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sat through a lecture on paleolithic and neolithic culture and society and all i can think abt is how from as early as there have been anatomically modern humans (and even before in some cases) there is archaelogical evidence of gender and sexual variance, caring for the elderly and disabled, a drive to make art and music, a powerful affection for animals and each other, and a desire to learn as much as possible about the world as we can and yet people will still insist these things are not human nature and therefore unnatural, that the things we consider to be essentially human in nature are very recent in the span of our history or felt by only a rare few and not something integral to our humanity and success as a collective whole.

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OK new game. Use this website to see how common your first name is, and then put that number in the tags. 

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I’m sensual, I’m slow, I’m violently ill, and I’m a fuckin Nine Inch Nails Goth Mother Fucker Baby!!!

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sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

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I dont know what emotion this gives me but im feeling it violently

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Ain't no laws when you're drinking Claws - except for NAGPRA

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Just saw a post saying a castle was "infested with vampires" and as a biologist am disgusted. That's their natural habitat. They live there

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Manny Jacinto for Coup de Main Magazine (May 2019)

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post the cockroach with the autotuned scat please. i need it

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Sophie Turner and Jonathan Van Ness meeting for the first time 

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i hate gender. fuck being perceived. from now on the only words youre allowed to use to describe me are “fucked up”

[botboyfriend]

stop asking neil gaiman to confirm/deny things and just violently project your own issues onto the characters the way God intended 

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@lukeskywalkersponcho

Small Independent Deer Does Its Errands

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fellow millennials, the fact that kids today don’t know about caramelldansen is a failure on our part. Much how our parents failed us, we have failed this generation by not passing on the ancient traditions. The only solution is for everyone to start making caramelldansen videos again. Dust off your windows movie maker and start churning out chibis of this season’s hottest anime characters, lads. We’ve got work to do.

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when your only contribution to a fandom is to write rarepair fanfic that caters to your own incredibly specific tastes