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hey what's up with the "!" in fandoms? i.e. "fat!" just curious thaxxx <3

I have asked this myself in the past and never gotten an answer.

Maybe today will be the day we are both finally enlightened.

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that one mutual in law who hates you so bad

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It’s frustrating watching people talk about the attack on Mr. Shapiro’s governing estate and saying “This is what real antisemitism looks like, not criticizing Israel”. If you can’t criticize bigotry without offering a disclaimer about something unrelated then you are a bigot, full stop, and you are exactly the type of person who has helped enable this kind of hate in our society.

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prev it was actually "they're not actually fucking." I'm pretty sure there would have been uproar if Martin Freeman said the f slur directly reffering to gay men in a derogatory manner in a recorded public interview.

I can’t believe they’re the fucking cover 🤣

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look at these two characters…wouldn’t it be a shame if they…tenderly rested their foreheads together…

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So my mother and little cousin watched Stranger Things (I didn't yet because I have to force myself to wait for it to end but you can talk freely to me about it if you want I don't care about spoilers and never did).

And I checked the By/ler tag (typing like that so they don't find this post) and while I am rooting for you guys so hard (you? us?) it did feel impossible seeing the same type of posts "Mike is gay" and "Rival Ship are going to look so stupid when they finally kiss." and "By/ler is endgame and is/will be canon") and not have TJLC flashbacks.

And since I am obscuring the ship name on purpose, this is more of a vent than a warning, but as a writer, the only deciding factor on if a gay ship happens or not is whether the writers and actors decide it will happen.

I never thought the TJLC premise was that out there. I never shipped John/lock, but the idea that Sherlock is in love with John and even that John's rage was over his repressed feelings and his relationship with Mary was a cover-up for his bisexuality was never far-fetched. It's only in the details that it fell apart a little bit. The subtext was always real, it was just always intended as queer subtext and Mofftiss thought they were in the clear if they just called it a joke and said it will never be canon.

I also immediately knew I would ship Will and Mike when I didn't ship John and Sherlock because it has something they don't: an actual friends-to-lovers (as a concept). And this isn't actually a diss of John Watson or the validity of his friendship with Sherlock this time. I am actually referring to something else.

John/lock as a concept isn't for the most part, them just being close platonic friends first. It hinges on John and Sherlock flirting with each other as soon as they meet, being jealous of potential partners very early on, and both being aware of their own feelings on at least a subconscious level. I have no interest in those kinds of ships. I had a friends-to-lovers ship, and it's not that. This is just a classic romantic misunderstanding setup. It's a romcom setup. That's why it worked and for the most part, it's why it got popular.

And back to my actual point: it doesn't matter how much sense it makes. I know that Will is canonically gay and Sherlock wasn't. I know there are signs and parallels and that it would be great and make sense and listen—I want it to. I want us to win. I want queer kids to have this. I want to have this!

And a different rant: You guys go on ao3 and see that Destiel is number 1 and talk about how insufferable the shippers are so of course you are rooting against them. They are not the oppressors here. A teen girl wanting Dean Winchester to be bisexual like her isn't a fetishist. You love it when queer shippers shut up and just take what they are given and don't ever complain. I hate fanservice too. But not for the reasons you do. You aren't rooting for annoying shippers to not win, you are rooting for queer people to lose.

That's what's so frustrating about the progressive het-ship shippers (and I am saying the ship is het not the shipper, you can be queer and like a het ship it doesn't make you a straight person).

You guys go online and see M/M trending over M/F and F/F and you forget that's not how real life works. All your talk about cis white men aside, society will take a kiss between two girls over two boys any day, as they can at least fetishize it. I knew this as a kid, but then I see the discourse online be all backwards.

No. You at least get lesbians. The lesbians die, but we at least had them. We had Lexa. We lost her, but we had her. We had a lesbian kiss advertised and used to draw people in. And to some, that's even more painful. Those tropes are painful just as queerbaiting is painful.

And then I see people like that one Sher/lolly shipper complaining about shippers. Clexas weren't rabid shippers. Some of them were for sure, but they were Lexa fans who had this awesome badass lesbian as a leader and we lost her. Wlw lost her. Making this about shipping when the romance between Lexa and Clarke was canon and thus part of the canon storyline and therefore Lexa's storyline is just immature and disingenuous.

I saw someone criticizing By/lers by saying Will wouldn't come out in the eighties and nineties because it was harder to be gay and how being gay as a teen is cool today, and I heard the same thing in the 2010s, who I feel most of us an now agree were filled with homophobia.

And no. No it is not cool now. It is only cool if your friends are already LGBT themselves or they are very dedicated allies. Society is not as accepting as you think it is. It wasn't back then and it isn't now.

And I know I don't know enough about this so maybe my opinion is irrelevant to you and you might be right. I know you think every show is different, and maybe this one is. I want it to be. I want to!

But don't put all of your eggs in this basket. Don't put the cart before the horse. Don't hand your enemies this win so they can call you all stupid if it doesn't happen right now. It's okay to want this. It's okay to hope. Just... don't make this your entire life, please.

Shows can let you down. Even good shows, even progressive shows, even the ones you trust. Especially those ones as you actually allow yourself to have hope that this time it's different and maybe it is.

Have a queer show or movie or book as a backup. Write your own media. Create. Enjoy what others create. Having hope is great some times and heartbreaking otherwise. But maybe that's just my cynicism speaking.

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One of the weirdest experiences I have in this fandom is that I will say something that I think implies something very obvious. Then I will wait for some time and there's no reaction so I think to myself people don't care when there's no reaction. Then some time will pass and it will proceed to happen many more times.

So I live in this weird limbo where I don't know if people don't know or don't care. And I know this is my fault. I did this to myself. I severed my fucking Tumblr blog. It would be unfair to do a bait and switch now and beg you all not to leave.

But people reblog things from the Other Place. And I get a notification. And it's never from me it's from someone else. And I know some people don't check descriptions. And I felt particularly nefarious I could edit the description and catfish my own mutuals to see what the reception to This Person Who Isn't Me would be.

"You know that's me? You do know that's me? I mean you shared this content so you must like it. And you read my tags, I presume. So presumably you won't attack me for creating the content you shared and agreed with."

This is like organising The Devil's Sacrament but having a shitty disguise and people show up and drink and you're like "You know I am your friend who doesn't usually organise The Devil's Sacrament and had it in my bio but then I removed it. And once I saw a friend drink at another Devil's Sacrament and arrived there even before I did but I didn't want to pry. But I am also tired of the disguise and this fake mustache looks stupid."

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matt just fired half the remaining tumblr support staff lmao

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Bank Vole/skogssork. Värmland, Sweden (April 6, 2024).

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i am reading the most bizarre pseudo-intellectual essay about how all of the decorations and most of the scenes in sherlock are symbolism for how sherlock wants john to fuck him

like im not. im not surprised by this but i just keep reading and my eyes keep getting wider

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I just got called a Zionist for the first time guys

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whenever people say they can't watch/play/read anything slightly upsetting or scary or challenging because it's... upsetting or scary or challenging all i can think of is this lol

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i think its hilarious that the fandom has pretty much agreed that if all the versions of holmes met each other, there'd be a MAJOR falling out. but if all the watson's met each other, it'd be a decent, civilized conversation, probably drink some brandy, smoke a cigar, tell war stories, have a jolly good time, etc. i just think the mental image is hilarious

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LISTEN TO ME.

IT IS NOT YOUR FRIENDS SENDING YOU HATE.

IT IS NOT THEM.

YOUR FRIENDS LOVE YOU AND WANT GOOD THINGS FOR YOU.

UM GUYS. I JUST NOTICED A CRAZY ISSUE W THE TUMBLR UPDATE.

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UM GUYS. I JUST NOTICED A CRAZY ISSUE W THE TUMBLR UPDATE.