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Self improvement is great but ultimately? you have to accept your self. Yes you can eat better, exercise more, read more, set boundaries, love your self, but it all comes down to this. Some days you won’t have the energy to do any of these things. And you’ll look in the mirror and think that this is not enough. That’s a lie. The biggest love for self is to live slowly. To rest. To really rest. Have a nap. Eat what makes you feel good. Read if you want to. Embrace yourself and accept that you cannot and will not be ever be perfect. Accept that you are good enough. You don’t need to keep busy all the time. you don’t need to go out all the time and post on instagram. You don’t need to journal if you don’t want to. You don’t need to make art if you don’t want to. Breathe, give yourself grace and compassion. Give yourself the love and tenderness you so badly need. Be gentle with yourself. You are trying and it is good enough. You are good enough.

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i can stay up and have terrible thoughts or i could go to bed n hav terrible dreams hm lol, lmao even

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Hey, you are not an embarrassment for not knowing how to do certain household chores/basic self-care. They do not come naturally to us. A lot of it takes practice! Maybe you had a neglectful guardian. Maybe you had one that was very coddling and never thought to teach you. Maybe you haven't lived in a place where these things were available to you or needed. Doesn't matter. It's okay to not know and far more common than you might realise.

That said, this website provides very simple instructions on how to do everyday tasks such as making your bed, using a washing machine, cooking different foods, washing dishes, taking a shower, etc. All you have to do is use the search bar to find the task you're struggling with, and it'll come up with what you need + other related how-to's:)

If you're having trouble navigating it, let me provide you with some examples:

How to clean dishes by hand

How to make your bed (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to fold clothes (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to take a shower & dry yourself off (also provides ways to shave beards, armpits, legs and genitals)

How to shave legs, armpits, beards, pubic areas, etc. (a more in-depth guide)

How to mop the floor

How to sweep the floor

How to swallow pills

How to make small talk

How to make eye contact in different situations (or how to avoid it while still looking natural)

It's also perfectly okay if these don't help or aren't appealing to you. Unfortunately, nothing helps everyone.

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"Fluid as water, brilliant as silver, heavier than lead, mercury spills through a mine worker's fingers."

National Geographic

October 1972

ph. Robert W. Madden

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hey brain the dreams about him can stop now.

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keep getting emails from my school like “share ur stories!! teehee share memories :)” should i tell them about how i was assaulted on campus

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“don’t compare yourself to others” impossible when everyone around u is doing so much better than u in every way

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i hate that every time i look for color studies and tips to improve my art and make it more dynamic and interesting all that comes up are rudimentary explanations of the color wheel that explain it to me like im in 1st grade and just now discovering my primary colors

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so metropolitan museum of art has a register of books they’ve published that are out of print and that you can download for free! they’re mostly books on art, archeology, architecture, fashion and history and i just think that’s super useful and interesting so i wanted to share! you can find all of the books available here!

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like yeah i’m actively suicidal but i kno i’ll never follow thru bc how could i ever leave milo.

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had a dream where at one point i ended up at my exes house and he was like oh.. hey and i got to say everything i’ve been wanting to say like how he destroyed my sense of trust made me feel like i was nothing like i was constantly not good enough and everything i did was wrong and too much and how he decided to leave me so abruptly and was too cowardly to be honest with me about how he was cheating on me except he didn’t see it like that bc we never had a “label” and i hate him i hate him i hate him i hate him i hate how much time i wasted with him thinking he actually cared about me i hate him i hate that i gave him every ounce of love i had until it was gone i hate that i let myself get hurt like that

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like i kno i’m gonna kms it’s jus a matter of when lol so being alive is weird and planning for my future doesn’t compute i don’t see a reason to save or plan hmm i’m depressed depressed oh

and i can’t do anything about it lol.. therapy hasn’t helped much in that department and i kno i hav to live with mental illness forever like actually i don’t want to do that.. like i’m already over it. like i’m alive for my sister and my cat and my mom i’m one bad thing away from killing myself immediately lmao like it’s not fine but it’s fine.. no one can help me teehee

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A lot of people are sympathetic to the concept of PTSD but not the reality of it.

They expect you to stare off into space or be sad, and they aren’t sympathetic to the angry moments, to strong reactions to triggers, to the paranoia and fear of abandonment, they aren’t sympathetic to the disorders that are often co-morbid like personality disorders, dissociative disorders, or psychotic disorder. There’s more to PTSD than just “being shy” or scared.

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btw archive dot org is SUCH a treasury when it comes to out-of-print poetry anthologies… i am having the time of my life, truly ❣️

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i know im constantly too much for everyone but sometimes i just want to be enough for someone