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Wow we sure saying a lot of pointless BS on this one

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That phase that you're in, and don't want to be?

It passes faster if you let yourself be in it and learn your lessons and process the edges than if you stay in denial and spend all of your energy and attention trying to escape it sooner than possible.

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[When I enter their life, p]eople will usually write [me in to] whatever narrative makes sense within their contextual reality, and I have an unfortunate tendency to break [the rules of their designed reality] by breathing.

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[When I enter their life, p]eople will usually write [me in to] whatever narrative makes sense within their contextual reality, and I have an unfortunate tendency to break [the rules of their designed reality] by breathing.

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I learned the hard way; if your doctor is being rude, obtuse, isn't getting a clue, just refuses...LEAVE. IF YOU PUSH IT YOU WILL BE MALPRACTICED. YOU WILL REGRET IT. LEAVE. YOU WON'T ACTUALLY CHANGE THEIR MIND. BETTER THEIR TERRIBLE WORDS THAN THEIR TERRIBLE ACTIONS. LEAVE.

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people joke about archaeologists clocking masturbation tool as ritual objects but . masturbation is a ritual. it's a self-regulation ritual. life is full of rituals. we don't call them that generally but there doesn't have to be a grandiose purpose you know, it can just be a task you preform for a reason. and we don't need to invalidate maintenance. things break without maintenance. you are not different. and just because it's taboo or we're not supposed to talk about it doesn't mean it isn't necessary maintenance worthy of appropriate respect and diligence

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my ideal society would handle being able to talk about sex, masturbation, menstruation and shitting like they're normal things and not freaking out about it and making it private. naturally when we get in to oversharing Extremely detailed things, yeah, that can be uncomfortable, as it would be with any topic you're not interested in or not with whom you're speaking to. but all i can think is of that girl in PE class when i was young young that called me gross for...mentioning sweat. In a physical activity class.

So afraid to be an animal. And what's the point? everyone's life is made more difficult, body neglected, and for why? to pretend that we don't do normal things? because a dysfunctional body is desirable?

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Nothing made me happier than things like watching some friends I plucked from syscourse and protected from misinformation and the ever-present constant threat of tripping and falling in to propaganda spirals and perpetual arguements stop feeling like they need to educate on the subject or engage with the arguements purely because they're a system—or worse—because they're a system with a large following.

It's easy to feel like it's your responsibility, especially when people are starving for competent leadership and you don't feel like you're seeing any around, and even moreso when people flock to you expectantly on their own and putting pressure on you.

“You did/are # so you must know everything about #.”

But these friends were doing little more than endangering themselves, putting themselves through the constant grinder of stress as they failed to build appropriate boundaries for themselves and distance from the chaos.

All of these are necessary even if you are built for dealing with all that; there's not a clean answer as to when you'll know. The best I can give is you'll probably be totally confident, have an answer for every question immediately which you actually created instead of just remembering reading it somewhere, but even that answer is flawed.

Not everyone remembers "just reading it somewhere", not everyone experiences appropriate confidence for their level of expertise.

But I just want to say it's perfectly fine if you're unprepared to handle the Big Picture, and it'd be healthier for us all if we acknowledged that that's so extremely completely normal, and it takes learning a LOT of information and developing a LOT of skills in order to change it, which comes at a dire cost; it changes your life, forever, and subsequently shouldn't be a base-desire that's over glamorized.

I'm a big picture mind because that's what I developed in to; I don't think anyone should try just because they feel like they have to or because it's "the only way to be smart/competent/important/whatever", because that's just not true.

A pet peeve of mine is when people say "[thing] has been so damaging for [culture]" but the thing in question is new and absolutely all of their grievances that [thing] allegedly caused are older than said [thing], and I remember 100% of it existing beforehand, likely not even particularly exacerbated by thing; it mostly feels that way by people mostly engaging with the problems through [thing] past [relevant time-period].

Most common, I'll be blunt, is blaming TikTok, or any social media for that matter. I'm not defending the app it has a LOT of problems. All of them do. But the knee jerk reaction to seeing people have unsavoury opinions shouldn't be "place where people can talk must be the villain—it should be shut down!" and even if you, blaming TikTok or wherever non-seriously, don't mean that. You're contributing to the mass of people who do and who keep advocating for the destruction of third spaces off and on-line purely because they can't fathom the parameters past how they, personally, are affected. And possibly how their friends, not that different from them, are affected.

Deciding that your connection is the monster to be slain is not a new clumsy solution to social problems, it's a very old one.

Logically I understand they're usually just don't know or focused on the trigger but you know what's caused more damage than [specific new instance or platform of thing]? Boldly participating in the evolution of philosophy via vague online discourse utilising unclear language with the deliberate intent to speak on a megaphone to the masses.

And I need to get over this pet peeve because largely, it's not going away, so that's the best choice for my sanity whilst I'm bound to get all my entertainment online and am subsequently on social media more than I want to be.

But I do wish many who are distinctly not built for processing the larger picture, whom lack the information necessary to actually inform the masses or handle if their posts blow up to the thousands and shoot off-site and back to them, a merry “please learn to not speak like an authority on subjects you barely understand just because they feel close to you: you've become a victim of an internet culture that expects everyone of [identity] to be an educator and spokesperson for it, and you may feel overwhelmed by the presence of incompetent opinions on your dash but this won't help you, it only makes it worse, it'd be better to find content from people you relate to that isn't at least 50% discourse bullshit and to bitch privately to friends or semi-privately in chatrooms you can more easily move on from when you do run in to it.”

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A pet peeve of mine is when people say "[thing] has been so damaging for [culture]" but the thing in question is new and absolutely all of their grievances that [thing] allegedly caused are older than said [thing], and I remember 100% of it existing beforehand, likely not even particularly exacerbated by thing; it mostly feels that way by people mostly engaging with the problems through [thing] past [relevant time-period].

Most common, I'll be blunt, is blaming TikTok, or any social media for that matter. I'm not defending the app it has a LOT of problems. All of them do. But the knee jerk reaction to seeing people have unsavoury opinions shouldn't be "place where people can talk must be the villain—it should be shut down!" and even if you, blaming TikTok or wherever non-seriously, don't mean that. You're contributing to the mass of people who do and who keep advocating for the destruction of third spaces off and on-line purely because they can't fathom the parameters past how they, personally, are affected. And possibly how their friends, not that different from them, are affected.

Deciding that your connection is the monster to be slain is not a new clumsy solution to social problems, it's a very old one.

Logically I understand they're usually just don't know or focused on the trigger but you know what's caused more damage than [specific new instance or platform of thing]? Boldly participating in the evolution of philosophy via vague online discourse utilising unclear language with the deliberate intent to speak on a megaphone to the masses.

And I need to get over this pet peeve because largely, it's not going away, so that's the best choice for my sanity whilst I'm bound to get all my entertainment online and am subsequently on social media more than I want to be.

But I do wish many who are distinctly not built for processing the larger picture, whom lack the information necessary to actually inform the masses or handle if their posts blow up to the thousands and shoot off-site and back to them, a merry “please learn to not speak like an authority on subjects you barely understand just because they feel close to you: you've become a victim of an internet culture that expects everyone of [identity] to be an educator and spokesperson for it, and you may feel overwhelmed by the presence of incompetent opinions on your dash but this won't help you, it only makes it worse, it'd be better to find content from people you relate to that isn't at least 50% discourse bullshit and to bitch privately to friends or semi-privately in chatrooms you can more easily move on from when you do run in to it.”