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Wish we didn’t have to talk about ozempic every fucking day

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@taylorswift13: There’s a Christmas tree in my hotel room and I’m really happy about it. http://instagram.com/p/hgGdBojvI0/ 

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ya sure why not

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At the U.S. border control at Dublin Airport, Ireland

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As someone who really likes to read about music and cares about it I’ve been so depressed lately about how conversation still has to be refereed by boomer/gen x men. Joined sometimes by women desperate for their approval and eager to throw other women under the bus for it.

I’m so sick of women’s music being analyzed by serious music critics only in light of how much it resonates with Them. Like, I am so sick of hearing that Taylor mostly only writes about bubblegum teen shit -except for Marjorie!! Wow, Marjorie is so good because it’s about losing a grandparent, easily applied to losing parents, which middle aged people all have done. Or Cassandra, because they can relate it to electoral politics. Or happiness, because it’s clearly about divorce, whic middle aged men also understand.

But they cannot grasp or are even interested in grasping the significance of songs about being abused and fucked with in a deeply gendered way. Or serious mental illness when coming from a women who also writes pop beats. It’s all just bubblegum to them.

They always pick 1-2 women who are “real artists” but they can’t discuss their music substantially either and usually discard them in a year.

A lot of other fields have moved beyond it but music criticism is like. Here.

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do not raise a word against those crusty little white dogs in my presence. 1. they are some of the only breeds that were bred to live in a dumpy apartment not like a golden retriever who longs to swim and run and can’t even chill on your dumb couch cuz of the hair 2. You’ll be singing a different tune when the crusty little dog is a tiny little puppy and is the shade of a beautiful jasmine bloom… and you make fun of the old ladies for babying them when they’re crusty and old but someone will be taking care of YOU when you’re old and crusty and you will wish they love you as much as those old ladies love their crusty dogs….

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It’s amazing what a 180 my mother has done on the humanities and humanities research in just the past few years. When I was a kid and teenager she made it so clear that she thought that only math and science was hard or worth anything and it did such a number on my self esteem or sense of self worth. It was to the point that other adults would comment on it to me

And even a few years ago, when my literal job primarily involved facilitating peer review for a history journal, she would make snotty remarks about how only science involves peer review or evidentiary standards. And now she’s such a cheerleader for historical research and similar being real research, I love it.

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Blake Lively sues ''It Ends with Us'' costar Justin Baldoni for sexual Harassment, claims he caused her severe emotional distress. Blake Lively is suing her It Ends with Us costar Justin Baldoni for sexual harassment, followed by a retaliatory public smear campaign to "destroy" her reputation.

The complaint, which is a precursor to filing a discrimination lawsuit in California, states there was a meeting held to address Baldoni's alleged actions and "the hostile work environment that had nearly derailed production." It was attended by various figures, including Lively's husband, Ryan Reynolds.

Some of the demands that were addressed included safeguards such as a full-time intimacy coordinator, "no more showing nude videos or images of women ... to [Lively] and/or her employees," "no more mention of [Baldoni's] previous 'pornography addiction,'"... "no more discussions to [Lively]...about personal experiences with sex," "no more inquiries by [Baldoni] to [Lively's] trainer without her knowledge or consent to disclose her weight," and "no more mention by [Baldoni] of him 'speaking to' [Lively's] dead father."

"No more adding of sex scenes, oral sex or on camera climaxing by BL outside the scope of the script BL approved when signing onto the project," were other requests the complaint alleges that Baldoni and the other filmmakers agreed to.

She detailed her complaints during a meeting with Mr. Baldoni, Mr. Heath and other producers in January, according to the legal filing. She claimed Mr. Baldoni had improvised unwanted kissing and discussed his sex life, including encounters in which he said he may not have received consent. Mr. Heath had shown her a video of his wife naked, she said, and he had watched Ms. Lively in her trailer when she was topless and having body makeup removed, despite her asking him to look away. She said that both men repeatedly entered her makeup trailer uninvited while she was undressed, including when she was breastfeeding.

In Lively's complaint, which includes texts obtained through subpoena, and summarized in a report released on Dec. 21 by The New York Times, the steps allegedly enacted by Baldoni to orchestrate a smear campaign are laid out.

Texts included in the complaint include messages from Baldoni's crisis PR representative floating proposals to hire contractors to dominate social media through “full social account take downs,” by starting “threads of theories” and generally working to “change narrative.”

Justin Baldoni has hired Johnny Depp's crisis manager amid the reported It Ends With Us cast drama. Baldoni has hired veteran PR crisis manager Melissa Nathan who represented Johnny Depp during the Amber Heard trial.

Mr. Depp successfully sued Ms. Heard for defamation, and the trial became a spectacle amid suspicions of an online campaign to damage her credibility.

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fuck everything. whats the media people ASSUME youre into. what are people surprised that you havent watched/played/whatever

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Pro tip from someone who has watched basically every smear campaign against a woman on the internet: When you’re a woman defending another woman, you don’t actually have to say that you don’t like the other woman but you feel forced to defend her. Like, you can just leave that part off your posts.

Try it out! See how it feels!

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Looking through the Blake Lively filing and apparently one of Justin Baldoni's suggestions was going on a pop-doctor talk show to blame his "neurodivergence" for saying inappropriate and harassing things because it makes him "socially awkward" like he was responding to a tumblr callout in 2018.

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well.

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I read 50 books last year and decided that felt, at this stage of my life, too much like work and was killing my love of reading. Especially since I tend towards literary fiction and nonfiction and I just want more than a week and change to sit with some books.

So this year I went down to 20 as a goal and I only read 11 so far :( I plan to read a lot more these next few weeks but I don’t think I’ll make it to 20, which makes me sad. Everyone I know is having trouble reading as much as we used to, for probably a lot of reasons

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It’s kinda funny that 3 of the big millennial/zillenial artists today have recent songs referencing the Beatles/a Beatle (Maisie Peters-Yoko, Phoebe Bridgers-Moon Song, Taylor Swift-Sweet Nothing)

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Also hate the way that with more serious songs in Taylor’s discography the trend seems to be for fans to be like “it’s not nice for us to talk about it but if you know you know!!!!” and get all cagey about what they think specific things are alluding to. It totally destroys any possibility of actually talking about said thing- or even the artistic representation of said thing- instead of just like…signaling that you saw it.

(For ex, that WCS is implicitly about feeling forced or compelled to engage in maybe oral sex, maybe some other kind of sexual contact, with an older man)

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Or actually. It’s annoying but understandable when someone is complaining about someone either not super famous or someone with an insane fan base (to a degree, Depending) but the absolute worst when someone is trying to avoid saying something like rape or eating disorder or whatever.

Saying “Taylor alludes to her eating disorder in You’re Losing Me” does not make you an evil parasocial fan while “Taylor alludes to her ****** ******* in you’re losing me” means you’re a Good Person. Like cmon, grow up.