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once you start thinking "idk if I want [transition related surgery] but if I could magically just have the results from it I would agree to it in a heartbeat"

then you gotta acknowledge that you actually do know that you want that surgery. the thing you're not sure about is whether or not you can endure the process of getting and recovering from the surgery.

and you'll never know the answer to that actual question unless you start seriously looking into it and researching what that process is like and what things you'd need to do in order to make it happen.

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there will always be other chances. at jobs, at educational progress, at relationships, at friendships. if you messed up at something, it’s not the end of the world. you’ll always have new opportunities in all areas of life.

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A very tired unicorn has a cozy midday depression nap

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"penetrate" is not the most intimate thing you can do to someone or even in the top five. a recent survey actually ranked it at #74, far below fan favorites like tend wounds (#8) and betray (#3)

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something has gone deeply wrong when "focusing pragmatically on issues you can influence and working to make life better for yourself and your community" is considered an unserious distraction while "endlessly exposing yourself to media about distressing situations you can't control" is considered political engagement

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The Selkie and Her Family

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Committing to the bit so hard you actually start thinking all the technology on the set is real

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americans, do you know where your family is from? (as in ancestry)

yes because i/my parents/grandparents immigrated here

yes, i can track where most of my ancestors came from

yes, because i took a DNA test

i know the general area but not specific places*

i know about half of it

i know bits and pieces but am not sure

i only know the continent(s)

i have little to no knowledge of my ancestry

infinitely nuanced answer

not american button

*as in, “i know im from west africa” or “most of my family comes from eastern europe”

*as in, “I know I'm from west africa” or “most of my family comes from eastern europe”

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The wambulance

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One very stupid thing that bothers me in historical romances and fanfic is the fact that male characters often take off shirts but stay in their breeches. The breeches aren’t the last layer of underwear, the shirt is. The shirt is the body linen— that’s the thing that goes against the skin and is the first thing to be put on and the last thing to be taken off— that’s the thing that is sewn by hand by wife/ sister/ daughter/ mother partly out of a lack of extensive manufacturing but because it is the most intimate layer of clothing and you don’t want a stranger’s work against your skin.

Is it just because to modern eyes it would look silly? Is this a case of “I got too interested in the material culture of body linens in the Regency era and now I know too much to enjoy myself”??

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E.M. Forster from Maurice (1971)

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you dont have to be a picklepuss to enjoy sinking your teeth into the green, juicy, crisp fruit of the improved cucumber 

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some of y'all fundamentally misunderstand my favorite characters but im being sooooo normal and mature about it. i haven't even killed anyone yet

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You discover that you have control over a certain thing, as determined by spinning this wheel. We're talking full-on magical girl/superhero/supervillain/your label of choice control.

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two wonderful things i saw online today