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One of the worst feelings is when you feel a hyperfixiation slipping.. Like no.. Youre so sexy pls keep giving me happy chemical

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fake it til u make it

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I’m beginning to read “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robin Norwood and just from the start I wish I’d read it years ago:

“When being in love means being in pain we are loving too much. When most of our conversations with intimate friends are about him, his problems, his thoughts, his feelings—and nearly all our sentences begin with “he …”, we are loving too much.

When we excuse his moodiness, bad temper, indifference, or put-downs as problems due to an unhappy childhood and we try to become his therapist, we are loving too much.

When we read a self-help book and underline all the passages we think would help him, we are loving too much.

When we don’t like many of his basic characteristics, values, and behaviors, but we put up with them thinking that if we are only attractive and loving enough he’ll want to change for us, we are loving too much.

When our relationship jeopardizes our emotional well-being and perhaps even our physical health and safety, we are definitely loving too much.

In spite of all its pain and dissatisfaction, loving too much is such a common experience for many women that we almost believe it is the way intimate relationships are supposed to be. Most of us have loved too much at least once and for many of us it has been a recurrent theme in our lives. Some of us have become so obsessed with our partner and our relationship that we are barely able to function.

In this book we will take a hard look at the reasons why so many women, looking for someone to love them, seem inevitably to find unhealthy, unloving partners instead. And we will explore why, once we know a relationship is not meeting our needs, we nevertheless have such difficulty ending it. We will see that loving turns into loving too much when our partner is inappropriate, uncaring, or unavailable and yet we cannot give him up—in fact we want him, we need him even more. We will come to understand how our wanting to love, our yearning for love, our loving itself becomes an addiction.

Addiction is a frightening word. It conjures up images of heroin users jabbing needles into their arms and leading obviously self-destructive lives. We don’t like the word and we don’t want to apply the concept to the way we relate to men. But many, many of us have been “man junkies” and, like any other addict, we need to admit the severity of our problem before we can begin to recover from it.

If you have ever found yourself obsessed with a man, you may have suspected that the root of that obsession was not love but fear. We who love obsessively are full of fear—fear of being alone, fear of being unlovable and unworthy, fear of being ignored or abandoned or destroyed. We give our love in the desperate hope that the man with whom we’re obsessed will take care of our fears. Instead, the fears —and our obsession—deepen until giving love in order to get it back becomes a driving force in our lives. And because our strategy doesn’t work we try, we love even harder. We love too much.”

EDIT:

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Please reblog so more women can leave awful relationships!

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*forgets to message back* *forgets to check notifications* *forgets to look through bookmarks* *forgets to check reminders* *forgets to check out [insert content] that i said i would* *forgets to take my phone off do not disturb* *forgets to

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I used to think I can't have ADHD because I wasn't hyperactive.

Not everyone can allow themselves to act on their hyperactivity, so we find ways to redirect or hide the understimulation.

(Sneak introduction to the new inattentive Alien! A hommage to a collab I did with René ♥️)

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Me @ myself anytime I open my mouth:

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i have some sort of issues not sure though, maybe disorders or syndromes. gonna keep you guys posted

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somehow 3/7/20

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first day of the semester: this isn’t so bad! maybe i actually won’t be an absolute mess this time around.

third day of the semester:

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A comic about being (possibly) neurodivergent, deeply rooted fears and overthinking

do NOT repost

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sorry i forgot to reply i dont feel fucking alive

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i think we need to talk about understimulation in adhd more. because whether i like it or not the common person sees me and thinks. oh. ur doing things you like to avoid doing things you don’t like. and it’s really not as simple as that. because things that “i like” can be so subjective. sometimes when i try to do something “i like” i feel nothing. there is no joy, i’m not happy about this in any way, and it feels like such a chore just to try and make myself do it. often times procrastination in adhd isn’t even about being lazy and having fun doing things you enjoy. it’s your mind not letting you do anything. you can’t do the thing you’re putting off and putting it off makes you feel stupid but you can’t do it you just CAN’T. and it’s so frustrating and you end up just doing nothing in particular for hours and hours and you feel like you’re wasting your existence

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