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My dad just told me that he looked at his clothes this morning and learned that nothing he’s wearing is made in the US and is self-reflecting about it now. And my first instinct was, did you not do this exercise in high school? Or middle school?

But I mean, yeah, that’s a millennial/gen Z experience I guess. Explains some stuff about present discourse.

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I think COVID has made in person leftist organizing a lot harder. If you try to meet in person the most loud obnoxious people accuse you of wanting disabled people to die and no one wants to have a gd Zoom meeting.

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Specifically, I’ve been seeing a lot of discussion about how young men try to correct women faculty via pulling shit up on their laptops, but tbh I don’t think this is a helpful framing because that’s not been entirely my experience. Women also do this with total confidence.

And if you teach courses that attract women and students of color it’s a full problem if the official line is that only white men do this stuff or cheat or whatever. You get punished, effectively, for teaching classes that appeal to diverse populations

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Once when I was lecturing on the second wave last semester a girl tried to correct me on women not being allowed credit cards or their own bank accounts based on some website she pulled up in class. From what I hear from people, students have been doing this correcting shit to female faculty specifically a Lot and it obviously wastes a ton of time.

I’ve also been seeing people try to win internet fights with crazy weird AI answers which is insane to me. This idea that experts know nothing and AI and Wikipedia know all….

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I can NOT fucking believe i am watching this shit happen in real time.

Overnight I've watched the wiki page for 4B go from a single line of text describing it as a feminist movement and four more lines beneath it explaining the rules, to now it being a several paragraph screed about how it is a terf riddled, transphobic, transwomen hating movement made intentionally and with the sole purpose to stop women from having sex with transwomen.

The article editing history shows this all being done overnight. It also shows it mostly being done by a single user who INTERESTINGLY ENOUGH has been flagged multiple times for getting into editing wars on the CIRCUMCISION and FORESKIN wiki pages!!!! You cannot make this shit up!!

American women only briefly floated the idea that they shouldn't have sex with anyone that can get them pregnant in a time where pregnancy could be a death sentence and like fucking LIGHTNING these folks come out the gate to shut it down in every way possible.

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I’m still not over Simone using Ready for It?. That’s great. That’s the soundtrack

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I feel such American pride when I see European gymnastics fans whine about “modern gymnastics”. Oh, our girls don’t take ballet anymore? They’re too busy lifting weights and getting strong and powerful? Oh, we’re bringing home gold and silver anyway? Good. Cope harder

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The only behavior I wish women would copy from men is caring less about people's feelings. I am not talking about family or friends, but literally strangers screaming demands at us. One of the reasons why women's issues are so much more policed than men's is because we are so easy to guilt-trip. We care so much about being liked and seeing as good women that we are letting people step on us. It's time to have more pride and less forced empathy.

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Girls had to put up with a million “teenage girls cut themselves for attention” jokes only for men to turn around and say people care about our emotions lol okay

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It turns out that my years of clarinet mostly prepared me to appreciate klezmer which would end up being the background music of a lot of the milieus I’d be in for college and early 20s

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I can tell that I’m hungry and tired because I’m working at my second coffee shop of the day and thinking extremely uncharitable things about the modern klezmer this place blasts

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I actually liked emails I can’t send and I think Please Please Please is really funny. But Short n Sweet is just not a good album to me

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I think TTPD should sweep, but I wouldn’t be upset about Chappell or Beyoncé picking up in some of those categories I don’t think.

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To me, being a lesbian is about wanting to fuck other women.

Also in my life being a lesbian has meant making really bad decisions because horny for other women. That is the primary way in which lesbianism is felt in my life.

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One of my coworkers is a non-binary trans guy in a relationship with a cis guy who is really into political lesbianism and is incredibly condescending to me about what being a lesbian means as if if I just read more Butler and Sedgewick I would unlearn my transphobic/terfy convictions that same-sex desire is part of being a lesbian and accept that lesbianism is about denouncing heterosexuality and heterosexual institutions like marriage (?).

This is such a s**** college problem but. It’s driving me crazy.

I don’t have any bones to pick with political lesbianism conceptually but it turns out that I find it annoying to have women’s sexual attraction to other women totally sidelined.