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not even trying to be inflammatory how are tme's/afabs supposed to not be transmisogynistic because it feels like everything is transmisogynistic. yeah sorry talking about being a biological woman is that, sorry. yeah talking about patriarchy affecting biological females is transmisogynistic sorry. yeah every conversation about how they perceive and "develop" their gender is transmisogynistic sorry. the terms "assigned female/male at birth" are that even though we already said you guys should use those before well now use terms that specifically use us as the default. sorry talking about femicide is that, same sex attraction is that, selective sex crises are that, male violence is that, domestic abuse rates are that, rape rates are that. everything is transmisogynistic if it affects women Or men. can you guys wake up.

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the whole time i was transgender i knew very well that 1) my dating pool would shrink significantly and 2) my sex =/= my gender, i would never experience "misandry" (bullying from women) until i was decades into hormones and surgery, i would still experience misogyny due to my gnc dress and behavior. being treated with misogyny made me dysphoric but i associated heavily with my sex because xx is just better than xy. in fact much of my identity was based in the fact that i was getting the best of both worlds, the privilege of the patriarchy (eventually) and the privilege of xx chromosomes. i considered myself a straight man because i would never have sex with a male body, i was only attracted to women, if i stopped being transgender id be a lesbian, i was lesbophobic and didnt want to experience homophobia and misogyny together.

it's really weird, to me, as someone who was transgender for six years, how people who identify as trans have changed. now, because we don't want it to be "all about trans suffering," you don't really get to talk about your sex anymore, because it's transphobic. this is weird to me, because someone's experiences in a misogynistic and homophobic society based on their sex absolutely matter. it's really weird to me how it's gone from "trans women are women, but they're still xy and won't experience misogyny until it's been decades" to really nobody even talking about misogyny anymore, because transgender men like me refuse to acknowledge their sex, and transgender women do not experience it outside of "why would you want to be a woman".

it's strange to me how in my lifetime younger people don't remember real homophobia. this isn't a bad thing. i'm glad the world is less homophobic. but i'm only 29, the AIDS crisis was in the 80s, my mom was told when she was 12 (she's 49 now) that it happened because homosexuals chose to be sinful, and AIDS was god's punishment for them. it wasn't about gender nonconforming people. it was about homosexuals. conversion therapy is about homosexuals. religious people tell you that if you are a homosexual you're wrong, if you're same-sex attracted you're wrong, can't you just be with a feminine man or a masculine woman, why do you have to be homosexual. people still pretend like homosexuality is because of trauma or daddy/mommy issues. people still call homosexuality a "lifestyle". but even lgbt tumblr is saying the same things, why can't lesbians like dick, why can't gay men like pussy, i'm a queer faggot and i like penis, im a trans dyke and i love pussy. misogyny isn't real, it's transphobia, like anyone asks your pronouns before treating you like a man or a woman. when i was transgender if a gay man was interested in me maybe he was just bi. i always assumed my dating pool would be bisexuals and other transgender people, because dating lesbians made me dysphoric but i don't experience sexual attraction to male bodies, im not attracted to penis. this has to be my internalized transphobia and not a real sexual preference.

feminism used to be about women, who are treated as objects and breeding stock as they have throughout history but now that's transphobic, we can't talk about that, unless you're a TERF, then you should be raped and die and kill yourself, trans people can't refer to themselves as their biological sex within any context, they're transphobic. listen to queer elders unless they're trans elders, they're sooo internalized transphobic. don't think about how the only qualifier to be a TERF would be being a cisgender lesbian. don't think about how little we talk about misogyny or femicide anymore. don't think about any of it, you're bigoted and transphobic, shut up before someone threatens to kill you.

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i wish i could be mad about something else but every time i see a post about "lesbians should get over themselves" i feel genuinely nauseous and sick to my stomach and so anxious to ever online date again. nothing is as gross as a penis i do not want to look at it or touch it or think about it why can't you just leave lesbians alone.

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“trans women aren’t stealing resources from cis women!”

This is from the Scholarship Institute’s Annual Women’s Leadership Scholarship….

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every time i see a "terf's" post i think about the list of urls "to be avoided" so long it was nauseating to scroll through written with the emotion that this was a group of people akin with neo-n/zis for their beliefs. and every time it's the most normal thing ive seen in a long time.

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it really is like if you say you're not attracted to penis no matter what environment you find yourself in you WILL have to deal with anyone saying "but you're not opposed to it right? you'd try it, right? please? no it's not normal you have to like penis i can't believe you wouldn't like penis don't women like penetration? don't they use silicone strapons that Don't feel like flesh and Don't react and Don't behave like everything that turns you off from penis? oh is it because you had a bad experience? are you sure? are you sure you haven't just had the right penis? but if you were attracted to someone you'd try it right? and maybe like it? it's so important to me that everyone tries penis and cock and balls EVERYONE likes penis and cock and balls please please please just try it"