celibate for a year? I’ve been single by choice for the last little while (not dating/looking and haven’t had casual sex/one night stands either) I know that you don’t have to actively be having sex to express your sexuality but you get what I mean. I just feel like it’s been so long and I’m like “rusty” if that makes sense lol. I’m normally confident in myself and my sexuality so I know I can get back to that place but I’ve just been feeling so awkward with myself

I honestly feel so in the same boat and relate to this way more than you might think. I do truly truly believe though when you eventually do meet someone who makes you feel comfortable, safe, excited and he makes you feel sexy, it will be like riding a bike. The wrong person will make you feel rusty - trust me. Just go slow! Now that you’ve taken a step back, you’ll be more in-tune with your body and you’ll probably have a more stronger gut feeling about what is feeling good and natural and what’s feeling a bit icky or forced. I’ve had hookups that have made me question myself, like shit I’m not good at even making out lol. and then I’ve made out with someone and felt like I was in a movie cause it was so natural and so much sexual chemistry and that’s when you know it works. So take off alllll of the pressure and date intentionally and go slowly (or not). You don’t need to be some freak or amazing girl at sex. If you’re feeling confident and your with someone who is sure of themselves and the sexual chemistry and mutual respect for each other is there you won’t even have to think you’ll just be flowing and in the moment. I promise! Something to look forward to ❤️❤️

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I’ve been following you since like 2014 and have always loved your name - it suits you so well especially with the way it’s spelled! What made your parents pick it?

That is so kind! I think my mom said she loved the name but didn’t like it with two n’s. she just thought it looked prettier. All my siblings have longer classic names, I think they just liked that.