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some loser: humans are innately selfish creatures

my psych book:

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Anyways did you guys know people with NPD deserve to feel supported in mental health communities. Like beyond small little text posts too, they should actually be considered and accounted for. Sometimes they get left out of general MH communities, but I'll also see them even get left out of conversations on personality disorders, which is sad. Remember that even if you don't have NPD, it's perfectly normal and actually encouraged to do some research on it so you can better understand it overall.

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Michael, Hayvenhurst | 1984

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Your thoughts don't have to be true. They don't have to mean anything or out you as anything. You could be the most morally & ethically developed person and still have atrocious intrusive thoughts. They are not you. And I wish someone had told me this all those years ago. You're fine ♡

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when i was in the third grade my favorite song was same love by macklemore and ryan lewis. i made a christmas ornament tribute to macklemore out of respect and hung him on the tree by his yellow yarn hairs

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It's almost time for Zack and Cody's reservation at the Italian restaurant

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losing it at this photo of the counts puppet not being used. literally he looks like hes just taking a nap on set or something

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"homosexuality is unnatural! there's only two genders! it's a sin-"

I'm sorry, have you seen NATURE???

and there's so many more species than this that exhibit homosexuality, varying genders, etc. SO! MANY!

it's very much a natural thing. it always has been. unfortunately, while homosexuality is found in many species, homophobia is only found in one

ALSO THE ARTIST IS HUMON, FIND THEM AT HUMONCOMICS.COM!! was so sure I had included that but apparently I forgot, so sorry!

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Why We Don’t Equate “Narcissistic” With “Abusive”

Our blog does not support using stigmatizing language like “narcissistic” because we want to maintain a safe environment for all survivors, including those with personality disorders. 

We do understand that a lot of people are not aware of the harmfulness of using  “narcissistic” to describe abuse and that is why we are writing this post. We believe that offering insight into the matter is important. 

“Narcissistic” is an example of a term that people use to be synonymous with “abusive.” It is important to refrain from armchair diagnosing people. 

It’s important to note that personality disorders, (including narcissistic personality disorder) do not make someone inherently abusive. Using terms like narcissistic to describe abuse is ableist. 

Narcissism as a concept existed before the diagnosis of NPD existed, however, it’s become hard to separate. When someone uses the term “narcissist” to equate it to being a “bad person” this will lump in everyone who has NPD. 

In a lot of cases, those with personality disorders have been abused themselves and are in need of support and feel they cannot get it in a lot of places due to the stigma surrounding their personality disorder. 

It’s important to be clear that the abuse you went through is valid! However, instead of saying “narcissistic,” try to use other negative terms in place that will reduce stigma and harm. Some terms may include: manipulative, selfish, or conceited. 

Further, using the word, “narcissist” to describe someone due to their abusive behaviour is similar to saying someone is “so ocd” when you don’t know their diagnosis and are equating behaviour to a disorder.

Please only use “narcissist” to refer to someone with NPD and when doing that, don’t use it as an insulting term. 

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Respect and support all psychotic people.

Respect and support psychotic people in psych wards.

Respect and support psychotic people in prison.

Respect and support psychotic people who use drugs.

Respect and support psychotic people who can't hide their symptoms.

Respect and support psychotic people who are homeless.

If you say you respect and support psychotic people no one is exempt.

If you are disgusted, scared of, or laugh at psychotic people on the street that talk to themselves you cannot say you respect and support psychotic people.

Just because a psychotic person is less privileged, and less socially acceptable to you, does not give you a pass to be sanist.

This shouldn't have to be said but every human deserves basic respect.

People who are mentally ill, have no money, have no support, can't hide their symptoms, make bad choices and don't fit into the social norms, are not any less human than anybody else.

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i love how hyenas still have the winter coat gene

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this really is the funniest website since 2000 followers roughly equates to 5 notes as your floor on any given post. 30 if you’ve said something wretched.

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Three butch friends of mine finishing the basement of my first house around 1996.   They worked for beer, and not even anything fancy. 

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— Trista Mateer ,“I Still Forget We’re Not Even Friends”

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“The best part of your life will be those small, nameless moments you spent with someone who matters to you.”

— Unknown