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2 to him again. To stop contacting me and if he continous to contact me i guess i have to Block him by i just cant do it right now :( even though i'm dating two guys at the moment I still think about him :(

WHO DOES THIS BOY THINK HE IS, GOD DAMN! That really breaks my heart. He should just let you move on in peace which you are clearly trying to do but instead, he just likes to tease you. I know this is really hard for you right now but it seems like you don’t want to be with him or want anything to do with him. I think the best thing you need to do is just block him. You can sit there for an hour contemplating but at the end of the day that’s what I would do and think would be best for you. I care about seeing you happy and loving your life. When I hear about this guy who is “you can have me when I want you” it just makes me sad because it’s not what you deserve. What you deserve is this toxic guy out of your life so you can enjoy dating these 2 guys and enjoy having a life where your emotions aren’t being messed with. I can only imagine how you feel and I am really here for you because it just sounds like an absolutely horrible thing to go through. 

The reason why you think about him is because you feel something for him. You have this emotional tie to him because of your previous relationship with him. So every time he comes back into your life you remember that love that you felt when you were around him. However, it’s not healthy or fair for you to keep being played emotionally by him like that. I’m going to tell you what I would do and I don’t in anyway expect you to follow it but I think you should consider something that will make you happy and hopefully this gives you an idea of how you can adapt it to an outcome that’s going to work best for you and your happiness. 

I would sit there for however long and convince myself to delete him off EVERYTHING. One single link to him would tempt me. Then I would spend a few therapy sessions with myself. Treating myself to some Mcdonalds or something and rewarding myself for being strong enough to make a decision that was going to help me move on and become emotionally in control and happy. After I had accepted everything that I happened I would enjoy my dates with the 2 guys I’m seeing and find ways to make my life more positive. 

This is up to you though darling. If you think this guy has changed and is what is going to make you happy then go see if he’ll commit and find out if that’s what you need in your life. Whatever decision you go with is going to be the right one. Don’t regret any decision you make because it will either bring you happiness or teach you a lesson. It’s all up to you and know that I’m here the whole way. I wish you so much luck darling and don’t be afraid to follow your heart! xx

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Lately when I wake up I have this horrible feeling I hd when I had to wake up for school I hated school so much ... it feel like I cant get put of bed but I have to and that they day will just be horrible and that norhing will ever get better. I know that things will get better and the days usually dont even turn out that bad but still I cant help it but feel horrible :((

Welcome! I know how easy it is to get stuck in a cycle of feeling awful and it sucks. The constant worries for no reason and how hard it is to shake off. But I’ll tell you this..that change all starts with the little things in your life. I go through periods where I am so anxious that I can’t enjoy the day because of thoughts running through my head and when I feel myself getting in this stage I like to think about all the things that maybe aren’t working in my life. So then I introduce exercising, good eating habits, sleep, all of those kinds of things to make sure that my balance is right and from there I go to the next stage. 

I encourage myself to be positive (god, easier than it sounds right?). So because you get used to feeling like absolute shit, your body and mind get used to feeling that way and it keeps happening (willingly or not). If you really want to be happy and enjoy your life you have to challenge the negative thoughts that you get. Give them a good old run for their money. It isn’t worth you drowning in this horrible feeling and not trying to do something about it. At the start, it’s really hard and it will feel impossible but the more you practice, the better you get. Analyse the feeling you are having with yourself. So that means going through the following step process:How am I feeling?What thought made me feel this way?Evidence that supports this thought?Evidence that doesn’t support this thought?Alternative thought?

This way when you start to feel that awful feeling for no reason you can challenge it and alter your thinking. Reminding yourself that you aren’t waking up for school and you have a positive, bright day ahead of yourself. Make yourself a nice breakfast and really treat yourself. Make yourself feel good by rewarding yourself throughout the day to remind yourself that there is nothing to be down about and that you are living a beautiful life. It’s hard to believe it but things do get better and they will for you. I am so sure of it. It’s easy to just throw yourself into a state of nothings going to get better but that just creates unhealthy thinking and it makes it harder to get out of that mindset. Make a goal for yourself that makes you really happy and excited. It can be absolutely anything from something you want to happen, something you want to buy, something you like doing and everytime you feel down, bring that thought to mind and remind yourself that you are going to achieve that. Remind yourself about how life does go on and it gets better. Sure shitty things happen but it’s what you make of the shit experiences that will help you move forward. If you are always looking for a positive it will become a habit and when things in your life don’t go to plan you can say hang on a minute there’ll be a day where I am so happy that if this shitty thing didn’t happen I wouldn’t be there. Keep trying to better yourself and make your life happier and brighter because I promise you that you’re beautiful and can do absolutely anything. You just have to appreciate this down moment in your life because one day it will help you value the good things that happen. Keep going because you’ve come this far and I know that this can’t stop you from doing amazing things xx 

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I'm so mad at myself I went out and i finally ran into the guy I was hoping to run into again and when we saw each other we both were so surprised and smiled at each other and he came to talk to me and then he wanted to go to his friends but I said lets dtay here and then they came closer and closer and he kept looking and smiling at me but didnt come again and I felt awkward talking to him bc my friends dont like it when I go talk to boys. And them we had to leave why did I not talk to him 😩😩

Hello! Oh, that’s so amazing that you had this amazing moment seeing him. Maybe you should keep going out and see if you bump into him again? and I’m sure that the next time you see him you will definitely go up to him and start a conversation (Just because you seem so upset that you didn't’.)

I can’t believe your friends don’t like it when you talk to boys? What type of friends would they be if they don’t support you and encourage you to meet new people? I think you should try and maybe talk to them about that because I could only imagine how frustrating that would be.

With all of this being said darling I think that if you don’t ever see him again then it just wasn’t meant to be and I’m hoping you don’t but it might be something you need to face. It will probably suck for a while but I promise you there are so much more people in this world to meet and see that if you put yourself out there you’ll find it crazy that you got caught up on this one guy. Keep staying positive and if things are meant to happen they will! Let me know if you meet him again or anything else exciting that goes on. Wish you so much luck darling xx

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Hello 😊 I'm doing my master now and I moved back to my home county I'm already in my second term now so I'm almost done and I have been getting used to moving back here when I first came back I felt horribly depressed but now everytime I go home or someone visits me and I have to go back or they leave I feel so horribly alone and I fall back into my depressed phase. I started taking herbal anti depressants as well which males me feel a bit better but obviously dosn't cure it

Hello! With all of my experiences and the way I’ve had to cope with certain things in my life, I have never found medication, teas, herbs all of that stuff useful and they don’t really give you a quick fix. I feel like there are certain things that are going to help you take the edge off but nothing is going to just BOOM you’re cured of depression if you get what I’m saying?When your mind wanders into a certain state, it’s really hard to see things getting better or even out of it which I think is what causes it to get worse or really hard to remove yourself from the current downward spiral. You really have to find the motivation and courage in yourself to make positive steps in your life. It’s going to be a long and hard journey, but you know what? You are so capable of tackling this. Keep in mind that people do get depressed and for some, it’s easier than others to bounce back but if you are pre-disposed to being depressed then it’s time to put the things that make you feel good into action. 

I think that getting really upset when you return home or someone who visits leaves is completely normal. You are allowed to feel that way because these people and places are a part of what made you, you. That is what you were used too for so long and it feels comforting to have them there but you need to find something that can replace that comfort for when you go back home or they leave. 

You have just moved back to your home country so this amazing place is where you grew up! Write down a list of things you loved and missed doing when you didn’t live there. Things that really attached you to this place and made you feel warm. Those are the things you need to look forward too or even do when you are slipping back into your depression. You wouldn’t be there if you didn’t have some kind of attachment to this beautiful place. So make the space you’re living in as comforting and warm as you can. Put the time and effort into making it really feel like a home to you. A space where you can relax and feel safe because ultimately this is the exact spot you’re going to be in when you are feeling this way. So if you’re home feels comforting, it might take the edge off from missing the country you used to live in. 

Also, you need to motivation in yourself to make new memories and opportunities for yourself. This is such an amazing thing for you! You are being so independent so turn that negative of loneliness into a positive. You are learning of how to take care of yourself when you are sad and the best part of it all is that you are getting through it! You have come so far and it wouldn’t be worth it to just give up on this amazing life that you have created for yourself so please don’t give up hope because if you start finding all the positives of living back in your home country, you’re going to forget why these little things made you so sad. Of course it’s going to be upsetting seeing people from your old country (which is expected!) but it’s not going to set you back a mile from your goal of a happy life! Keep studying hard and opening yourself up to making new memories and everything will slowly get easier and feel more comfortable xx

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Thank you for answering my questions :)) but I only asked one question xx

Oh I am so sorry! Okay, well I am so happy that you are in a place in your life where you are happy about meeting new guys! That’s so amazing. Be a little bit more kinder to yourself. I’m positive that every person doesn’t look flawless while working out but that doesn’t mean you should tell yourself you look like a BOY! and even if you did I bet you are the fiercest boy looking girl in that place. 

You should make it your goal to go in there and give your workout personality! Show them how amazing you can be! If they look at you, give them a smile back. See what happens? Just keep going each week and something will happen where you will end up in a conversation with one of them. Maybe you could ask about their workouts or something.

If you are confident enough to walk through those doors and workout then I’m so sure you are confident enough to approach them. This is how you find someone who is good for you. Finding common interest and so far you have going to the gym in common. If you keep going you are bound to get in a situation where you can talk to one of them. Just keep an eye open for some good timing and as soon as you see an opportunity go and don’t look back. 

Keep staying healthy and the world will do it’s thing and lead you to the right person. Just be open for opportunities to happen with boys and when they do don’t hold yourself back from going for it. Nothing bad will happen and you’ll finally get to go on a date with these good looking guys! And...Be kinder to yourself. I bet you are fierce at the gym, don’t put yourself down, instead be confident with this beautiful person you are xx

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I beoke up with my bf half a year agao and now I just want to date guys or flirt with them. When I go to my gym at night time there are a couple of cute guys but I always look like a boy in the gym 😂 and I always have a resting bitch face so I dont think they will approach me and I'm way too shy to approach them :(

Hello, 

I was just wondering if the second question I received was part of yours or someone else’s?

Hope to hear back from you soon xx

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I have exams for university in 3 weeks but i havent started studying yet and I have ZERO motivation to do so. I cant even be bothered and I know I should study but i dont even care anymore and these are my lst exams i have after that only my masters thesis but I cant motivate my self and I'm not even scared to fail. I just dont care anymore but i know i should really study 😑

Hello, 

Okay I don’t know much about how university works and the classes. I’m a bit of a university virgin but I do know a bit about studying so I will try to give my best advice. Please, please let me know if I get anything wrong. 

I am the queen when it comes to being unmotivated and I know how hard it is to get shit done. Personally it makes my world so much easier when I start from scratch and re-organise myself. I would HIGHLY suggest that you start by buying a planner or (I know how tight money can be around the study times) you can print one off online. Find a nice looking one that you will want to look at and will want to keep with you. Then start by filling in all your exams and their dates. Once you look at what exam comes first, second, last etc. You can prioritise for what to study for. 

THE HARDEST PART! STUDYING! You are the only one that is going to make yourself pass. No one else is taking this test for you so I think you should drill that in and set the goal for passing. I think it’s unfair to just give up because then you’ll never know what potential you have. I also know that it’s so easy for life to get in the way and you just wanted to be out there doing better things than studying, however, you are there for a reason. You wouldn’t be there unless you didn’t want too. So set the time to just do light revising. To a point where you are remembering but not driving yourself crazy. You should make an effort to make study as enjoyable as you can. I mean who said it had to be staring at a book? Find things you love doing and incorporating study into it. Be really creative and I think you will find something that really works for you and is effective. 

If you don’t care then why are you there? What is the point. If you don’t have a passion or interest then why would you chose to study or study something that makes you unmotivated. I think your career should spark a passion inside of you. Maybe you should rethink your course and subjects to something that makes you interested and willing to pick up a book and leaving you wanting to know more or to do more of it. If you’re not scared to fail then you feel as if you have nothing to loose. Your dream career shouldn’t be something that makes you feel this way. If you want to pass you will. I know you can if you create an interest in the topic and engage yourself in study techniques that work for you. Sometimes you have to fight the waves before you can smoothly sail. It’s up to you, what you want with your future. No one is going to force you into a career that you don’t want. You should do what makes you happy. Best of luck! I really hope it all comes together and you find something that makes you motivated and happy xx

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Thank you thank you thank you ! You always give such great advice you are such a loving human being !!

THANK YOU! I loved reading your beautiful messages, make sure you keep me updated. I think we can both agree that you are a beautiful and loving human being xx

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Hello my dear dear :) there was a guy I really liked didnt want to commit to me so I broke off contact but he messaged me for Christmas and for new years and he said stuff like i hope all your wishes come true but you need to be here first because I'm not home right now. I know he is just playing with me but that isn't making it any easier

YOU GO GIRL! I’m that proud of you for putting yourself and happiness first. You deserve to look forward especially for the new year. This guy didn’t take you seriously (stupid him, right? missing out on a catch) so you cut that off. Which is so hard to do. Just going to applaud you right now. That’s not fair at all that he’s coming back unexpectedly into your life and throwing your emotions around.

You’ve done it once before and I know you can do it again. Maybe you could tell him, “hey you can’t just walk into my life when I’ve made it clear that unless your serious about me, I don’t need you around”. Something like that. I think the stronger the better. This guy didn’t get it and didn’t respect that you wanted commitment. You made it clear you weren’t interested in a casual relationship therefore he should have the decency to let you grow and move forward from him. I totally understand how awful that would be for you...BUT! You are strong and better than him! You deserve a guy who will walk in and won’t walk out. Someone that won’t play with your emotions because that’s not what you deserve.

My advice is to let him know that you realise now how much better you can do and that the way he’s treating you is not what you deserve. You deserve a healthy relationship where it’s not just “Oh I’ll have you when I want you”. This will be so hard as it would of sparked all of your previous feelings for him. I think you should have a therapy session on the couch (maybe some good food and TV) and come to the realisation of how much better you deserve. It will be hard but you will come to a stage of acceptance that what you went through helped you grow into someone who knows what they deserve. I wish you so much luck darling and please don’t let little guys like this get in the way of knowing how you should be treated. Makes me so mad but I think you did so well in breaking it off now just time to look for a better guy who wants you all the time not just when HE wants. xx

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!

I hope everyone entered 2017 well and happy. I just want to say a huge thank you for everyone coming to my blog and trusting me with giving you advice. Unfortunately, some of your beautiful messages were deleted and I am so sorry about that. I don’t know what happened and god forbid it ever happens again. 

I absolutely love hearing about what’s going on in your lives. I have been the world’s shittiest replier and I am so sorry. Life always seems to get in the way but this year I am going to really put my full attention in to this blog so hopefully you guys can get something out of it. Please keep updating me on how your new year is going and I can’t wait to hear about all the new experiences xx

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15/f: i've got this crush on this guy that i've been snapchatting. we've probably only talked once or twice at school and a few times through snapchat but we do have a streak. i snap him twice a day (morning and night streaks, and sometimes reply to his story) but he only snaps me once and leaves me on read the second time. he also only has a snapscore of 500 so he might only be snapchatting 3 or 4 other people. how do i make a move / gauge his interest without being too awkward?

Hello lovely,

I am the world’s worst replier! I think everyone on my blog has figured that out, so I can relate to this guy. Now I don’t know if he’s just a bad replier or if he’s not interested. However, I have some ideas on how you can find out!

I am really bad with snapchat as well so if I get anything wrong or make no sense..pleaseee let me know! 

Okay so why is it such a big deal if you talk to him at school? I know it may feel like the most daunting thing ever (but I promise you it isn’t). I feel like social media pushes a wall between human interaction and interacting through a screen. All those old schoolers did it, so it is possible. (Although I am not judging you because I used to do the same thing). I think you should really build up the courage inside of you to just talk to him at school. Look for situations where you can talk to him. If you pass him just say a cute little hello and in the moment your knees may wobble and your cheeks will feel like they on fire but I promise with every hello it will get easier. If you think of it this way, if something where to really happen with him then you would eventually be seeing him after school maybe? or talking in real life? He may not snapchat people because he prefers talking to people face to face? I don’t know, that will be the exciting quest for you to find out.

The next option that I think will be the most affective and way less scary then the first one is asking him on snapchat if he has facebook or if you can text. That way you could try talking to him throughout the day or at night time and maybe that would lead to longer conversations and getting to know each other better. It’s really easy to do this, you just have to slip it in really casually. Maybe one time when you reply to his story or something when he replies back you say “Hey I hate using snapchat to talk what your number or facebook?”. 

I think the whole part about being 15 is being awkward. I am still awkward as hell to this day but in saying that if he doesn’t show any interest in wanting to follow up on texts or facebook messages then this boy does not deserve a gorgeous girl like you. Keep looking around and the right guy will pop up. That boy will want to get to know you, he’ll text you back, talk to you at school and will ask you to do things with him. In saying that though I think you need to be confident as well. When a boy comes along and it’s flowing, don’t be afraid to ask if he wants to see a movie with you. Boys will be just as scared as you are so it’s easy to just ask. The worse that will happen is they say no and if they do then again they aren’t good enough for your beautiful soul. I wish you so much luck and I really hope good things come out of it! Looking back now, I laugh so hard because of the things that happened to me with boys at 15 and the stupid things I did but if I didn’t do them I wouldn’t be dying of laughter! Sometimes it’s just fine to be confident and not care because it’s exactly that, that makes you grow, learn and also laugh a few years later! If you just be the best you possible undoubtedly you will slay all those boys out there xx

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3 let me go and even though I study a few hours away we will make it work and that he likes my smile and thinks I'm funny and he didn't have that much fun in along time and that he likes how I'm ambiguous and learn a lot and so on. anyways what I find weird that it is moving EXTREMELY quickly and I have been played by many guys before and I don't trust people much and this whole thing just seems unreal to be honest to good to be true .. I know you can't tell me much because you don't know him ..

Hello, 

Okay well although I may not know him I have plenty to tell you. Just let me know if I got anything wrong.

When something is new it’s so exciting and overwhelming. It’s easy for people to dive into things and want the full relationship without going through the awkward, new stage (if you know what I mean). I think the whole thing with him not asking what you study at University and all the in depth details about yourself isn’t a big red flag at all! I think it’s good because in that aspect it is moving quiet slowly. It’s you first date so your whole life won’t be covered and understood by him. 

I also think it’s fantastic that he was upfront with you about what he wants in the relationship and that he is there for you and wants to embark on a genuine journey with you. If you feel as though it’s moving too fast then that’s how you feel and it’s perfectly normal to feel that way. I think that the only thing you need to do, is be honest with him and let him know that you are having a great time getting to know him and you are also feeling the same connection but it’s moving at a past your not comfortable with. 

By the sounds of this guy he seems pretty understanding and in my honest opinion I think he would understand. If he didn’t than he’s clearly missing out on an incredible person. 

I think the feeling you’re having of the ‘too good to be true’ is so exciting! You should take the ball and run with it in my opinion. Sometimes not playing it safe can give you the best opportunities in life and this might be one of them. It’s up to you to decide. 

If you open yourself up to this guy and give him the same chance his giving you then only time can tell if you’re really meant for each other. It’s still early days so I don’t want to be telling you to just trust this random man that you met but I think you should open yourself up to the possibility of getting to know him and him getting to know you.

 If you share your past  experiences with relationships he might be a bit more understanding and adjust the way he is sharing his affection, to a level that will make you more comfortable. He seems really committed which is great! He wants to make this work, it’s just whether you want too? You have to let him know that the pace is making you uncomfortable otherwise he will never know. People are different and only through opening yourself up to him will he understand how to share his love with you. I really wish you the best. So far this sounds amazing and for a guy to be so interested in you should be something exciting not scary! xx

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I'm still not over my ex 6 months after breaking it off evwn though we were only together for a couple of months :/ i always have ssuch a hard time getting over ppl who mean alot to me :(

Hello Darling,

Oh how hard it is to let go! I go through it all the time and I think that every other human who has feelings goes through this as well!

I think that it is something that makes you incredibly special. Although you have gone your own ways you still care and that is something that a lot of people can’t do. I know you are seeing this as a negative but looking at a bigger picture it makes you a beautiful person who is great at LOVING!

As hard as it is, there comes a point where you have to accept that it happened. Everyone goes through different cycles and feelings when it comes to letting go but the end result is acceptance. I sadly am not the beautiful you, so I am clueless as for what will work for you and that is a magical journey you have began and will have to ride out till you reach your acceptance. 

You have to make it your goal to look at everything that happened in the relationship. Remember all the things you can about your ex partner and your experiences. Look at how it helped you grow and recognise that all of that is apart of your life but you want to open yourself to better and new things. Letting go is a really rough process and I am so sorry that after six months you are still tackling this but......YOU CAN DO IT. If you are willing to really put all your efforts into beginning a new chapter in your book of life then pick up the pen and get writing. 

Although there is this pain inside you that doesn’t seem to be going away, I think that you should think about all the things you love doing, things in this world that you are passionate about and just overall something that makes you feel good. Go grab a piece of paper right now, get a pen and write down all the things that you enjoy doing or that make you happy. You have 2 rules:

(1) Your ex partners name is not aloud to be written 

(2) You must write at LEAST 5 things.

I know this might sound like the most stupidest thing ever and so embarrassing.. but after you’ve written all those things down you can do whatever you want with it (whether that’s throwing it away, whatever you want) but the things you wrote down are what you should start doing. PUT THOSE GOD DAMN WORDS IN TO ACTION! Start doing the things you love and learning about topics you’re passionate about. Once you start looking for better things and things that make your life feel alive again, it will kick you back into action. 

I think that pain inside you will always be there. You loved and shared experiences with a person and that was apart of your life but it’s not anymore. It’s okay to feel sad that it’s over but you also need to get yourself excited for what’s ahead. There will be more partners, more heartbreaks and more experiences. It’s a beautiful cycle of life and it’s great that you continue to cherish the amazing people that have been in your life but once you accept what happened, you can look for better things because there are so many more people to meet and so many more places to see! xx

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Thank you my dear !

My pleasure x

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3 make him overthink things ? Or will that make things worst if I tell him ? I'm not sure :/ and I already don't know how to deal with this once I break it off with him :(( I'm already crying about it ... Thank you my dear xxx Momo

Hello darling, 

Well please wipe those tears away and let’s talk about everything thats happening.

If he claims that she is his friends then maybe you should trust him. You don’t have any proof yet so why should you stress yourself out over something you don’t know he’s done. Obviously they aren’t together anymore because they just don’t work. If he wanted to be with her than he would’t be with you. 

I DO NOT THINK YOU SHOULD SAY THAT. If you tell him that i’m sure that he will get offended. As his girlfriend you need to tell him how your feeling but in a way where you don’t blame him because all we know right now is that he is best friends with her. You could maybe approach him and tell him that you’re upset because you are feeling a little jealous about his ex. That you really like him but you are afraid of being hurt because it’s happened before. Remind him of how much you like him and that you really want to try and make the relationship as peaceful, trusting and loving as you can. I think that if you talk to him calmly and openly about the way you feel the problem can be tackled. 

If you are dating this boy I really don’t think it’s healthy for either one of you to make each other jealous or cause each other to over think things. Every relationship is different in it’s own way but you must always keep in mind each others feelings, values and health to ensure that you are both happy and respected. I really don’t want you to get caught up over this. He has a friend who is a girl and it’s okay. If he didn’t want a relationship with you then it would of ended by now. Just keep your head up and remind yourself that you have nothing to be sad about xx

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If I tell a guy that the thing we have is not working anymore because I'm starting to get feelings for him and that I know that he dosnt want a relationship therefore we should stop seeing each other and have contact. will he shut down immediately ? and definitely say okay lets not have contact anymore? rather than if I tell him that I have feelings for him and I want something serious ? where I give him the opportunity to tell me that he has feelings for me and wants something serious ?

As much as I wish I could.. I can’t predict what people will do. However, I can tell you what I would do in your situation and what I think is the best way to deal with all of this. 

I think whatever action you choose to do that you keep in mind what he wants. All though it may not be exactly what you had hoped, if it was meant to be then it will be. 

So the first thing you can do is tell him how you feel. Have an open and respectful conversation about what your feeling and then see how he feels. This all depends on what you want. If you want something serious with this boy then of course you should say how you feel. Nothing will ever happen if you don’t admit the way you are feeling. This way you both can clarify what you want from each other. If he says that he doesn’t feel the same way then at least you saved yourself this early. You can go on a 3 day binge at home with chocolate (or whatever you prefer (chocolate is my first choice on a sad day) ) maybe have a cry, accept that it happened and hopefully move on. 

I think that you deserve to be in a healthy relationship. If you are agreeing to enter an unofficial relationship then you kind of have to accept that it could end really well for the both of you or a complete disaster. This is your own decision that you have to make and what chose to do will be the right one. You shouldn’t doubt your decision either. Love is going to make us feel amazing and also pain. Either way I am so sure that you will handle it beautifully and get through anything. I wish you all the best with this boy and I hope you stay safe and only involve yourself in people who want you seriously xx