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Hello and welcome, in this article we are reviewing key points and takeaways from the book name mindset by Carol Dweck. I hope you like my article. So let’s get started and get to the points.

Take away no 1

Difference between fixed and growth mindset.

Fixed mentality is the possibility that every one of the capacities that we have, things like our knowledge, capacity to tackle issues and so on are generally inborn and there isn't much that we can do to transform them.

Though the growth mentality is to a greater extent an outlook that everything is an expertise, everything can be learned, everything can be worked on throughout the time. Be it our capacity to take care of issues or to public talk or the capacity to do whatever. Be that as it may, with saying as much, clearly there is a component of raw talent. There are individuals that are greater at singing naturally than others. That is somewhat irritating some of the time. However, having a growth mindset implies that you acknowledge that there is this thing called raw ability and you likewise acknowledge that there is a gigantic sort of opportunity to get better in nearly anything that we set our attention to.

Take away no 2.

How much we value effort.

In a society, particularly among individuals with a fixed mindset, there is this attitude that you should be able to accomplish something without putting any effort into it. Furthermore, that is the imprint of true geniuses or pros. People often feel like having to put effort into something means they are doing it the wrong way. The fact that I am working so hard to do things means I must not be good at the thing and in this manner I'm stupid. That is by and large how the fixed mentality of individuals approaches in life which is clearly off-base. The author tells us that she referred to lots of evidence that really shows that all that in life requires a huge amount of effort. Exceptionally with the geniuses. They are simply putting bunches of amounts of effort that we don't even find out about or we don't have the foggiest idea. Apple fell on sir Isaac Newton's head and that is how he found gravity. That is the story we find out about. However, there are millions of different trials that he fell flat. He set forth such a lot of energy, accomplished such a great deal of things and its majority is consigned to the disposal of heap since it's just the achievement that we as a whole consider. What the author attempts to empower us in the book is to reframe the idea of effort. Putting in effort is certainly not something terrible. We need to put effort into achieving any sort of results. Particularly when it comes to things like learning and studying. The more effort we put into it, the more our brains are working. And, the more likely that information is to stick within us.

Take away no 3.

Seeing opportunities in failures.

This is again one of those standard things that become such a typical piece of standard self improvement guidance. Clearly on the off chance that you fail at something, then you ought to see it as a learning opportunity instead of considering it to be a failure . Failure feels terrible however rethinking it as an open door can bring you one bit nearer towards your objective. There is no learning without failure and we as a whole know that. Furthermore, there is certainly no success without failure. It's like the engine of a vehicle, which is a fundamental fixing. For once we figure out the take away from our failures, it turns into a learning opportunity. When preparation backed up by failure after failure meets opportunity, success becomes a matter of time. That way we can dwell on our failures a lot less and focus more on what we gained from those failures and with what we can do straightaway.

Take away no 4

Progress beats perfection.

At the point when people are beginning something, especially with the people who have had any amount of progress previously, it is very easy to develop the disease of perfectionism. Some people are exceptionally successful in their business or in their corporate job and so forth. Also, they attempt to get the same results with other things. They wanted things to be perfect and this very attitude of perfectionism will let them suffer with failure when encountered. People may objectively be good at a thing but not necessarily be good at others. Being great at things from the start is fundamentally impossible. Instead focus on the amount of time you put in, focus on making progress. Quantity beats quality and progress beats perfection over the long run.

Take away no 5.

Developing the growth mindset is a gradual journey.

The entire growth mindset is a slow journey . Not something occurs over the course of the night. The author talks about how it is all about an ongoing journey and discovering. We shouldn't beat ourselves to an extreme on the off chance that we can't change our fixed mindset to growth mindset over the course of the night in each aspect of our life.

Well that’s the key takeaway from the book named mindset by Carol Dweck Thank you. If you like the article, please give it some love.

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This is the story of sovereign Tibet. That existed sometime in the distant past. An extraordinary nation brutally invaded by china. How did that occur? Come, let's try to understand it in this article. In the early archaic period, the Tibetan were aggressive warlike people, who struck fear in the hearts of their foes. Tibet was not always a land of smiling monks. It was a powerful country, loaded with experiences. Early Tibetans were forceful individuals. The Assault framed a significant piece of the neighbourhood economy. The Tibetan tribe made their home in the fertile valley of plateau and built castles on the rocky slopes. Consistent inter clan's battle characterised the political landscape. However, everything changes with the appearance of king Namri Songtsen. King Namri belonged to the Yarlung dynasty from southern Tibet and was something more than a typical faction tribal leader. He was descended from long existences of kings with divine mandate to rule. He built strong alliances with other clan leaders and eventually came up against his main rival, a charismatic chieftain known as lord Zinkpo who himself forged a broad alliance. After numerous battles, king Namri prevailed, he absorbed lord zingpo’s territories. By the end of Namri reign, he expanded his domain over the central and southern regions, the Tibetan heartland. But the victory was a fragile thing.

King Namri was assassinated by poison and his son King Songzen Gompo took the throne at just 13 years of age .The new young lord had to find a sense of peace with power and issues he had acquired. But King Songtsen was more than ready for the challenge. Upon ascending the throne, King Songtsen captured the traitor who poisoned his father and had him executed. Then immediately put down the rebellion subsequent to laying out homegrown requests, he rode west to subdue a hostile army causing trouble at the Tibetan border. Now an adult, it was time for King Songtsen to build a true empire. There were still more lands to conquer, Zahangjung, Aja & Nepal. As long as these buffer kingdoms remained, Tibet could not become a truly influential power in the region. For beyond these three kingdoms lay even greater opportunity. Whereas his father had been content to forge alliances with neighbouring kingdoms, king Songtsen had greater ambitions. He aimed to conquer them instead.

Alongside prime minister Ghai Thongtsen, King Songtsen had numerous successful battles. Nepal offers princess Bhirkuti and China offers princess Wincheg to keep peace with Tibet. After uniting all the provinces of Tibet i.e U-tsang, Amdo & Kham, King Songtsen died in the year 650 CE. Since his son had already died after just putting on the throne for a time and his grandson was just 3 years of age. Prime minister Ghar Thongtsen stepped in to serve his region. Ghar Thongtsen had a power and a freedom to mould the Tibetan empire to his vision. But Ghar was a very impressive leader. He was naturally wise, resolute, strict and honourable. A brave warrior and skillful general, making him a most successful regent. His ambition matched those of the deceased emperor. Ghar Thongtsen crushed many other regions. Ghar Thongtsen finally died in 667 CE. King Songtsen Gompo is credited as the founder of the Tibetan empire. There were numerous border disputes between China and Tibet in between thereafter.

Fast forward to the year 1912, a major revolution happened in China, where the Qing Dynasty ended and the Xinhai Revolution took place in China and the Republic of China was born. Meanwhile, all the Chinese troops were thrown out of Lhasa. Then his holiness the 13th Dalai Lama said, “we are a small religious, and independent nation.” Clearly emphasising the independence of Tibet. Be that as it may, the Chinese newly formed government never acknowledged Tibet’s sovereignty. China still wanted to continue asserting its influence. The new Chinese government also claimed Tibet. The British had to get involved to settle this dispute. The British requested them to come to shimla and have a conference and get to a resolution. The conference was held in 1914, representatives of Britain , China, and Tibet came together, but couldn't reach any conclusion. China did not sign the Shimla convention yet the English and Tibet unquestionably did .Over the course of the following forty years, Tibet keeps on being a free country. Completely free and autonomous. Between 1912 and 1950, there were no foreign influences.

Everything was calm and people were peacefully living in Tibet. But then came a big twist in 1949. Under Mao Zedong, the communist revolution was seen in China. The ROC government was pushed to Taiwan. And the People’s Republic of China was born, PRC. Mao Zedong's People's Liberation Army defeated ROC’s army. And the China that we know today, was born. Mio Zedong threatens Tibet that he will liberate Tibet and integrate it with the Motherland. In 1950, a declaration was made on Radio Beijing. “ The task of the people’s liberation army for 1950 is to liberate Tibet.” Where liberation means occupation. Mio restored China's old supreme aspirations to force its power on Tibet and to force the Tibetan authorities to admit that the chineses forces marching upon their country were not an army of conquers but an army of liberation from western colonialism. Mio was a staunch communist. He was strictly against all religions. He wanted no religion nor any hierarchies.

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“Nothing in this world worth having comes easy.” You got to put in the time, hard work. The road to success is always under construction.

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Always keep your faith larger than your fear..

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Why do you care so much and how can you stop it?

Most of the suffering we go through in life stem from you caring too much, you care too much about other people’s opinion of you, your work, the way you look and all the tiny inconveniences that you go through on a day to day basis. If you put too much emphasis on these things, it can lead to a life full of unhappiness. But once you dive deeper and understand why you care so much, you can control habitual responses to certain situations and you can develop a mindset that lets almost nothing stage you.

Hello, in this article I am going to cover why you care so much about others that are having a negative impact on your mental health and how you can actually stop caring about such things. So I urged you to read the whole article to understand entirely why and how you can stop caring what other people think of you.

So where does our incessant caring come from? It really comes from our basic needs as a human being. The biggest impact on most people’s mental health is our needs for acceptance & connections. We all want to be accepted by society. But a lot of people are overwhelmed by the fear of non acceptance to the point where they can not function to the fullest of their potentiality. The fear of not being accepted goes back to earliest human days. Back then if someone was shunned from the tribe, they would most likely die on their own in the wilderness. So, on the deepest subconscious level and genetic memory level, the fear of not being accepted equals the fear of death.

It really is that deep. The desire or need to fit in is a very human thing. It gives you a support system, makes you feel important, makes you feel included & validates you. And that is why our society revolves around pleasing other people, agreeing to everything they puke even when you don’t agree within, just because of the fear of unacceptance in case you stand your point. People lie just to impress other ordinary people and have them think you are cool or have something in common for acceptance. At the end of the day, even if they believed, it still didn’t make you more accomplished or more fulfilled.

Now how can we stop caring and overcome the fear of acceptance and fear of judgement? “We all love ourselves more than other people but care more about their opinion than our own” Marcus Aurelius.

The greatest obstacle to being yourself is being attached to what other people think of you. So you have to be willing to violate people’s expectations. You have to be willing to disappoint them and stand your true philosophy. You have to be willing for them to react negatively. But someone who is attached to what other people think of them is not willing to take that risk, so they end up being who others want them to be rather than being themselves. You are attached to what people think of you because you are dependent on their opinion for security and you are prisoner to someone’s idea of you. The key to stop giving a fuck about what other people are thinking and stop having this deep need to fit in is to deliberately and repeatedly make the choice to be a lone wolf. Whenever you come across these points in your life, where you want to do something useful and to the fullest of your potentiality but you are afraid of whether people are going to judge you and it’s holding you back. That’s when you have to not just commit to being a lone wolf & going into your own direction but also have to fully embrace that path and own it and be proud of it. If you are selling water in a dessert, does it really matter what people think of you? If you can truly produce something of value, their opinion doesn’t matter. If only more people had the courage to stand up and be who they want to be, against any odds and regardless of any naysayers, and ironically it’s when you stop caring about others opinion that you become your best self. And that’s when everyone wants to support you. This is one of the greatest paradoxes of life.

Thank you for your attention. I would love to write more of such articles in the coming days. If you are here, please like, share and follow.

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Power of walking away!

This article is all about why walking away is so powerful and attractive at the same time. There are few reasons why when you decide to walk away from anybody in your life, it actually comes across extremely powerful and attractive. So please stay tuned. Welcome to belli article. This is going to be my first article here on tumble. If you are here, please like, share and follow.

Walking away works on anybody, your family, your friend, your boss, your wife, absolutely anybody. One of the greatest superpowers one can possess in the real world is the power of walking away. It is one of the amazingly simple yet powerful things any person can actually do regardless of your background, ethnicity, religion etc. Why waste your life for people who never support you, who genuinely never want the best for you, why spend the money and time with a person who is not sure about dating you or going into business with you etc.

Now, how is walking away so attractive? Very much like no contact rule, which essentially implies cutting complete contact with someone, going silent and sticking to it. It is all about regaining or having the upper hand and choosing yourself over another person and seeing your worth. It is not like playing some psychology game at all & it isn’t similar to that by any means. There is a significant difference between manipulation and removing yourself from a person, a group of people or a social situation. And life is too damn short to waste it with idiots. Therefore, getting up & walking away is an incredibly brave & powerful method. Couple of months back only, I walked away from a toxic relationship of over two years. In spite of investing so much in that relationship, it ended up taking me for granted. I felt so disregarded & finally it hit my absolute bottom. Enough is enough, I said it to myself and walked away. Also, everybody can walk away from anyone if your worth is not valued regardless of genders difference, social status and so forth.

Now, how is walking away powerful and attractive?

Well, I will reveal all in the following four ways, why walking away is not only attractive and powerful but also utterly irresistible too.

No.1 You become a challenge.

The primary reason why walking away is incredibly powerful & attractive is because you immediately become a bit of a challenge. The vast majority of people are so uncertain nowadays that even the smallest amount of pressure or absence of clearness can send them to spiral of chaos. How accessible are you when it comes to dating & relationships? Could it be said that you are always at the end of a phone call, a little text and you promptly answer? Do you drop everything just to see that person even when you are really busy? Do you prioritise that person over everything, your hobbies, your work, your friends and so forth? The problem initially here is, you are not likely to be a challenge and as a result, you have found yourself almost utterly obsess for the attention of that other person. You love them so much that you don’t want to lose them & take all the necessary steps to keep them in your life and make sure you have no mistakes or make no mistakes whatsoever. Most likely you are kind of ripped. We have all been there though. For a man who give gifts, who show the affection to the smallest things, and ensure they are okey all the time and to the point where it gets irritating. And sadly, these usually brings most of relation to the cross streets and almost to the points of no returns. So, what is the solution? Indeed, walking away. By doing so it shows that you are not in that frame of mind games, uncertainties or any types of nonsense. It shows you have dignity, pride and an amazing amount of self-respect. It shows that you have that healthy boundary which need not to crossed. And now you are a challenge. The other person is stunt that you got up and walked away. They arrogantly believed that you will be with them regardless of how treated you. And just how wrong were they?

No.2 They miss your attention.

Another reason walking away is so attractive is the other person will immediately miss the attention you had given them. People are so predictable these days. You give them an inch; you can guarantee they will take a mile and take advantage. People are constantly taking advantage of other people, you name it, they will happily let you call them first all the time. They will let you chase them, they will let you treat them to nice things. They will make you put all the effort and all the work. They let all the effort; all the arrangements lie with you. You are the mouse, and they are the cheese.Ultimately you are trying your hardest to make sure that they will stay with you and make sure that they are always going to like you. You check on them constantly, you ask them how their days are going and so on and so forth. You are initiating the attention with them every single time and they know this. They think I have got him/her. I have wrapped his/her around my little finger. If I call, they will come running, if I say jump, they will say how high? However if you walk away, what happens to that wonderful attention that you were giving them? Obviously, it stops immediately. It comes to an abrupt end and suddenly they are at a loose end. They crave you more than ever. They will become obsessed with you because you have starved them of the very thing that they arrogantly assumed were entitled for eternity i.e., your attention. No.3

You are mysterious.

Human beings are always curious about the unknown. When you’re constantly available and everybody knows what you are up to, what you want, who you are. Then your mystery is non-existent. By walking away and remaining no contact ignites excitement and fear within their subconscious mind. By the person constantly knowing where you are, what you are up to. You show that you are way excessively available. However, suddenly you walked away and following anxiety clicked their mind. They start to question themselves, what are they doing? who are they with? Who are they spending time with? What are they thinking? and so on. Walking away and remaining silent makes you mysterious and mystery is very attractive. No.4

You regain your power

Yes, walking away regains your power. Having the strength to get up and walk away from negative and toxic individuals is hugely underrated super power. It is of course not easy to walk away from the person whom you have loved more than anything but it is the only right thing to do. The greatest power you can ever possess is the power of walking away. By tolerating abuse, negligence, mind games, toxicity, dramas, stress all the time, would only affect your life making it considerably worse. The upper hand lies firmly with you. What you have to do is walk away silently. There is no power in butting heads and continuing arguments with a fool. There is no power in butting heads and continuing arguments with a fool. There is no power in chasing and flogging a dead horse. There is no power in begging and pleading. However there is power in walking away. You are portraying the confidence and self belief that you will not tolerate anything or anybody that does not abide by your standards. This is not about being arrogant but for the right reason, which is your own self respect. It needs to be about yourself, not the other person. Thank you for your attention.