Ashley | 30 | bi/ace | nb (she/her usually) Tumblr deleted my theme, so uh, bear with me. A general dnd, one piece, pokemon, mdzs, whatever blog Occasional artist. My art | My cats | My face My partner in crime. The platonic love of my life.
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The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."
The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."
Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.
#forever torn about posts like this#because I completely agree that the responses to those specific comments should be what this post says#but it kind of ignores a lot of the history of aphobia especially on tumblr#where ''ace people can have sex'' didn't really arise from trying to make aspec identities more palatable#it arose from people telling ace people that they weren't actually ace because they had and/or actively wanted sex#it was a push back against the gatekeeping of what a ''real'' ace person was#same thing with aro people who are in/want romantic relationships#this post is GOOD but also it's important that ace people can have sex and aro people can be in romantic relationships!#this from a virgin ace who doesn't want sex and an aro person who doesn't want a traditional romantic relationship but wants something#ace stuff#there's obviously still a lot of aphobia but GOD it was so bad in the past on this site
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can we all agree that it's pathetic when so-called "friends" try to sabotage your opportunities? you're clearly jealous that the amulet of eternal darkness chose me and no amount of "please fight it, i know you're still in there somewhere" is going to change that. crab bucket mentality. grow up.
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#i really really like having pressure on my hands so i sit on them a LOT#this has led me to become a relatively fast typer with one hand so i can sit on the other#or I'm really cold and i want to keep as much of myself under a blanket as possible#but if im working or something i do ten fingers but chaotically#but most of the time at home it's one hand
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the water rushes and we are still - 2020
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my least favourite turn based strategy game is email
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honestly so obsessed with this man
the whole show
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I love when trans people look back on their earlier art, its always so interesting
#i followed a webcomic for a very long time#and the creator came out as a trans woman a while ago#and watching her go ''i had a plotline where i met an alternate universe version of me and she was female#how did it take me so long to realize??''#was honestly so funny and great#good for her
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the visions have been plaguing me for days
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happy october! here’s some seasonally appropriate goth family
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still thinking about when my sibling's friend called luffy a hypermobile icon
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The production value here is off the charts but this is also literally just what it feels like to play Uno.
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#i love uno the anime#i also love how uno is a game that you HAVE to ask which house rules are in effect
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Welcome to Mimic Ikea! Don't worry about it.
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Look, this is what moral OCD is like for me:
I walk past a piece of paper. I don’t pick it up because I had a long day at work and it’s very cold outside. This then becomes my internal monologue:
I didn’t pick up that piece of paper, I should have. Don’t I care about the environment? It’s not my trash, I shouldn’t have to pick it up. But also that’s how these things happen right? We place the blame on others as our environment degrades. It was just a piece of paper, it’s not like it can do that much damage. But also how do I know: I’m not an environmental expert. Maybe stray paper scraps are killing the frogs. You’re literally killing the frogs. You should look up how many frogs die a year so you know how shitty you are-No stop it.
I care about the environment, and I recycle and I joined green activism movements but is that enough? I could be doing more. I should be doing more. I should donate my entire check to charity. But isn’t it self serving to think that my one check could help that much? Do I really think I’m that important, how self entitled and-no stop it, reset! You are obsessing and if you fall for it, you will not eat dinner. Let it go.
Okay it’s just a piece of paper. It’s okay you skipped it this once: it could have had something dangerous on it. Yeah that makes sense. But also, that means I’m putting my own safety over trying to help the environment, which is very selfish of me. I’m just one shitty person: god how could I be so self absorbed. I should have picked up the piece of paper. I’m so selfish, and shitty and-no, no, stop it! This is not helpful. It’s fine.
It’s been a long day and I’m cold, that’s not a crime- no that’s being selfish again, you’re making excuses. You’re just a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t care about others, and selfish and God the fact you’re thinking this much about one piece of paper shows how selfish you are, you care more about if you’re a good person than anything else, you’re a piece of shit, you’re a piece of shit, YOU’RE A PIECE OF SHIT.
I get home and open up Tumblr. The first post I see says “if you don’t reblog this post about the environment you’re as complicit as an oil billionaire.” I close my computer and resign myself to looking up the state frog populations until I go to bed.
I don’t eat dinner.
The amount of frogs that die a year is somewhere from 200 million to over 1 billion.
#im pretty sure this kind of obsessive thinking can also sometimes be found with anxiety and or ptsd#so like i probably don't have ocd and absolutely don't claim to#but jesus christ yeah#it's amazing how small things fucking can send me into a spiral constantly#and it's almost impossible to drag myself out of it#really doing a number on my quality of life
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