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That is.... so much more liberating than thinking womanhood is femininity, or lipstick, or shaving your legs, or wearing skirts, or conforming to misogynistic ideals, or somehow “feeling” like a woman. 

Honestly, I wish I could agree with this, but just on a personal level, I can’t.

I was well aware that, biologically, I was not male. I understand that my biology is specifically designed so that I can get impregnated, whether I wanted it or not, and potentially be forced to gestate and give birth to it.

I tried for so long not to transition because I figured I would just…snap out of it. That I was too stupid, or neurodivergent/autistic, to know what was best for me. That I’d somehow go back to being neutral or positive about being a woman.

There was nothing liberating about those years of forcing myself to be something I wasn’t. Of trying to seek help from radfems and being bullied, shunted aside, mocked, talked down to, and given useless (and sometimes downright dangerous) mental health and medical advice. Of feeling utterly trapped and helpless.

What is liberating about that?

What is liberating about telling yourself over and over and over again that you are something you know in your gut is wrong, that your body is designed for a function that you fundamentally know it should not be able to do, and that you can never change that?

Do you want to know what liberated me?

Accepting that I was transgender - that I am not cis, and that that’s okay. Starting hormone therapy that put a stop to self-destructive behaviors that have plagued me my whole life.

I am happy that you find pride in your biology. I do. I wish I could have, some days, too.

But claiming across the board that biology that many of us with dysphoria find distressing “liberating”?

It was not my experience.

Hate when TRAs are like “radfems suck because they dehumanise women by defining them by their vaginas”.

There is one criteria for being a woman, one box you have to check, and that is being biologically female. You can be literally anything else as long as you check that box, masculine or feminine, a Russian housewife or a Portuguese construction worker or British cottagecore lesbian or American cowherder. 

That is…. so much more liberating than thinking womanhood is femininity, or lipstick, or shaving your legs, or wearing skirts, or conforming to misogynistic ideals, or somehow “feeling” like a woman. 

So yeah. Woman have vaginas. They are also everything and anything else.

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Always reblog Bread Jesus story

(video tweet: https://twitter.com/Etherelle/status/1484410925490708481?s=20)

the work of etherelle: https://t.co/dPhLw3xuRx (carrd)

happy belated st sebastian day. no idea how to tag this.

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Omg I would buy this so fucking hard you have no idea

Concept Art for a Gamecube edition of the Nintendo Switch

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Pocket puppy

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your new gender is whatever you last ate (u r what u eat.)

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I am fed up with the media nowadays

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reblog if your name isn't Amanda.

2,121,566 people are not Amanda and counting!

We’ll find you Amanda.

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world heritage post (affectionate)

last night like 4am I still couldn’t sleep so I wrote a song while tired as death. will probably take this down tomorrow when better judgement sets in.

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Dogs reacting to their name being called

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i am LOSING IT

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Just saw someone say that "Marsha would be disappointed" by people wearing "overly sexual" outfits at pride.

Marsha P Johnson is not a prop to pull out whenever you want to make a point. She was a real person who didn't exist to justify whatever politics you're favouring at this moment. Her story and legacy deserve care and love; they aren't weapons to attack other community members.

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Oh man oh boy we sure are breaking out the vintage discourse for this post

Bad-faith discourse about queer media can best be summed up by Steven Universe airing the first-ever queer wedding in children's programming and everyone still calling it "bad representation" because they put the butch in a dress and the femme in a tux.

(Never mind that it was done so that censors couldn't rework the butch character into a man during localization, as had been happening to the character previously.)

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  Mermaid tail that lights up with LED lights 

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Oh man if you think being queer is cringe, wait’ll I tell you about the Catholics and Christians who continue to listen to the ramblings of institutions that shelter and protect child predators.

Anyway, off to write fanfic about Arwen railing her girlfriend Eowyn with a dildo crafted from the finest Elven artisans. Cope 💖

lotr would be more interesting if it had women and lesbians