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the way Ppl treat bianca rlly makes me ponder if all pjo fans are braindead

as a real nicoer i appreciate bianca 4ever

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WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS

WHO IS USING THIS

AN APP??? THEY HAVE A FUNCTIONING WEBSITE

THE LAST FUNCTIONING WEBSITE

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Nah, you're good. It'd be better to watch out for your enemies. They aren't escaping my wrath :3

Made some kin art!!

Chara from Undertale and Mink from Lego Monkie Kid!!! And then I drew my other kin, Jax, with his adoptive dad Macaque!!!

(I used a base for the last one, if someone can find it and the creator of the base lmk so I can add them!!!!)

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Made some kin art!!

Chara from Undertale and Mink from Lego Monkie Kid!!! And then I drew my other kin, Jax, with his adoptive dad Macaque!!!

(I used a base for the last one, if someone can find it and the creator of the base lmk so I can add them!!!!)

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Something I learned when I was more naive and still unused to people that really helped me to navigate the world was that sometimes people don’t even think of kindness as a “weakness”.

Sometimes they think of it as a facade.

For some people kindness is an act you put on only when it’s convenient, when your boss is telling a joke or an annoying (but aging) relative wants to see your children, something you only do because it might be beneficial either right now or in the eventual future, but never because being kind is a default state of mind or even a mask they’re wearing in hopes that their face will grow to fit it.

Some people genuinely just do not perceive kindness, or, more prominently, “goodness” as a real thing because they’ve only ever used it as a card in their deck.

And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, to exist in a state of neutrality- it’s better to be not kind than unkind, after all.

But when a person perceives “goodness/kindness” as “laying down and taking unpleasant punches/being a doormat”, it’s not impossible that they pass that really skewed version of “goodness” onto the people around them.

And sometimes when these people figure out that you’re a little thick, or god forbid, neurodivergent, they’ll realize they can kind of treat you however they want without much pushback because people will mostly side with them over you, given the inherent bias between an adult who’s learned to be kind on command and a blatantly delayed or disordered child/teen/adult.

So there won’t really be any pushback is someone decides to “teach you” that kindness is forcing yourself to tolerate what makes you uncomfortable, never voicing your dismay, allowing people to breach your boundaries- and in the worst case scenario, idly accepting unkind behavior, or even giving up what makes you happy if it makes other people “uncomfortable”.

Because that is what “kindness” is to some people- being good at all costs because it’s easier/more beneficial to others.

So if anyone needs to hear this, I’m going to say it very plainly:

You are not “bad” for establishing boundaries, or rejecting breaches of your comfort zone, or pushing harmful people away, and you are certainly not “bad” for doing what makes you happy when it comes at no cost to other people.

And if it takes you some time to relearn (or simply learn at all) your boundaries and likes and comfort zones, not only is that totally normal, but it’s good.

Because “good” isn’t just what’s good for others.

It’s also what’s good for you.

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YOOO (❍ᴥ❍ʋ) 🩷 I just wanted to say I like the way you convey and write characters. I also love your takes and perspectives on LMK. I find myself agreeing with you more often than not lol. I feel like some people in the fandom tend to portray Macaque or Mk as whiny hoes or uwu bottoms tbh (¬_¬). Which is whatever bc it’s their life ig but they be pissing and shitting them selves when someone doesn’t agree or align to what they think of these fictional characters, especially with the damm ships but I think that’s a problem in most fandoms tho (-_-｡). Anyway I just want to say I love and appreciate your works and your perspectives/opinions on specific characters, I personally love your blunt way of responding to things bc for me that’s the best way I can understand what someone is trying to say, most times I can’t really tell if someone has an undertone or meaning something else instead of what they’re actually saying y’know, (⊙﹏⊙✿).

You earned yourself a Freakbob🩷🖤🩷🖤🩷🖤🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺🐺

Okay, first of all- thank you so much! I’ve come to enjoy my writing far more than I did at the start of my blog, which makes me pretty happy- and other people enjoying it also is an absolute delight!

Also- LMAOO “Whiny hoes” is like… probably the best explanation for those two act in fanon.

I think it goes even a step further with MK and Macaque with how much I’ve seen people outright project onto them, which feels like a trend I’ve seen in general through fandoms-

Where people sort of “latch on” to a character with some shortcomings or “unrelatable” aspects, like being an asshole or maybe prone to shutting the world away instead of reaching out for help, which to some people makes characters not realistically flawed, but instead “wrongly” flawed, which they then try to “fix”.

MK/Macaque (any conventionally attractive/tall dark and handsome character gets put through this wringer, with Avatar’s Zuko being one I also distinctly recall undergoing it) usually gets whatever personality and identity the author had stapled onto him, and then given a stack of sadsack traits while anything “bad” or “mean” is scraped out because “that’s not relatable”.

Often the only “flaws” that are left are entirely PG and trend towards being utterly out of the character’s control, while simultaneously being “sympathetic” in nature, such as having anxiety, being insecure, being closed off from trauma, etc…

And for villainous/formerly-villainous characters like Macaque, fans start to sound more an abuser’s enablers than actual fans in a distinctly “The Narcissist’s Prayer” sort of way.

“He didn’t do anything bad!”

(Proof is shown of how they did do wrong.)

Okay, he did, but it wasn’t that big of a deal!”

(Proof to the contrary is shown.)

“Okay, it was kinda bad, but he didn’t mean it!”

(​‘He was just trying to teach MK a lesson’ yeah by torturing him and violating the consent and autonomy of three people.)

Where the goalpost is shifted further and further and further back because people are so desperate to cling to that non-existent “perfectly relatable character” that they desperately try to undermine any actual flaws or shortcomings the character they pretend to love as is actually has.

And eventually you realize that at least some of these fans never really loved the character for anything other than their attractive shell, which has been long hollowed out and grifted with “unproblematic” flaws.

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I think we all need some soup right now. Reblog to give prev a bowl of their favourite soup.

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Please do not send me asks for donations

Here's why:

I have NO money to give you

I'm not a popular enough blog that I will give you any reach

I am a minor, and most of my followers are too

It makes me feel extremely guilty

Seeing pictures of injuries or hospitals etc are triggering for me (which are in most intro posts for this sort of thing)

They are always worded in a way that makes me feel like I am a murderer if I don't donate

It makes me feel uncomfortable

I said I don't want them, and my boundaries should be respected

I can't tell what is a bot and what isn't

I get a lot of spam from this. It is disappointing to see 10 new asks in my inbox just to be the same ask for donations over and over

Please, just respect the fact that I have said this.

Edit: To all the people reblogging this, I'm sorry you have had to deal with this too. And yes, you can put this in your pinned post! Stay safe <3

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Save Mohammed ..

Dear humanity,

Please Help Me – My Son May Die at Any Moment. I am in desperate need of your help. My son’s life is hanging by a thread, and he may not survive without urgent medical treatment This was after he was shot by an Israeli drone He was critically injured in his feet. Time is running out, and we are facing a critical situation. I am asking for your generosity to help us save him – either through a donation or by sharing this urgent plea with others

I beg you, i kiss your feet, to help my son. My son may die at any moment

Donate now:👇👇 gofundme.com

‎‏Thank you for your compassion and support during this critical time.

#free_palestine 🍉🇵🇸

I have reblogged something recently that describes how I feel about these asks.

Kindly, I would like if no one sent me these, because I can't ever tell which one is real or which is fake. As well as the fact that I'm a minor and cannot donate.

I want Palestine and Gaza to be free, I really do. But I sadly cannot help.

Please stop sending me these.

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how is trump alive?? like hes rlly gone thru his whole life like That …. and no one has ever just fuckin decked him?? gave him the ole one two? knocked his lights out??? incredible

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I’m just going to leave this here…

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Guys PLS help me mass report this person, they've stolen a bunch of artwork from artists and sold them on redbubble. If you guys recognise any of the artist's artwork from the video PLEASE do tag them ,spread awareness and report them.

They've also used my social links as if it was theirs.

I do not own redbubble.

Shares and boosts will be very appreciated!

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Hey, let's talk about anons like this, because I know some people haven't been in a position to see the patterns these play out in on broader scale and may indeed not spot the trap.

And it is a trap.

An ask like this has several purposes.

First, it uses social justice language in passive aggressive and manipulative ways to try to coerce a behavior. In this case, the desired behavior is usually for the recipent to participate in community shunning and/or harrassment. The language above is intended to put the recipient on the defensive where, in the haste to disassociate themself from the Bad Thing, they quickly disassociate themself from the bad person, often with no particular fact checking or evidence.

The message is also intended to create a sense of being surveilled and judged by an unknown amount of people with unknown amount of social power and an unknown amount of relevance to your life.

Notice that these asks are usually framed as if they are coming from a follower or potential follower, someone who is addressing you personally and who cares about your opinion and who your blog has an effect on. However this is usually.... very much not the case. If you've ever had the misfortune to watch a gossip campaign from like this from the outside, you will very quickly notice that messages like this get sent in mass batches to dozens and dozens of strangers. (You can often turn these up with a tumblr search, if you look.)

The sender does not know you and probably does not follow you. They have a person they don't like (possibly for their stated reason and possibly not), and they are going through the reblogs of a post from that blog and mass messaging *everyone* with a form letter. They will not see your response and they will probably never even see your blog again.

Which brings us to the second goal of whisper campaigns like this:

Notice that I blacked out the names above? That's because when the recipient answers anonymous asks like this, they provide a platform for the opinion on their blog. An anonymous message like this that gets posted doesn't just spread gossip and apply pressure to the recipient, it is spread to the recipient's entire community.

The *goal* is to get access to your community. The *goal* is to use you as a soapbox.

Is the information accurate? Did anyone check? Does the anon have an ulterior social motive? BIG SHRUG

If you go into the comments on one of these whisper campaigns you will see that *most people never bother to check.*

They assume good faith from a follower, they're off balance defending themselves, and they jump straight to conciliation.

It's a really, really effective form of social manipulation, and really really commonly misused.

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Call me weird but I kinda found your cai🙏🥲

Uhhh okay— Idm lol

Are my bots good at least? /hj