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Advice for people in their 20s from someone who’s just entered their 30s....

1. Don’t waste time being fearful: go for that job that you’re certain you’re not gonna get. What’s the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is really a waste of time.

2. Live in the present. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but it is easy to put off living until it is too late. Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Do one exciting thing per year.

3. Know your worth. This applies to both work and relationships; never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer. 

4. Don’t be afraid to leave bad situations. I left a stable but draining teaching job in order to protect my mental health. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your mental health. 

5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal - especially in today’s financial climate. Don’t feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. I’m 30 and still living at home, saving to buy.

6. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, it’s not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.

7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own person…Everybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.

8. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone. 

9. Be kind, don’t gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of annoying people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because it’s entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just don’t do it.

10. You cannot win every battle. Within conflict, it is tempting to try to force others to agree with your perspective. However, most people are set in their ways, and find it difficult to change their views and behaviours. This is especially important when dealing with toxic family members. You may never get the apology and empathy that you seek, so it is important to accept that every battle cannot be won, and gain validation internally, rather than externally.

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The Beatles return from America (August 31, 1966)

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John Lennon at Candlestick Park in San Francisco, CA | 29 August 1966 © Koh Hasebe

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I think my favorite Beatles song is Laura by Billy Joel.

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I don’t know what’s more dangerous, those fans who launched jelly beans at the stage or paul with an umbrella

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paul making john laugh paul making john laugh paul making john laugh

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and you can aim for my heart, go for blood but you would still miss me in your bones — part 3 of my beatles x taylor swift series ______________

“MCCARTNEY NOW FELT SHATTERED; the band - the life he had been a part of since he was 15 - had been cut off from him. ‘John’s in love with Yoko,’ he told London’s Evening Standard, ‘and he’s no longer in love with the other three of us.’ Paul stayed at home with Linda, her daughter Heather, and their infant, Mary, and began drinking in evenings and mornings alike. He stopped writing music altogether, and his temper flared easily. He’d fallen into a paralyzing depression.” — Mikal Gilmore, Rolling Stone

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WHAT THE BEATLES LACK HERE IS DISCIPLINE. They speak candidly of the loss of their manager Brian Epstein, who died in 1967. Though they resisted his authority, the suits he put them in, they needed it. Each Beatle has attempted to fill the void with a new life, a new love, a new diversion. We are watching the blossoming of individuals, parts becoming unmanageably more than the whole, beyond even Paul’s organizational capacity. The irony is that even as Paul enunciates this loss (“daddy has gone”) the father figure they need – George Martin, here sidelined by the trendier Johns – is reading the newspaper just behind him. But perhaps they knew all along: they returned to Martin for Abbey Road. — Wesley Stace

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Linda Eastman (as she then was) at the Beatles’ Let It Be sessions “The sad thing is that John and Paul both had problems and they loved each other and, boy, could they have helped each other! If they had only communicated! It frustrates me no end, because I was just some chick from New York when I walked into all of that. God, if I’d known what I know now. All I could do was sit there watching them play these games.” - Linda McCartney

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George Harrison and Paul McCartney in the studio, 1967; photo from The Beatles Anthology (2000).

“I just said to Paul the other night when we got back to his house and we started playing this little harmonium of his. And I started trying to sing ‘She’s Leaving Home’ and I suddenly thought, This must have been really interesting if you were trying to write this song — it’s all this big stretch over one Seventh, a C Seventh or something — and I suddenly said to him, ‘Now who wrote that bit? Was that you or was that John?’ And he said, ‘I think what probably happened as I wrote the first bit, right, then John came in…’ Then I suddenly thought, This is stupid. I’m asking Paul who wrote which bit of ‘She’s Leaving Home’ twenty years later! [Laughs] Who cares anyway?” - George Harrison, Q, 1988 (x)

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PAUL & (soon to be) LINDA MCCARTNEY “Paul has already decided Linda is the love of his life. He is correct. They’re inseparable for the next 38 years, until her dying day.”

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“When you witness the joyful eye contact between Paul and John, as they harmonize, you can also see the rage smolder on George’s face. (No poker player, Harrison.) No wonder this is the song that pissed him off; it must have been agonizing to feel blocked out of that John/Paul duet. Everybody else on earth treats George like a world-class artist, including peers like Dylan and the Band. But the Beatles still treat him like a little kid.” — Rob Sheffield, Rolling Stone Get Back review

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“On their first American tour, the Beatles were forced to make use of ambulances to safely leave the shows. At the Cow Palace in San Francisco, their limousine was covered by fans, who caved in the roof, and the band was taken to a nearby ambulance which was full of intoxicated sailors who had earlier been involved in a row.”

— The Beatles Every Little Thing, Maxwell Mackenzie

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"When George was a kid, he used to follow me and my first girlfriend Cynthia. We would come out of the art school together and he'd be hovering around. Cyn and I would be going to a coffee shop or a movie and George would follow us down the street two hundred yards behind. Cyn would say, 'Who is that guy? What does he want?' And I'd say, 'He just wants to hang out. Should we take him with us?' She'd say, 'Oh, OK, let's take him to the bloody movies.' So we'd allow him to come to the movies with us. That's the sort of relationship it was." - John Lennon

"Hi John, Hi Cyn.' He would hurriedly catch us up and then it would be, 'Where are you two off to? Can I come?' Neither of us would have the heart to tell this thin gangly kid in school uniform to push off. Poor George! He hand't really got to the stage of serious girlfriends yet and was totally unaware of what it was all about, Alfie! So we would spend the lost afternoon as a jolly threesome, wondering what on earth we were going to do with ourselves." - Cynthia Powell

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still screaming and crying @ the lennon estate's greatest impact in society: making john lennon, funny beatle extraordinaire, into such a bland soulless figure that mere 40 years after his death people are already like, "wait, this guy told JOKES???"

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me, crying: i love them a normal amount

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John smiling at Paul like this will sustain me for 100 years and I hope it sustains Paul too