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now that george floyd’s murderer is behind bars, let’s help support the people who helped with the guilty verdict as well as george’s family. the fight is hardly over.

darnella’s fund - darnella was the young woman who filmed george’s last moments.

gianna’s fund - george’s daughter who has now been left without a father.

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Female fantasies of things like freedom, a quiet life away from prying eyes, closeness with nature and independence are forfeit, corrupt, colonialist, capitalist, sinister, cruel, violent, etc, but male fantasies of women as fuckdolls with no inner lives are normal and healthy and cannot be criticized 

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The kid truly care about our planet more than adults and politicians

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self undiagnosing there's nothing wrong with me

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Frenchwoman Who Killed Her Abusive Husband Won’t Serve More Jail Time

CHALON-SUR-SAÔNE, France — Valérie Bacot was just 12 when her stepfather began raping her. After a stint in prison for abusing her, he returned to the family home and resumed the rapes, she said. The two eventually settled together, for what Ms. Bacot said were 18 years of repeated beatings, sexual assaults and forced prostitution.

“At first it was slaps, then kicks, punches and he would strangle me,” Ms. Bacot, a frail 40-year-old woman, told a French court in emotional testimony this week, recounting how she was “afraid to die every day.”

Until the day she killed Daniel Polette, her former stepfather who became her husband.

On Friday, a court sentenced Ms. Bacot to a four-year prison term, with three years suspended, meaning she would not face further incarceration since she has already served one year in prison.

“This means, madam, that you will leave this court free,” a judge told Ms. Bacot, as her family sitting behind her burst into tears and applauded the decision.

The court’s ruling, which considered the murder premeditated but also acknowledged that Ms. Bacot’s judgment had been altered by the abuse she suffered, could set a powerful precedent in France, where domestic violence is a chronic problem.

Ms. Bacot’s case has drawn national attention in France and has served as a rallying point for advocates for domestic abuse victims.

The ruling Friday comes as France has experienced a #MeToo moment that came late to the country, as allegations of sexual abuse against powerful figures forced a reckoning and prompted the government to overhaul legislation on sex between adults and minors.

For five days, the wood-paneled courtroom in Chalon-sur-Saône, a quiet town in France’s central Burgundy region, was the scene of chilling accounts detailing the many flaws that led to tragedy. The court heard of the psychological grip that Mr. Polette had over his stepdaughter, then wife; the authorities’ inaction; and silence from relatives — all of which raised an uncomfortable question: Who was the real victim in this case? Mr. Polette, the murdered abuser, or Ms. Bacot, the abused murderer?

Ms. Bacot recounted her story in a book published last month, “Tout le monde savait” (“Everyone Knew”), which detailed the relentless misery of her life. When she was 12, Mr. Polette became the partner of her divorced mother and soon coerced the daughter into sex. He was jailed for sexual assault against Ms. Bacot, but was allowed to return to the family home after three years in prison and resumed the abuse, she said, while her mother turned a blind eye.

“Nobody seemed to find it bizarre that Daniel came back to live with us as if nothing had happened,” Ms. Bacot wrote in her book.

At age 17, Ms. Bacot had a child with Mr. Polette and moved in with him. Three more children followed, all living under the grip of an alcoholic and compulsive father who instilled fear in the family and often threatened to kill Ms. Bacot, she said. The two were married when Ms. Bacot was 27, and Mr. Polette was 53.

After a few years, Ms. Bacot said Mr. Polette forced her into prostitution. For 11 years, he made her have sex with clients in the back of his car, giving her instructions through an earpiece, she said. Ms. Bacot’s children told the court that they learned about it when they found business cards their father had made, with the words “escort girl” written on them.

Ms. Bacot said that she knew she had to act after Mr. Polette asked their daughter about her budding sexuality, raising fears that he would soon turn on her.

On March 13, 2016, after she was raped by a client, Ms. Bacot said, she took a pistol her husband had hidden in his car and shot her husband in the back of the head.

The main questions driving the court’s deliberations this week was whether Ms. Bacot was the real victim in this case and if her crime amounted to self-defense.

Her lawyers and experts said that the psychological hold was such that her state of mind was altered and that the killing was the only way out.

“She could not resort to the law,” Denis Prieur, a psychiatrist, told the court. “There is no other possibility than to make him disappear.”

Nathalie Tomasini, one of the lawyers, said that there was no legal text in France defending battered woman accused of murder, as there is in Canada, where the argument of self-defense in such cases can be used.

But the prosecutor also took into account Ms. Bacot’s enduring suffering, requesting only a five-year jail term, of which four years would be suspended. Ms. Bacot, overwhelmed with emotion because she had expected a more severe request, passed out for a few minutes.

The court’s jury decided to further reduce the requested sentence, arguing that the psychological grip that Mr. Polette had over his wife had altered her judgment. The jury also showed consideration for the abuses Ms. Bacot had long suffered.

Ms. Bacot’s case strongly resembled that of Jacqueline Sauvage, who was sentenced in France to 10 years in prison in 2014 for killing her abusive husband, leading to similarly fierce debates about self-defense in cases of abuse. Ms. Sauvage was eventually granted a presidential pardon in 2016, after she had become a symbol for the fight against domestic violence.

Domestic violence has become a growing issue in France, where 146 women were killed by their current or former partner in 2019, according to government data, an increase of 21 percent from 2018. The government has introduced new measures to combat the problem, like more education and more social workers in police stations, but many activists say the efforts do not go far enough and are underfunded.

Ahead of the verdict on Friday, more than 700,000 people had signed a petition demanding that Ms. Bacot be cleared of any charge.

Ms. Bacot’s children told the court that they went twice to the police in the early 2010s to report their father, but that no action was taken. The police said they had found no trace of these exchanges.

On Wednesday, Ms. Bacot’s lawyers, who also defended Ms. Sauvage, said they had taken legal action against the French state for failing to investigate the case.

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not to be my grandma but when i say social media is actually the devil i mean it and i find it so sad that there are preteen girls or young teenage girls out there who feel the need to wear a full face of makeup and clothes that typically older girls wear because older teenage girls and young women make up most of their media consumption and shape their beauty ideals and make them forget that they're children. and the worst part is if you point this out and propose that maybe there's something wrong with wearing a full face of makeup and posting thirst traps when you're thirteen those young girls get so defensive and offended as if you criticize them personally, like i know you feel the need to do this and it's all you see, but it's literally not normal.......the women around you who point it out are not "jealous because your eyeliner wing is sharper than theirs" they're worried and scared for you as a child who is very obviously losing their childhood and being convinced to think that you need to grow up and go from 12 to 17 because your media consumption consists solely of older teenagers

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1. Manterruptors

In every workshop, conference, meeting, discussion group or classroom conversation, there is usually at least one guy who wins this title.

It’s so common in multi-gendered situations to witness men talking out of turn, interrupting other people while they’re talking, or completely disregarding the allotted time-limit a facilitator has set for individual questions or comments.

These men will often highjack the conversation and/or derail its original topic in order to match their own personal interests.

In these contexts its also common for men to go off on lengthy diatribes in order to show off how much they know about a subject.

Sometimes, in an attempt to be polite, a man will raise their hands over and over again to make comments despite the fact that their opinions have been heard way more than anybody else in the room already.

“Misogynistic?” you might ask, skeptically. Isn’t that kind of behavior just plain rude?

The answer is yes – regardless of who you are, these kinds of behaviors are just plain rude. But the larger question I would pose is: What possesses a person to act this way in the first place? Who is it that feels comfortable (or oblivious) of dominating space in this way?

My point? It is a misogynistic sense of entitlement that encourages men to think that what they have to say is more important or valuable than anybody else.

Check that shit: Move Up, Move Back.

2. Emotional Labor Dodgers

I was commiserating with a friend recently about how the relationships we have with men in our lives often feel one-sided when it comes to emotional support.

Because men are discouraged from sharing their feelings with one another – or from having feelings at all for that matter – their friendships with women and gender non-conforming folks tend to be sort of default safe-spaces for them to express and process their feelings without judgment.

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Royal cat

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Cougar (Puma concolor)

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people are so fucking stupid like 😭 people saying “some 13 year old GENUINELY like dressing up to look like adults and sexualizing themselves bc it makes them feel good about themselves!!1!” like.. have you ever considered why that makes them feel “good” in the first place?? why would a thirteen year old girl spend hours on makeup and tons of her parents money on clothes made for adults if she’s not being influenced to think that that’s what she needs to do to feel good about herself.. i just refuse to believe that any 13 year old girl (or any girl for that matter but that’s a different story) LIKES to sexualize herself without any outside influences. people don’t exist in a vacuum and some of you are GENUINELY stupid

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It’s only “exclusion” if you have a right to be there. You can’t be excluded from a place you never belonged in in the first place.

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“Even a cockroach has a face.”

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Fiona Apple reading the ‘When the Pawn..’ poem in 1997

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how long have you been on tumblr?

5 minutes on this site is too long honestly

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Koi-Yamagata Station

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A weird thing becoming radfem did was make me despise (right wing) libertarianism even more but also make me gravitate towards the free speech absolutist stance. I think “MuH free market” is BS in general, but that free marketplace of ideas is looking real good right now. I can see with my own eyes, with this “terf” witch hunt, how important free speech and open discourse is. I can see that the ones censoring and silencing are almost certainly the ones in the wrong, just wiping out ideological opponents because they simply can’t respond. So many of us have described the exact same journey of first being in (mainstream) progressive/feminist/leftist spaces being told that “terfs” are evil bigots akin to Nazis and puppy-murderers, being told to block and stay safe in the echo chamber, then eventually getting the nerve to see for ourselves what the “terfs” are saying and the rest is history. While libfems barricade themselves inside their culty echo chamber and shut down any critical thought with mantras, radfems do the opposite. Hell, I remember seeing a post somewhere, I think on Ovarit, of radfems encouraging each other to read Whipping Girl by Julia Serrano and other transfeminist literature so we can understand where they’re coming from. I see no such thing on the other side, when JK Rowling dropped her infamous essay last year I deadass saw trans activists dissuading people from reading it, essentially telling them that they’ve done the reading and the thinking for them. People with robust and rational beliefs don’t need to hide behind blocklists. Again like I said I’m not a free-marketeer, but the one area in which I align with Lolberts, where I agree that the government should just gtfo, is speech. Now we have women being put in jail over tweets, women being investigated over accurate comments (and yes it is WOMEN, I’ve yet to hear of any man policed for such “transphobia”, even men who beat trans women bloody get less fucking punishment than a woman with a ribbon). It’s funny how the same types yelling ACAB and fuck the police have no qualms about using the police state against women they don’t agree with. I see just how little anyone can be trusted to define “hate” because their definition will always default to “whatever hurts feefees”, regardless of how important the conversation is and how their self-righteous crusade is tangibly hurting other people.

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For the record, I dont think white women are absolved of being complicit in America's racist history and overall racism I just think there is this trend nowadays to pretend like white women are the epitome of privilege when in reality, women of all races experience misogyny from men from all races. White women obviously can be/are racist towards women and men of color but they can also experience misogyny because they're women regardless of their race.