but-a-humble-hellsite-user

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

i can now officially say i've had multiple people accuse me of actually being a terf and lying about being trans. wild stuff tbh

please ask yourself which is the more likely option:

I have nothing better to do than to fake being part of a minority group online for [insert benefit] and continue to get accused of lying, all this so that I can encourage support for a community whose views I have clearly stated I find distasteful and do not agree with

I am trying to change people's minds and recognize that responding to said distasteful views with politeness and logic instead of vitriol is how that is most likely to actually happen

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

I try to avoid political (any country) tumblr for my own sanity but sometimes posts seep through the cracks, and I've noticed something.

Almost every credible exercise or lesson on disinformation, trolling, online media literacy, etc. that I've had (credible in this case meaning a research project or an institute putting out information on social media, not just a tumblr post) mentions that often trolls, bots, or proponents of disinformation will purposefully try to drive opposing sides of a debate further apart to try and prevent compromise or mutual understanding.

I'm not trying to imply that Tumblr users who post about politics are necessarily trolls or something, but many people seem completely unwilling to engage with the idea that you should try to compromise with your opponent, and would take that suggestion like an insult. Mainly progressives but I suppose conservatives do it too, I just haven't seen too many of those (it's Tumblr, non-bot conservatives here are like unicorns).

Obligatory disclaimer also that you can't negotiate with everybody. Some people are too stubborn to change their minds, some people are patently unhinged, etc.

I think of this post a lot.

Anyways this also applies to transblr and radfems. I know compromise may seem patently impossible but I think both sides have some good arguments and some completely concerning ones. (I mean, my personal opinion is that terfs can have more concerning ones, but that is only my two cents, not an objective statement about the nature of topics like these.)

I think transblr is right about the fact that transitioning and having people around you who affirm your gender is greatly freeing and makes life better for a lot of people. I also think transblr would make a better impression if we stopped basically throwing internet tantrums about Harry Potter.* (It's very telling that of the queer and trans people I know in real life, nobody actually cares as much about it as people online do.)

I think terfs are right about the fact that pushing medical transition on people who are too young and/or not properly ensuring they wouldn't regret it is a really dangerous path to go down. I also think the terf perception of sexually kinky women as 'engaging in self harm' is ridiculous. (I've always seen it framed as kink being bad because it enables men getting off to harming women and is therefore misogynistic, but I've never seen radfems acknowledge that kink can happen between two men or two women or that women can get off to harming men.)

*Obligatory disclaimer because I'll get flamed if I don't write this. I do think badly of JKR because of her in my eyes unacceptable treatment of Imane Khelif, irrespective of your stance on what she said about trans people. That's worth acknowledging in your perception of things, certainly, but transblr was complaining about HP since long before the Imane Khelif thing happened.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Posted this and realized I forgot to add on that I'd appreciate feedback on how I should tag posts. Should I add radfem tags, general trans tags, etc. or are there better options? I'm not too experienced with organizing a large blog.

I'm back (after a year). I took a bit of a break from online stuff for my own sanity, returned, found the state of discourse awful, etc. Although I might post sporadically in the future.

I often feel upset that transgender people are so misrepresented by the Tumblr contingent, but I remember that I do have the power to try and influence people's perceptions, especially with this blog, which quickly got a wider audience than I was expecting. I really appreciate how respectful most people have been.

I have talked about this a little too oddly in the first phases of the blog (so some changes in how I approach topics from now), and IIRC mentioned brain sex, which I'm pretty sure has been debunked. If I give incorrect information in the future, please correct me.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

I'm back (after a year). I took a bit of a break from online stuff for my own sanity, returned, found the state of discourse awful, etc. Although I might post sporadically in the future.

I often feel upset that transgender people are so misrepresented by the Tumblr contingent, but I remember that I do have the power to try and influence people's perceptions, especially with this blog, which quickly got a wider audience than I was expecting. I really appreciate how respectful most people have been.

I have talked about this a little too oddly in the first phases of the blog (so some changes in how I approach topics from now), and IIRC mentioned brain sex, which I'm pretty sure has been debunked. If I give incorrect information in the future, please correct me.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Again, I am not a TERF blog and I don't know who your mutuals are. I also have no interest in harassing them or contacting them in any way.

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Why the hell would I roleplay as a trans person arguing with TERFs if I were a TERF? I don't enjoy playing devil's advocate that much.

You didn't answer me when I questioned why I'd have any interest in malice against the mutuals you warned about me.

And "if I'm finally wrong on a call out then it's still a win" what is that supposed to mean

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Warned against...? 1) I can't see who you're mutuals with (unless Tumblr introduced a new feature in the last few minutes I'm completely unaware of) in case you're worried I'm going to go harass them or something and 2) Why on earth would your mutuals need to be warned about me/why on earth would I have interest in malice against your mutuals who I don't even know?

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

pausing an introspective discussion for a moment to note that today I've seen a lot of radfems refer to women who somehow "betray radfems" as "sex traitors" and... do you not realize you sound like a cult...?

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Notice the trans movement bullshit is still up and in the bio too.

fixed it. Thanks for telling me, I don't intend to use "mainstream trans movement" and "the way trans people on Tumblr sometimes act, mainly in terms of telling TERFs to kts" as synonyms. I made this blog after being kind of annoyed at the latter for being (to me) kinda shitty community representatives, and shouldn't have conflated the two.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

I didn't intend to glaze over that purposefully, my mistake. I'm fully aware there's a fair amount of TERFs who are "ex-ftm" (I put this in quotes solely because I don't know if they actually use that term for themselves or not) detransitioners. What's your point?

And what other holes? I'm genuinely doing my best here, please tell me.

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

What "big fucking point" did I miss?

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

By "trans movement", I don't mean to imply there's a coalition of trans people secretly running the world or some conspiracy theorist shit - I meant the broader push for trans acceptance.

This does not mean I disapprove of it. I'm very happy trans people are being more widely accepted. My problems are specifically with a few small aspects we go about it, such as the way we do tend to handwave the potential side effects of medical transition a bit (Not to deny it does many trans people great good, but I've seen a lot of people not acknowledge that there are potential side effects and/or risks just like any medical procedure), and how some of us are pissy about detransitioners or the language they choose to use. We of all subgroups should be an awesome support* network for detransitioners.

Also, I don't think "Telling people you disagree with to kill themselves online is bad actually" is a take that is bad or necessarily limited to TERFs. However, I do apologize - when I said "the mainstream trans movement" in that sentence specifically, I should've instead said "the online/Tumblr trans movement", because that was specifically what I was referring to. I'll edit it immediately.

*support meaning actual support, not using them as a scapegoat to hate on trans people. Yes, detransitioners should be supported and are valid and many of them choose to label themselves as trans and that is something we should be cool with. No, we should not weaponize them against trans people.

I am very much an actual in the flesh trans person, not a 'larper', but yes, I confess I am making my blog somewhat more palatable to TERFs by leading with 'yes Tumblr trans activism is bizarre about some things and you have some valid points' because people are more likely to listen when you show you understand them.

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Genuinely confused, how am I "terf sterotypes of the trans community"?

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

What adjective should then be used to differentiate between women who would usually be called cis and women who would not be called cis?

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

no but ok

I created this blog for one purpose - civil arguments against radfems and/or TERFs (I've seen some people belonging to those groups use one, some use the other, and some use both).

It is my strongly-held belief that the mainstream trans movement fails at discourse in several ways, most notably telling radfems/TERFs to kill themselves wherever they pop up. (Technically speaking, Tumblr users do this with everyone they deem problematic, but that certainly doesn't make it acceptable.) This helps no one, and fosters animosity everywhere, as well as normalizing this sort of extremely bad behavior.

I have a few other problems with the mainstream trans movement. If you've read this far, I hope it's clear that I am not a TERF/radfem, but seek to argue with them civilly instead of by saying "kys terf (look how strong my argument is 😎)"

I will try my best to be as civil as possible on this blog. However, I am a human being, prone to irrationality and bad behavior just like everyone else. If I fuck up and say something unacceptable, please do tell me.

That said, you will never see death/rape/anything-of-that-sort threats coming from me. Fun fact: it is staggeringly easy to not wish for people's deaths on the internet!* Just remember that's a person you're talking to and ask yourself "Do I really want to be this hateful and rude because someone said something I don't like?"

As of this post being written, I don't block people. I can't see this policy changing unless someone committed some extremely egregious offense** against me that merited it.

There are no DNIs on this blog and you'll probably never find any. That said, if you bring racism, anti-Semitism, misogyny***, homophobia****, or similar sentiment onto this blog, I will tell you to fuck off because that is very much not welcome here.

Lastly, I am trans. (I will probably never state more about myself than that.) I will acknowledge this. This means that, yes, I may find myself biased in some respects, and I will try to keep that in mind.

*Oh yeah, I will sometimes probably be sarcastic, mildly angry, etc. on this blog. As stated, I am a human being, so please tell me if I say something fucked up. However, apart from that, this is a blog that is civil, but certainly not one where I will never use humor, anger, memes, or normal internet user stuff. I have emotions.

**No, that is not equivalent to "someone said something I don't like". To me, "egregious offense" means "you put racist comments on all my posts" or "you sent death threats in my inbox" or similar.

***I mean actual misogyny. I most certainly don't deny that trans women face misogyny in unique ways, but there is nuance here and I am not about to go around claiming that any criticism of mainstream trans movements is misogyny. "Trans women are disgusting and should be killed" is (trans)misogyny, just like "women are disgusting and should be killed" is misogyny. "A lot of online trans spaces seem to be encouraging bad behavior" is not.

****Same with homophobia. "Gay people should go to hell" is homophobia. "Online queer culture sometimes promotes entitlement and here's why I think that" is not.

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

OOP is a parody account and yet makes an actual good point. (Mostly. I learned about transness when I was older, not at a young age, but it still was a catalyst to making me realize there was a fitting label for what I felt.)

"how is gender identity an innate thing if you have to be taught it in order to realize you have it" There are trans people who are very vocal about being trans from a young age despite not knowing that it even exists. There are also trans people who only realize that they are trans after learning that trans is something one can be. How innate gender is and how important it is to one's identity kind of varies from person to person.

The comment above reading "imagine the tragedy of living a healthy, happy life 😔" is rather missing the point. Being trans and not knowing that trans is something possible to be can be very painful, and I'm grateful I learned it when I did and was able to transition so that I didn't go a significant chunk of my life in emotional distress I couldn't identify the cause of.

Imagine the tragedy of living a healthy, happy life 😔

[but-a-humble-hellsite-user]

Okay. Then what would you prefer to be called instead of "cis"?

(I am horribly bad at tone on the internet sometimes, this is a genuine question.)