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Feyre is a good painter. She has a studio where she teaches others how to paint.

She painted in a magical cabin which can clean itself, so if the cabin didn't like the painting it would have cleaned itself. Also people keep forgetting the fact that Mor also painted with Feyre. So the ic is not mad at her for painting because they know what it means to her, how her painting signifies that she is overcoming her trauma. Besides Rhys would give her a hundred more cabins for her to paint

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Nesta is just as delusional as her stans cause what do u mean “As if things had been so miserable with the Archeron family that Feyre had needed to find another one. Had chosen her own.”

Yes … yes it was bad Feyre even painted it “Her paintings sometimes unsettled him. The truths she portrayed weren't always pleasant ones.

He'd gone to her studio a few times to watch her paint. Surprisingly, she had let him.

The first time he'd visited, he'd found Feyre tense at her easel. She was painting what he realized was an emaciated rib cage, so thin he could count most of the bones.

When he spotted a familiar birthmark on the too-thin left arm beside it, he eyed the same mark amid the tattoo on her own extended arm, brush in hand.

He merely nodded to her, an acknowledgment that he understood.

He had never been as thin as Feyre during his own years of poverty, but he understood the hunger in each brushstroke. The desperation. The hollow, empty feeling that felt like those grays and blues and pale, sickly white. The despair of the black pit behind that torso and arm. Death, hovering close like a crow awaiting carrion.

He'd thought about that painting a great deal in the days afterward how it had made him feel, how close they'd all come to losing their High Lady before they'd ever met her.”

Like … Nesta can try and pretend she was this amazing sister and Feyre loved her time with Nesta all she wants but that’s not true Feyre was DYING not just from starvation of food but of love the love a family is supposed to have but Nesta was too spiteful to give.

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One thing I love about Feysand is their wedding, Feyre grew up in poverty and even in the later books we see she’s still frugal, so having a grand wedding with hundreds of people there isn’t something she would want, but she did that for Tamlin because “that’s what’s expected of her as HIS wife” but then we have Rhys and Feyre’s wedding which they did by themselves, they snuck out and married each other in a private ceremony something Feyre would’ve wanted.

And I think that proves the type of men Tamlin and Rhys are in that relationship, feyre had to give up everything to accommodate Tamlin but she only had to be herself for Rhys.

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I had this lovely grl dm me today saying that she was just talking to this Nesta Stan about Nesta then the psycho Nesta Stan said this to her

When I say Nesta stans are ruining the fandom I mean it, ye are nasty horrible people who are so bitter in ur lives u take it out on us for just wanting to enjoy a book, maybe instead of reading acotar u should pick up a self help book cause u Fucking need it. God every Nesta Stan I’ve met on TikTok have been the most HATFUL people and I have Nesta Stan friends in real life and they act nothing like the spoiled brats on TikTok, because unlike them they are not insane, U are ruining Nesta because U can’t disassociate u from her, UR NOT HER, u think the world owes u something for waking up this morning it doesn’t, ur supposed to be grown adults act like it cause a majority of u are acting like children and it’s embarrassing.

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I just saw another white washed Emerie … stop it u weird freaks.

And the people calling Rhys just another white man, do u know how pathetic u look ?

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Y'all don't hate Rhysand or the high king and queen/high lord & lady storyline, you just hate that Feyre has all those things. That's why you write think pieces swapping your fav with Feyre. You WISH the book revolving around your favs was as widely loved as acomaf.

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I’m sorry Nesta stans being insecure over Cassian and Mor, as if they don’t call each other brother and sister and one of them is a LESBIAN! Y’all 😂😂 I’m rolling.

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Yeah, of course I'm going to think that ACOTAR's next couple is Azriel and the girl he only talked to for a few lines and barely interacted with, ignoring the moments he has with the other girl he clearly has feelings for.

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The thing that bothers me is that Feyre Archeron is responsible for saving 3 worlds because she killed a wolf to save her family.

And they still treat the dirt on the bottom of their shoe better then they treat their own sister…. Please put some respect on her name.

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I’m sorry we can’t forget THE SOCIETY

it’s just us girls and our cancelled shows against the world 😔✊

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The claim that Nesta "used her trauma to hurt others" implying intent is a nuanced one. While it's unlikely that Nesta deliberately set out to inflict harm,

I just wanna add these screenshots again where it shows Nesta’s intentions to hurt others,

U said “The contrast between how Nesta treats Gwyn and Emerie versus Feyre is also telling. It highlights her capacity to form meaningful, respectful relationships, raising questions about why she couldn't extend that same consideration to Feyre earlier. This disparity isn't meant to excuse her actions but rather to underscore her flaws, making her eventual growth more impactful for some readers -but understandably unsatisfying for others.” I truly think that shows how much more of an abuser she is, abusers love to use then abandon their victims, her behaviour towards the valks just shows what type of sister relationship she was capable of having yet she chose feyre as unworthy of that behaviour she hated her (which she admitted) even tho feyre 19.

And u brought up Nesta going after feyre this is actually a great point because it shows Nesta was capable of braving the woods and as we learned in ACOSF she was thought archery from feyre in hopes she’d help sustain the family but she didn’t. Nesta Elain and their useless father only show up for feyre after she needs them, Nesta going after her after feyre was standing in front of her entire family willing to become a possible slave for them, Elain cuddling her after feyre braved Hybern camp for her and lastly their stupid father who rode Nesta’s ship to save them (which is a whole other debate 😂) and u can debate that Nesta realised the harm of her actions when she went after feyre but then she still abused her in the 4 books after.

To me Nesta is the poster child of what abusers think they are, while people who have been abused by a Nesta see that she really hasn’t changed but she thinks she has, while a lot of people who are like Nesta think that she’s changed so much, it really depends on ur perspective and personal experience with a person like Nesta

I have started to like Elains character more these in the recent books but I really need Sjm to put a scene where elain and feyre talk about what happened in the in book 1 and she apologizes and tries to better herself for it cuz if sjm puts another excuse, for the sisters, for neglecting feyre and just leaves it like that, like nothing happened, that's going to be so disappointing 😞....and I feel like ill dislike elain characters afterwards.

Although I don’t really like Elain I do pity her, like she was as much a victim of Nesta as everyone else, but I one hundred percent agree there needs to be a long talk and apology.

To me Elain is like an abused wife, and I don’t mean this in a nasty way but it’s her trauma response like so many poor women, but their family dynamic is the abusive husband his passive wife and the abused children household , Nesta is the husband, she is the image the “typical man” they has so much pent up anger that they take their trauma and pass it onto everybody else they don’t care for anyone else only how they can get that anger out and put it onto others. Their trauma is YOUR responsibility. Elain is the wife she see hears and endured the abuse but she doesn’t leave she stays in hopes someday it will get better, she see the best in Nesta and wants everyone else to see that too but the bad days FAR outweigh to good days, she acts oblivious to the abuse surrounding her because if she can ignore it it doesn’t exist and finally Feyre is the abused child she, endured both Nesta’s abuse and Elain’s neglect, she was a child dealing with adult issues, she sees Nesta and Elain for everything that they are and she will hate them for the rest of her life, but she will always love them more, just like every abused child you hate your parents so much but you can never stop loving them no matter how much u try, she wants to not be responsible for them but she doesn’t know anything else she’s been raising them her entire life, but because of the abuse she endured from them she will be the person to break that cycle, she will look and Nyx someday and hate them even more for putting her through that.

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Ok let’s talk about it :

Trauma Is Not an Excuse, but It Is an Explanation u are exactly right, but Nesta and her stans continue to excuse the abuse she inflicted because she was hurt and a lot of her stans actually turn out to be nasty people bullying and mocking strangers on the internet because they don’t like Nesta a lot of these stans are like Nesta and that’s not a compliment. And secondly my main goal in this fandom is to stop normalising this excuse that abusers can’t control themselves because they had trauma “Nesta is portrayed as both a victim and an aggressor, a duality that reflects the complexity of human nature rather than excusing her harmful behavior” becoming an abuser because u can’t control urself isn’t normal and people normalising this behaviour is the most disgusting and dangerous thing to be honest.

Acknowledgment of Abuse Does Not Negate Accountability:

What accountability? Nesta and Elain only show feyre love and affection after she needs it, like Nesta saving her happens after feyre dies. She realises after feyre died that she actually loves her, even before she became fae, feyre confessed about the abuse she endured under Tamlin and nesta didn’t care and that it only “irked her” and she still hasn’t apologised or even admitted to FEYRE that she was bad, admitting to herself does nothing. And we know she was capable of loving her sisters because she was to treat Gwyn and Emerie with that respect, it just shows the type of person Nesta is.

“To claim that Nesta "used her trauma to hurt others" implies intent, which may oversimplify the complexities of her character.

U don’t see intent in these comments? And I’m not over simplifying her character all the characters in acotar are easy to understand Nesta is just an abuser it’s not hard to grasp.

The idea that we're all traumatised, but nothing gives anyone the right to hurt others" is a valid moral stance, yet literature often explores the gray areas of human behavior-where ideals clash with lived realities. But why are we normalising it we shouldn’t no one should have to right to hurt others cause their hurt that’s my point but u keep missing it, normalising this type of behaviour is sooo dangerous and disgusting we need to stop abusers like Nesta are just abusers and we need to call them that.

If u haven’t read cc3 I understand but Nesta hasn’t redeemed or reflected she’s still as nasty as she was all the books.

Also there is no evidence that SJM said there will be betrayal that was made up by a bunch of sad Nesta stans who want to make more evil.

And it’s clear u like Nesta because I’ve gone to all these lengths justifying her abuse but the fact is not everyone who has been a victim of something like Nesta isn’t going to be as docile as feyre real victims in that situation will actually stand up and tbh I actually hate SJMs writing because she is able to make feyre brave and witty with everyone else except her abusers there she is meek and a pushover.

I have started to like Elains character more these in the recent books but I really need Sjm to put a scene where elain and feyre talk about what happened in the in book 1 and she apologizes and tries to better herself for it cuz if sjm puts another excuse, for the sisters, for neglecting feyre and just leaves it like that, like nothing happened, that's going to be so disappointing 😞....and I feel like ill dislike elain characters afterwards.

Although I don’t really like Elain I do pity her, like she was as much a victim of Nesta as everyone else, but I one hundred percent agree there needs to be a long talk and apology.

To me Elain is like an abused wife, and I don’t mean this in a nasty way but it’s her trauma response like so many poor women, but their family dynamic is the abusive husband his passive wife and the abused children household , Nesta is the husband, she is the image the “typical man” they has so much pent up anger that they take their trauma and pass it onto everybody else they don’t care for anyone else only how they can get that anger out and put it onto others. Their trauma is YOUR responsibility. Elain is the wife she see hears and endured the abuse but she doesn’t leave she stays in hopes someday it will get better, she see the best in Nesta and wants everyone else to see that too but the bad days FAR outweigh to good days, she acts oblivious to the abuse surrounding her because if she can ignore it it doesn’t exist and finally Feyre is the abused child she, endured both Nesta’s abuse and Elain’s neglect, she was a child dealing with adult issues, she sees Nesta and Elain for everything that they are and she will hate them for the rest of her life, but she will always love them more, just like every abused child you hate your parents so much but you can never stop loving them no matter how much u try, she wants to not be responsible for them but she doesn’t know anything else she’s been raising them her entire life, but because of the abuse she endured from them she will be the person to break that cycle, she will look and Nyx someday and hate them even more for putting her through that.

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U see I do believe Elain was abused, her being so sheltered that she’s dependant on Nesta is an abuse victim. She acts like a child because she knows nothing else because she was shown nothing else.

And u mentioned how Nesta was abused by her mother and grandmother hate to break it to u but they all had the same mother and grandmother, even Nesta admitted feyre suffered the most from their mother, yes Nesta was going to be sold off to further the family but so was Elain and feyre there’s a part in the book where Nesta remembers her mother saying it will be up to Nesta and her mother to sell Elain off.

This is another point Nesta ABUSED everyone and her feeling guilty for that won’t take away that she’s still an abuser.

My main point is SJM loves to romanticise abuse in her books, and although the sisters don’t hold it against each other for what they did not everyone will be as forgiving, you can’t treat people so badly that they hear your voice in their head abusing them and think all is forgotten because u were abused, Nesta was abused her her mother and grandmother and I pity her for that but Feyre was abused by nesta their mother and grandmother because Nesta couldn’t control herself and used her abuse as an excuse to hurt Feyre even though feyre went through the exact same thing.

And u said silver flames was about Nesta’s journey to healing where she hasn’t changed as is evident in cc3. U can excuse her bad behaviour saying we just don’t understand her like u do but actually the people who were abused by a Nesta know her more then the people who are nesta’s ever will.

My main problem with all this is we’re excusing abusive behaviour in the guise of they were traumatised, hate to break it to u we’re all traumatised but nothing gives ANYONE the right to hurt others because they were hurt.

U are exactly right much of who we become as adults stems from our childhood experiences, which is exactly y I hate Nesta, she saw what it was like to be abused she loved it and HATED it yet she continued the cycle she did that. Nesta knew better but she still chose to use her trauma to inflict more on others.

I have started to like Elains character more these in the recent books but I really need Sjm to put a scene where elain and feyre talk about what happened in the in book 1 and she apologizes and tries to better herself for it cuz if sjm puts another excuse, for the sisters, for neglecting feyre and just leaves it like that, like nothing happened, that's going to be so disappointing 😞....and I feel like ill dislike elain characters afterwards.

Although I don’t really like Elain I do pity her, like she was as much a victim of Nesta as everyone else, but I one hundred percent agree there needs to be a long talk and apology.

To me Elain is like an abused wife, and I don’t mean this in a nasty way but it’s her trauma response like so many poor women, but their family dynamic is the abusive husband his passive wife and the abused children household , Nesta is the husband, she is the image the “typical man” they has so much pent up anger that they take their trauma and pass it onto everybody else they don’t care for anyone else only how they can get that anger out and put it onto others. Their trauma is YOUR responsibility. Elain is the wife she see hears and endured the abuse but she doesn’t leave she stays in hopes someday it will get better, she see the best in Nesta and wants everyone else to see that too but the bad days FAR outweigh to good days, she acts oblivious to the abuse surrounding her because if she can ignore it it doesn’t exist and finally Feyre is the abused child she, endured both Nesta’s abuse and Elain’s neglect, she was a child dealing with adult issues, she sees Nesta and Elain for everything that they are and she will hate them for the rest of her life, but she will always love them more, just like every abused child you hate your parents so much but you can never stop loving them no matter how much u try, she wants to not be responsible for them but she doesn’t know anything else she’s been raising them her entire life, but because of the abuse she endured from them she will be the person to break that cycle, she will look and Nyx someday and hate them even more for putting her through that.

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I have started to like Elains character more these in the recent books but I really need Sjm to put a scene where elain and feyre talk about what happened in the in book 1 and she apologizes and tries to better herself for it cuz if sjm puts another excuse, for the sisters, for neglecting feyre and just leaves it like that, like nothing happened, that's going to be so disappointing 😞....and I feel like ill dislike elain characters afterwards.

Although I don’t really like Elain I do pity her, like she was as much a victim of Nesta as everyone else, but I one hundred percent agree there needs to be a long talk and apology.

To me Elain is like an abused wife, and I don’t mean this in a nasty way but it’s her trauma response like so many poor women, but their family dynamic is the abusive husband his passive wife and the abused children household , Nesta is the husband, she is the image the “typical man” they has so much pent up anger that they take their trauma and pass it onto everybody else they don’t care for anyone else only how they can get that anger out and put it onto others. Their trauma is YOUR responsibility. Elain is the wife she see hears and endured the abuse but she doesn’t leave she stays in hopes someday it will get better, she see the best in Nesta and wants everyone else to see that too but the bad days FAR outweigh to good days, she acts oblivious to the abuse surrounding her because if she can ignore it it doesn’t exist and finally Feyre is the abused child she, endured both Nesta’s abuse and Elain’s neglect, she was a child dealing with adult issues, she sees Nesta and Elain for everything that they are and she will hate them for the rest of her life, but she will always love them more, just like every abused child you hate your parents so much but you can never stop loving them no matter how much u try, she wants to not be responsible for them but she doesn’t know anything else she’s been raising them her entire life, but because of the abuse she endured from them she will be the person to break that cycle, she will look and Nyx someday and hate them even more for putting her through that.

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This isn’t a safe space, but I’ll say it anyway.

I really hate that whenever Elriels talk about their (valid and canon) reasons for either not liking Gw*nriel or not believing that it’s endgame, it feels like we HAVE to say that it’s not because we hate Gw*n.

We always have to reassure antis that we still think Gw*n is great and wonderful and it has nothing to do with her character! That she’s super cool and we love her, she’s just not right for Azriel!

But Gw*nriels (and even some El*ciens…😒) have NO problem hating on Elain. In fact, half the time it seems like the main reason they ship Gw*nriel is BECAUSE they hate Elain. They’d rather see Azriel with anyone else, as long as it’s not Elain.

Yet Elriels have to go overboard on how much they still like Gw*n, otherwise we’ll get “you just hate women!” comments. Even though antis don’t have that same energy concerning Elain.

I’ve never seen an Elriel straight up HATE on Gw*n. Thinking she might be a lightsinger, isn’t hating her. Saying that she’s a side character whose main purpose was to be Nesta’s friend, isn’t hating her. Not thinking Gw*n is going to be the next FMC and be super important/badass to the main ACOTAR plot, isn’t hating her.

So, I’ll say my peace about Gw*n.

I truly don’t care about this character. In fact, I forgot she existed until I came into the online fandom. She has never been important to me, and I don’t find her that interesting/cool in general. I don’t think she’s that important to the story, either. She could never show up in ACOTAR again, and I would not care or miss her. And you know what? Neither would a majority of the characters in ACOTAR. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Antis have given her more importance and personality than the actual books do. So anytime I see “well Gw*n will be heartbroken if Az doesn’t choose her” I have to laugh. No she won’t. They’re not together. She has shown no signs of feelings for him. She was a side character for Nesta, can antis PLEASE stop self-inserting themselves onto her simply because she is the only other single female in the series that has talked to Azriel and has no flaws (because she’s isn’t important enough to have flaws)?

Anyways, thanks for coming to my TED talk.

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This wasn't romantic. Cassian would do that for anyone. He feels it's his job to take care of Nesta for the good of the Night Court cause he knows that she can be used as a political pawn or weapon!! He just wants a mating bond cause he's envious of Feysand!

SEE? Cassian feels WARMTH AND WELCOME AND DELICIOUS when he's with Emerie, NOTHING like when he feels when he's with Nesta!!! And Emerie WATCHES HIM. MATES!!!!

THAT IS SUCH MATE BEHAVIOR.

Begging antis to understand this is how they sound to the rest of us.

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Just because you hate Feyre and Rhysand doesn’t mean I need to and it’s weird that antis try so hard to make everyone as miserable as they are.