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hey man I found a piece of your soul stuck in the text messages of old friends you don’t speak to anymore. do you want it back

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Louise Glück's

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The whole tradwife “i don’t want to work women aren’t supposed to work, feminism ruined our leisure 😩” nonsense is utterly baffling to me. Historically unless you were lucky enough to be a member of the wealthy upper class, women have always always always worked. Throughout the entirety of human history. Often backbreaking labor, often unpaid. Idiots cosplaying a farm wife like that didn’t entail working from sunup to sundown every day without fail because cows don’t care if you’re sick while simultaneously having baby after baby after baby and the invisible labor of housework, until you very likely died young. The TV housewives of the fifties, like they didn’t all explicitly have hired help (AKA A WOMAN WHO WORKS). Even in their vision of the future, the fricken Jetsons have female-coded robot Rosie as their domestic servant!

Women have always worked, with the very rare exception of the wealthy, who employed them. Washerwomen and laundresses and seamstresses and maids and ladies maids and cooks and nurses and governesses and teachers and farm laborers and spinsters and weavers and and and and. Sex work literally is the oldest profession. Women who had the good fortune to marry well were also supposed to be able to manage the household workforce and keep the budget (omg 🤪 girl math). Brenda in Accounting has some very marriageable skills!

And none of these women, the laborer or the housewife, had much recourse at all if their husband or employer abused them or their kids. They had no security in their future if the men running the show squandered the (his.) money or they could not depend on their children to care for them in old age, should they even reach it.

It’s a horrifying mix of calculated evil from conservatives who want to be able to freely beat their wives again and ignorant twaddle from women who are so ill-educated or just so eager for male attention that they cosplay that shit fully confident that they’d be the exception, it would be okay for them because they’re different and Good enough that they wouldn’t be harmed.

Yeah, work sucks, we all know it. But women have never been able to escape it and in every case I’ll take a steady paycheck, my own bank account, and a 401k match over what was most likely to be my lot in every other period of human history. Yeah being idle rich would probably be nicer, but chances of that are vanishingly slim so you gotta make the best of what you do have, yaknow?

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"The scientific method is the only way to find objective truths" and "all systems run by humans are prone to corruption" are two statements that do and must coexist.

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Now, more than ever, we need to be careful about spreading misinformation and rumors

I can guarantee that over the next few months, we'll be hearing about a lot of alarming things going on here in the US. Some of those things will be true, and some won't. (And some will have both true and false or exaggerated elements.)

It's going to be absolutely vital that important information is not drowned out by misinformation, rumors, and ragebait.

That means, when you see something that would be important if true, before sharing, you check whether it's actually true.

In library world, we use the acronym SIFT:

STOP: Don't spread the information, or get caught up in your emotional reaction to it, before you've checked it out. INVESTIGATE: Who is saying it? How do they know? If there are links or sources in the post, do they actually say what the person is saying they do? FIND other coverage: Do an internet search for key details: quotes, people's names, specific locations. If something major is happening, there will normally be a lot of coverage. TRACE claims, quotes, and media back to their original context.

Usually you don't need to do all four things: just STOP and then pick what makes sense from the other three. If you decide to share the information, you can also say what you did--"This is a firsthand account from XYZ protest; it lines up with what the local TV station is saying, but has a lot more details about what the cops did," or whatever.

The more urgent the information seems, the more important it is to make sure it's reliable.

If we're hearing every other day that this or that vulnerable group is in immediate, life-threatening danger--but 49 times out of 50 it turns out to mean Trump rambled somewhere about something which, if actually implemented, could end up having the described consequences at some point down the line--then people aren't going to know the difference the one time in 50 when the danger really is immediate.

Think, here, things like immigration crackdowns, CPS investigations into parents who affirm a trans child's gender, or demands that health care providers report miscarriages to law enforcement. We all know that these are things Trump World talks about a lot and would like to be able to do, in some form. For the sake of the people affected by these topics, we need different ways of talking about, "Here they are, back on their bullshit," versus, "This is a policy proposal for a real thing that could happen," versus, "Holy shit, grab the kids and run."

We cannot go to "Holy shit, grab the kids and run" every time Trump, or someone in his inner circle, decides to bloviate about something that could disastrously affect people lives. The people who are most in danger can't stay at DefCon 5 every day of their lives, and when they do really have to grab the kids and run, we need that alarm to be heard over the constant background hum of dread.

The same goes for action items--whether protests, ways to help, or little things people can do to stay safe/sane. There's going to be plenty going on, and nobody is going to be able to do everything, so do your part by passing along those things that you can vouch are true and important, and skipping the things you aren't sure about.

I'll leave you with an example. Remember how a few years ago, we were all-in about hand hygiene and disinfecting surfaces? And then it turned out that those were not actually very important in terms of preventing the transmission of COVID-19, and what we really need is better air filtration in public spaces--but, at my work at least, we still have canisters of surface-disinfecting wipes sitting around, and tattered old signs up about hand hygiene, and no air filters.

At the time, early in the pandemic, we were sharing the best information we knew about how to stay safe, but people got a little too fixated on that initial advice--remember how people would wipe down their groceries? And those little sticks for pressing elevator buttons?--and then when the advice changed, they didn't want to hear about it.

Distrust, fatigue, superstitious attachment to the old grocery-wiping ways--there were a lot of reasons, but the key thing to take away is that attention, energy, and goodwill are all finite resources. Try to avoid wasting it with grocery-wiping--or worse, shilling for the guy selling little sticks to press elevator buttons with.

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really sad a new ice age movie wasn't coming out this summer because we could've had a horrible tweet from some official ice age twitter account declaring it "scrat summer" and potentially turning people off the whole thing. or not. i frequently hit my shin or toes on the really sharp bedframe a lot despite knowing it's there and i worry it's because i no longer have brain elasticity

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My (31) bf (32) found a strange crystal skull (4.3 billion) that my (30) bf (27) insists has a supernatural curse (4.3 billion) on it, but I (23) disagree, but I'm (18) starting to have my (9) doubts. Something's wrong but... can't put my (this many *holds up three fingers*) aaaaauuuuu

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I dont think people give enough credit to Elijah Wood for the utter sincerity, innocence, and resolve he gives the first hobbit we EVER see on screen - Frodo. the dedication to giving him the childlike innocence & purity of hobbits yet ancient exhaustion and eldritch agony of a ringbearer is seriously worthy of note. lots of people rightly commend Sean Astin's work on LOTR (he was Oscar nommed) but Frodo really blows me away.

he presented us with the first image of a hobbit, and along with the other hobbit actors literally astounds me with how perfectly they crafted such endearing and fairytale-like creatures, the living breathing definition of Innocents which you come to cherish and completely understand why every other race of peoples on Middle Earth (and members of the Fellowship) come to head-over-heels adore them and protect them with their lives.

it's so believable & the seriousness with which Wood depicts Frodo's deeply inhuman sweetness and fable-like wholesomeness obviously took so much effort and concentration. it's a role i don't think a lot of people could pull off without it coming off as paper-thin or (for lack of better word, forgive me) "cringe". especially with Frodo being the MC and having so much screentime he does a phenomenal job.

hobbits, like dwarves and elves have physical markers to distinguish them from the race of Men in LOTR but the way they developed their outlooks, personalities, mannerism, and behaviors to so UTTERLY stand apart from Men seemed more difficult than with the dwarves or elves yet comes across CRYSTAL clear.

and Wood's Frodo is a HUGE reason for that.

giving him mad cred.

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I get that some folks hate Shrek for ushering in an age of irreverant genre comedies, but something the irreverent comedies and Shrek detractors forget is that movie had heart

Shrek was, at its core, a story about how othering and marginalization impacts the psyche and causes us to weaken our trust in ourselves and our relationships with others.

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my life's goal is to make tumblr regret increasing the image limit to 30

anyway i haven't been able to get real-cat!plagg out of my head. (i blame @hamsternamedmarinette's post for making me think of my real-cat!plagg au again)

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I don't think it should be weird, for me to put a fruit fly outside

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bat opens up their little bat wallet to find they are all out of moths. A worthless $100 bill flies out for emphasis

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Friendly reminder that no matter how much you hate the results of the election, you should not post anything that could possibly get you on a government watchlist. Take it to Signal or something

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As much as I want to support ethical farming practices I will be buying the cheapest bag of frozen chicken thighs as much as the next frugal/poor person which is why animal welfare needs to be legislated, not left up to the invisible hand of the free market or some bullshit. Invisible hand of the free market finds itself around a lot of throats.

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types of guns rated by their names

machine gun- 0/10. all guns are

shotgun- 0/10. all guns do

revolver- 10/10 fuck it sure is