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The best clip of this show was this shout out to other dramas. 😂 Drama is The Forbidden Marriage.

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Kdramas I have watched in recent months on my own without Alexis (bc she’s still recovering from her stroke):

Dr Slump (Enjoyed it. Really sweet RomCom that talked about mental health in a good way imo. Netflix)

Parasyte: the Grey (loved it. Netflix. Paranormal/horror show where aliens overtook human bodies.)

Strong Girl on Netflix. (Skip it. The original on Viki was way more entertaining, less cringe worthy, and not even comparable tbh).

Lovely Runner (was not a fan for multiple reasons. I went in further detail on my profile if you're that curious. This show was on Viki. Romantic comedy with a crime aspect and time travel. There are far better time travel shows like Twinkling Watermelon that doesn’t have as many ableist tropes).

DNA Lover (not thrilled. It was meant to be a comedy, but there were so many cringe worthy moments on this RomCom. The second lead treated her way better than the main lead as well).

Miss Night and Day (loved it. Netflix. Comedy with a paranormal twist. Female lead turns old in the day, young at night).

My Sweet Mobster (loved it. Viki. Comedy with crime aspect bc of the whole gang/mobster theme).

Sweet Home season 2 & 3 (Loved it. If you liked the first season I think you’ll also enjoy these last two. Netflix. Monster horror).

The Spies who Loved Me (Enjoyed it. Netflix. A comedy. The name says it all! Two spies love the same woman. I just have one episode left but have enjoyed it, even if the main lead was not hot. Feat. Alexis’ special boy from Bride of Habaek [he’s still her icon on her profile @terminalsecondleadsyndrome ] who I’ve enjoyed watching bc he’s way prettier.)

Serendipity’s Love (available on Viki. Stereotypical, but had cute moments. Not bad if you want a straight up romcom. But there are definitely better ones out there. Feat the female lead from Let’s Fight Ghost, Love Alarm, Tale of Nokdu and many more. She’s been a busy actress! Get that coin.)

Gyeongseong Creature (Monster Netflix show. First season is set in Japanese occupied Korea, and dealt with human experiments, which not everyone will be comfortable with. So trigger warning for parallels with reality. If you liked Sweet Home though, you might be interested in this one too. Just starting season two.)

Joseon Attorney (Viki, historical. Definitely didn't mind, had funny and sweet moments while also being interesting.)

Just started Love Next Door on Netflix after the election results bc I needed a mindless romcom. Only three episodes in so far, but its been okay.

I’m glad I ended up enjoying most of them! It’s been a good run for now. I hadn't watched as much for a bit because of class, but it sounds like Alexis and I will be back to our shenanigans soon. A few of these will likely make it on the watch list (esp Joseon Attorney bc she loves both the guys in that one). What were your thoughts on these shows? Any you liked but didn't see listed?

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You can’t tell me this man was not h*mping the ground. 😂 All bc a mole was too basic of a disguise lmao.

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Yes I have already finished the show. No Alexis hasn’t caught up yet, or else I’d be re-posting her memes too.

If anyone else has seen the show, you know what I mean. If not… enjoy:

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Also my mom saying the same exact thing I was thinking with her shoving her fingers in her mouth to try and find the fly. 💀 “She’s gonna make herself throw up.” I’ve had the same exact reaction when I think a bug has flown up my nose. Also sorry about the dog sounds. 😅

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Sorry, went to grab some real data, now I'm back:

Depression is common among people who are paralyzed. While about 10 percent of the U.S. non-disabled population is said to be moderately or severely depressed, research shows that about 20 to 30 percent of people with long-term disabilities are living with depression. Thankfully, most forms of depression can be treated...

Thoughts of suicide often occur when things look most hopeless. In spinal cord injury, for example, risk of suicide is highest in the first five years after the injury when people are still navigating their new world.

https://www.christopherreeve.org/todays-care/living-with-paralysis/health/depression/

Seems pretty realistic for a girl who just got paralyzed to be depressed and suicidal. Seems pretty backed up by the data.

Pt II.

You decided to post this. So I’m gonna answer how I want, because it’s my blog.

Nowhere in my post did I say people who become disabled don’t experience depression. I said I didn’t like the show perpetuating the idea that people feel that way after an injury like that.

Do you know how many people are told to kill themselves for simply existing as a disabled person in society? Do you know the amount of times I’ve seen people comment, “I would kill myself if I ever became that way.”? Too many times to count. If people read it all the time or hear it all the time from loved ones in their lives, that impacts how they will feel when actually in that situation themselves (especially at a young age). This type of ‘conditioning’ can lead to people having more suicidal ideations if they end up physically disabled at a young age.

It just felt like the plot line in Lovely Runner was perpetuating that to me. Especially because it was used as a plot point in their love story. That did not sit right with me. A big reason for her falling in love with him was because of his ‘talking her down’ in the first episode. The subject could have been talked about, without it being a part of how she fell in love with him. That’s what I took issue with.

The only way to make a difference in how people feel about becoming disabled is to properly educate society on the subject, to prevent the stigma that leads to depression and suicidal ideations. The vast majority of societies are failing in that respect. As Crutches and Spice always says about disability, “The only thing separating me from you, is luck and time”.

It can be really hard to come to terms with disability, I know it because I’ve experienced that struggle. I had to cope with my own internalized ableism. I didn’t even know there was a term for that the first couple of years, and my illnesses have only become worse with time. The only thing that has changed is my acceptance of the situation and a good support system.

Many who are disabled don’t identify as such because there is so much stigma around the word and being labeled as such.

Long story short, expressing my thoughts about the situation does not negate your thoughts about it. If we don’t agree, we don’t agree.

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As to your Lovely Runner critique, I'm not a wheelchair user, but having depression right after a life-altering accident is pretty common. Sun-jae is able to help Im Sol with her depression because he was depressed after injuring his arm and becoming unable to swim competitively anymore.

I find it very realistic for someone to have depression after an injury like that. I don't feel like that is "abelist"

Pt I. Full response in Pt II.

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😂 why did this crack me up so much? Miss Night and Day has been hilarious.

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Am I in the minority of not absolutely loving Lovely Runner? Spoilers under the cut.

Like that ableism in the first episode made me uncomfortable as a wheelchair user and frustrated. Her grabbing glass to slit her wrists bc being in a wheelchair is the worst thing that could ever happen made me ill to my stomach. Yeah he talked some sense into her on that phone call, but it was still frustrating to watch the show make that a big reason why she fell in love with him. That did not sit right with me. Also, she ended up cured and out of the wheelchair thanks to the magic of the watch sending her back in time. Making a character no longer disabled is one of the most ableist tropes. It would have been so nice to have a strong disabled character who learned to cope, but we didn’t get that.

The relationship dynamic also gave off stalker vibes in almost every timeline. The flashbacks didn’t really change my mind either. Byeon Woo-Seok is fine af and I’ve been a fan for years. Loved him in Record of Youth even if the show was a bit slow and Park Bo Gum was the first lead [this was one of my first big cases of second lead syndrome tbh], Joseon Marriage Agency, and Moonshine. I was glad he finally had a leading role, but I was disappointed in the plot/writing of this show. This role for Kim Hye-Yoon was very similar to her role in Extraordinary You (which irritated me just like her role in this show, but a big chunk of that dislike is the writing of the character to be fair. She’s doing what she’s directed to do as an actor and I can’t hold that against her too much). I def preferred the plot when they were with their friends actually acting like teens. Don’t get me started on the awkwardness of her bestie and older brother ending up together. The main gal’s mom and granny were my favs tho. Anyway, long story short I was disappointed. Yeah they were lovey dovey whenever the writers allowed, but it just didn’t give the same vibe as my other fav couples if that makes sense.

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The fox has broken the tiger's spine. EXHUMA 파묘 (2024) dir. Jang Jae-hyun

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Guess what show I started. 😂 it’s only six episodes and I’m halfway through already.

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Talk about iconic cameos. 😂 Also there’s multiple actors from Vincenzo with parts in Queen of Tears if you didn’t know, including the little bro of the villain playing a brother again. He’s so expressive and he’s a bit of a doofus in this show too, but he has a heart of gold and he got his heart broken, and I just want to protect him. 😭 Also we just finished episode 9. It’s been one of my fav shows this year.

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My latest obsession has been Big Ocean, which is a kpop group made up of three Hard of Hearing members (although they just posted an open casting call looking to expand the group the other week). They all use hearing aids, and the band incorporates a unique combination of Korean Sign Language, American Sign Language, International Sign Language, and traditional dance moves. They had their debut on South Korea’s Persons With Disabilities Day.

Pictured left to right: Chanyeon, Hyunjin, and Jiseok.

Currently they have two singles out, Glow and Blow which are available on iTunes. My personal favorite is Blow (it’s even catchier imo), but they’ve created dances for both songs with sign language that fans can dance to as well. They’ve also posted how the dances can be adapted for wheelchair users, which made me incredibly happy as someone who is a wheelchair user.

You can find out more about them here with a great in depth interview. But I follow them on TikTok and they’re live everyday, constantly working hard. I’ve seen them practicing various sign languages, English and other languages that fans are teaching them in their chats, their dances, making their TikTok’s, and more. They’ve even performed at one of the most famous broadcasting stations in Korea and their debut performance to Glow was aired on Kocowa. But they all seem really sweet, and I’m impressed by the fact that they released behind the scenes footage of how hard it was for them to record.

Some of my enjoying them and their music might be because music has always meant a lot to me, and as someone who’s disabled it’s so nice seeing this type of positive representation. I wish them nothing but success!



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CLOY x HDL x IOTNBO Crossover! 😂 PART 2

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When the lead is falling for a woman dressed as a man and they gotta check if it’s just the one dude they’re attracted to bc they still don’t know it’s a woman yet. The drama is Captivating the King.

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Good news. @terminalsecondleadsyndrome is finally home from the hospital! ❤️ Send her some love. I’m hoping she’ll get some better rest now that she’s finally home and can rest in her own bed.