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u guys are so funny when u send messages to me w some sob story like can i get ur approval that i am no longer acting like a stinky 🥺 i won't be posting these anons bc i am nawt your validation checkpoint but good for u

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I hope you're taking care of yourself bestie!!! And aren't letting these things ruin your day! ❤️

you're sweet the only thing ruining my day constantly is capitalism!! still, i prevail... i thrive. i hope you're doing well 🖤

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As a Hispanic coming from a Mexican background I've had bad experiences with white writers thinking it's okay to put BS stuff like, "happy Cinco de mayo." When they really don't know what the background to that was. Or "it's taco Tuesday and I'm about to head on over to this Mexican restaurant for some discounted tacos." I've heard so many Bs things about appropriating Mexican culture and I've stayed quiet and bit my tongue. It's ridiculous how they find nothing wrong with doing these things. As a minority, if we speak up we get bashed on. But If they speak up, oh no, it MUST be done.

we ALL remember pierce the veil influence in bandom we will never forget<3 i'm lowkey kinda glad people in bandom stopped playing these white latinas thinking they were being Super Ethnic like congrats to u but she means nothing to me

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also before white kpop writers get bold and think they’re better than everyone else and none of this includes them cause they’re playing asian characters in the rpc let me clarify some of you are actually the worst 😭😭

i never removed my pinned for a reason 🖤

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can i just say as an indigenous person in the rpc, i've had to desensitize myself to people using my culture to be "funny" and "relevant". can't tell you how many times i've seen people say shit like spirit animal and not have a problem with it ☠️ and the last time i brought up that it bothers me i got shunned on the dash from that day forward xo love that

no because you're so right and i'm sorry that even in fucking rp on the internet on tumblr dot com where people pride themselves on being Not Racist you have to basically swallow it down or you'll be accused of being a fucking terrorist or sum

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i am going to say my peace here and hope other white writers listen: as a white person, you have to take accountability and understand that the system of the WORLD we live in that was taken over by other white people was built on white supremacy, every white person has profited off of white supremacy even if you’re in a marginalised group (ie: queer, disabled, ect) we as white people do not! have! to! deal! with! racism!!! we do not wake up every single day afraid for our lives bc of the color of our skin!! bandom SHOULD be a safe place for black writers & any poc who wants to rp, fellow white writers you have GOT to stop putting your white tears first. when a person of color approaches you, meeting them with aggression? anger? “not all white people wah” bullshit? all you’re doing is reinforcing white supremacy - and YES unlearning white supremacy also comes in the form of rp too!!! unlearning it is a daily thing, an hourly thing we as white people can not stop unlearning the system that was built by it. i’m so fucking floored that this community coddles white writers so intensely - why? for what? because political issues that revolve around the literal lives of writers of color upset you? because an issue with two black actors that we as white people had no business speaking on bugs you? why do black people and other poc have to hold your hand? white writers in order for this to fucking stop YOU have to do the work! LISTEN to the writers who are dealing with racism bc of their SKIN COLOR which is something that we!!!! never!!! will!!! know!!! if you stopped for .5 seconds to /listen/ instead of trying to defend yourself and show accountability and apologise in a way that is actually legit and you grow from it maybe this space would feel safer for poc writers — like what isn’t connecting here? rp is supposed to be fun, no one is asking white people to leave like for fuck sake. if you’re a white person who’s that up in arms then unpack your racism and learn yourself google exists it should not take the constant words of people of color and black people for you to listen. i am so fucking tired of seeing it, you can blame groups for closing because of mods but that’s not it - it’s the same group of white people who jump the gun and want politics tagged, or a black actor for what? because you wanna be racist in private? stop being anti black, stop being fucking racist and grow up! it’s not the job of a marginalised group of people to teach you lessons, it’s OUR job as white people to listen and not speak over or for, and to research on our own — the only way this fuckery ends is if the white people in the community get this beat into their goddamn heads and as a white person like get it together for fuck sake. i’m SO sorry for cursing so much but i’m so tired of seeing the racism and shit and i can only imagine how exhausted all of the black writers and other writers of color are at dealing with it in a place where it’s meant to escape while they still have to deal with it in real life. @ white people in this community from a fellow white person, grow. the. fuck. up. listen and learn, stop making your whiny voices louder than the ones that DESERVE to be listened to and heard.

i'm just going to leave this here because MAYBE you'll listen to another white person since the countless times we've tried to say this - both nicely and not so - have gone over your head. thank u anon for at least positively contributing to the conversation. i know both you and me know we shouldn't need some white person to step in and reiterate the message but such is the world we live in huh

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bestie i know all of this is mentally draining so i just hope you’re taking care of yourself ❤️

you're so sweet 🥲 thank you for worrying about me. i'm doing okay and making sure i don't exert more energy on this than what's required!!

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The thing is if you’re a white person reading all of this and you truthfully know you are not the problem then you have no reason to feel offended. If you’re white and you know you’ve been very welcoming of POC and received them into this space with a willingness to listen and right your wrongs then none of this applies to you. POC aren’t trying to drive white writers out either. They’re not saying if you’re white you cannot roleplay in bandom anymore. They’re pros at co-existing alongside white writers by now. They’re actually not that desperate to fit into your white spaces anymore either. We’ve had to make peace with the fact that we are not wanted here and we’ve created our own spaces where we do feel safe with mods we trust. We also have white friends so we are very aware #not all whites. Just because we’ve made our peace it doesn’t mean we have to always be quiet either. There are times where we do wanna be heard because none of this is a recent development. Some of us have been here for years dealing with the same situations in different forms and contexts. The only real difference is that some of us are less docile and willing to let things slide after years of being secluded and disrespected.

Which brings me to my other point. This pattern of leaving one group for another group by conveniently blaming mods for all the disasters is pointless. The ongoing issue of isolating POC and disregarding their existence and concerns within the community doesn’t start with Fever and its mods and it won’t end there. They’re just the new fall guys in a long list of fall guys. Like Bandomslayed said the mods are accommodating the outlandish requests and demands of their members. Mods will continue to do that because they don’t want drama and all these anons prove why mods are obliging to these requests. White writers cannot take no for an answer and refuse to look at things from a different perspective. They’ve built this space for so long around prioritising their ignorant demands even when those requests and demands are rooted in racism or offensive to someone else’s existence. The issue with POC being unwelcome isn’t exclusive to a politics tag. Making mod notes or posts claiming how you’re not like the mods before in your brand new groups and boldly asserting you’re gonna create safe spaces for POC is meaningless when this issue runs deep and is the fault of the bandom community as a whole. Leaving one group for another isn’t gonna fix anything. Majority of the time they wouldn’t even leave these groups if there wasn’t any backlash to begin with. These writers only leave these groups for the sake of performative appearances so they assure themselves they’re not racist. When it comes down to having an actual conversation with POC or accommodating their needs or apologizing for a misstep we know how often white writers have responded with “I didn’t like your tone” “You were attacking me”. Pulling out of Fever doesn't mean a thing. Fever is not the issue and it never was the leading culprit. The issue is this community and the white writers in it who are quick to self victimize and dismiss anyone who tells them they're in the wrong. Saying you want to create safe spaces for POC is meaningless when you’re only willing to maybe facilitate POC if they hold your hand through it. If you really wanna make the space welcoming for POC stop putting your rage towards them in every instance and take collective responsibility.

i can't believe u went out of ur way to be so nice and eloquent i hope they read this i truly do.

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you: *points out racism has been rampant in this community for years and why it continues to prevail* them: “so you’re saying I, a Good White, can’t rp?? that hurts my feelings and you’re wrong” JFKDKFK? a hit dog will holler btw

literally this whole exchange.

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i hope all of these aggravated white anons realize that all of this spawned off of one poc talking about their experience in this rp community overall and used one group as an example of how this is still happening and turned it into how they are being personally attacked for being white. they have to be aware of how crazy they look right now.

they really are not they think this is all just noise and they need me to shut up so they can stop feeling anxious ): over being so seen about things they refuse to give any thought to

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u want to tell me to die soooo bad go ahead send it come on

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You're fucking annoying.

and?

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But really? Calling the person who wanted politics tagged racist? Then outing them on the blog? They didn’t even know them. It didn’t even have to do with the poc side of politics??? So why rile the writer up, I’ve known Jack’s writer for years in bandom and they are anything but racist and was just trying to explain themselves when they felt attacked. 🤷🏻‍♂️maybe be more understanding if you want to be understood and not say “you don’t care bro” when someone comes to you wanting to be heard. idk I wasn’t in fever and just have been watching the mess go down,not even in a group atm, but what happened with them was wrong and I don’t want to see people hurt because whoever has the poc issue didn’t get why they were upset. This is why bandom is so toxic now, we don’t communicate, we just explode and this happens.

"the poc side of politics" "whoever has the poc issue" HDJSJDSKKD

a person of color tells u ur doing something racist and u, out of the strong belief in ur heart, say: wow.... that crosses a line. id never hurt a person of color. ????????????????????????? do u not see it are u really THAT deluded?

also who the FUCK @'d that writer is my question. they felt attacked because they happened to be the person to request a politics tag in fevermedia alright i get it but were we talking to/about them to begin with? when fevermedia isn't the only rp that's had a politics tag? when this has been going on for literal endless months? no babes we really were not. stop zooming in on the issue

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this is an exaggeration but also really what you sound like when u think u did something

if you’re feeling attacked as a white person by people of color calling out these ridiculous antics maybe reflect on that instead of whining in the inbox of us LMFAO

me: i am a person of color talking about racism other people of color face

white roleplayer #3: this is such a hateful and toxic space that personally inconveniences me, a Good White,

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“people who try to educate go into attack mode” literally eat my ass, this is you saying black and brown people are being too “aggressive” when they’re done with your antics

i'm sorry this message is too aggressive and crosses the line of what i'm willing to pay attention to i think i will continue to be racist instead

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if you’re feeling attacked as a white person by people of color calling out these ridiculous antics maybe reflect on that instead of whining in the inbox of us LMFAO

me: i am a person of color talking about racism other people of color face

white roleplayer #3: this is such a hateful and toxic space that personally inconveniences me, a Good White,

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if you as a white person aren’t the “issue” then go collect the others who ARE and shut the fuck up

exactly