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the ultimate control kink trio

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Part 3 of upper-body tickling with @tklish-princess

I think she likes the paintbrush!

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After a night of releasing the animalistic side and finally being able to be in each others arms again, I decided to wake her up with some soft teases on @squirmygirl3 ‘s tummy and armpits… before starting to be “mean” and pin her cute lil body down and tickle, lickle, nibble and bite every inch of this little squirmer.

After I had my fill, I wanted to recreate the little video we made before I left.

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How dare they call me out like this

“your laugh is so cute” you have a tickle fetish you think all laughs are cute 🙄

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Some reasons why  tummies are a favorite ticklish spot -

Simply put, they’re cute.

They come in all different sizes.

The complete silliness of the word itself, “tummy” (almost as silly as “tickle”).

Very accessable. Its right there within easy reach for hands to latch onto and make you curl into a ball.

Poking your sides as you attempt to swat my hands away.

Playfully teasing as you’re pinned

Watching you squirm side –to-side when you are finally pinned or tied up. “Where do you think you’re going?”

Hearing you giggle and whine as your shirt is slowly rolled up

Constantly reminding you that your tummy is bare and vulnerable. “Aww, you’re so helpless.”

Smiling at your wide-eyed expression as my fingers hover directly over you. “This is REALLY going to tickle.”

Pinchy lobster claw technique to squeeze your sides.

Proximity to other ticklish spots; fingers can spider-walk up, to count your ribs. They can graze down each side. Wisp across your waistline. Conveniently fan out and dig into your hips. “The more you laugh, the more I’m gonna tickle you.”

Tracing tiny spiral designs around that cute EXTRA spot, your bellybutton

Tickly kisses, nibbles and rasberries

All tummies are good tummies and you’re getting tickled no matter what.

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Okay, so, tickle torture, but instead of getting you to reveal a specific piece of information or something embrassing, I keep going until you say at least 3 good things about yourself.

"Ze tickling vill continue until zelf love is achieved!"

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When your favorite lee knows youre having a bad day so she sends you tummy pics. HNNNNNNNNG 😵‍💫🫠❤️

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Tickling is like the one activity where "no" and "stop" and "not there" mean "yes please". This is why safe words exist.

You know, you're always saying "no" and "stop" while I'm tickling you. That's not a reason why I should.

... hey, here's a thought. I know you're laughing pretty hard while I'm getting this very nice spot right here... but I think I want to switch to your death spot now.

You have ten seconds to convince me not to get you there. Ten. Nine.

Eight. Use your words. Seven. Six. Make an argument.

Five. You can't think?? Four. Oh nooo. Three.

Two.

One.

Not persuaded.

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Dom red flags: a checklist for less experienced submissives

This is written mostly for inexperienced subs who are seeking doms. I would also recomend less experienced doms read as well, I could have used a lot of this advice when I first got started. If you have a lot of S&M experience, you probably won't get much from this post. Feel free to add to it if you reblog. Full checklist under the cut.

Aftercare - Always mandatory. While it will look different from different people aftercare is still an essential part of a dynamic. If a dom has a problem with aftercare, either your version of it or the concept in general 🚩🚩🚩

Safe words - Always mandatory. Safe words are essential for both doms and subs. It’s valid to use them at any time for any reason. I suggest two safewords for every dynamic. A pause word and a stop word. Yellow and Red are pretty standard in many BDSM circles and they’re fantastic for explaining the concept of each. Yellow or Pause meaning take a breath, check in, and communicate. Red or Stop meaning immediately end the scene and provide aftercare. If the sub is gagged or otherwise speech impaired, a particular noise they can annunciate like “Nuh uh," snapping your fingers, or holding onto a loud object they can drop to create a distinct noise are fantastic alternatives. No one should ever be made to feel guilty for using a safeword. If a dom has a problem with safe words, punishes their sub for using it, or doesn’t immidiately stop when the safeword is used 🚩🚩🚩

Check-ins - Recommended. In any dynamic, the dom has a responsibility to make sure their sub is comfortable with the scene as it’s being carried out. Sometimes things can get intense, and if the sub is in subspace, they may not always be able to catch when something starts to overwhelm them. To avoid negative outcomes, I suggest regular check-ins. They can be as simple as “would you like another slap, baby?” or “how does that feel?" or as in-depth as a full pause of the scene. I recomend simple check ins for short scenes (under 10 minutes) and longer water breaks and full pauses during longer scenes. Check-ins are especially important for inexperienced subs and anyone exploring a new type of play. If you think check-ins sound like a good idea, then ask for them! And if your dom refuses 🚩🚩🚩

Boundaries - Always Mandatory. You and your dom both have a responsibility to communicate your boundaries with each other. You also have the responsibility not to cross each other’s boundaries intentionally. Ever. If a dom doesn’t listen to your boundaries, repeatedly crosses them, pushes you to do things you explicitly aren't okay with, or refuses to admit that you don’t like something 🚩🚩🚩

Adapting/Taking critism - Very important. No dynamic will be perfect from the start. Expectations and desires change over time, and even the deepest of connections will evolve. This means that consistant communication and feedback during the dynamic is essential. Bdsm is not about a dom molding a sub into whatever they want. It's about exploring mutually held desires. Both a dom and a sub need to be able to tweak their approaches to each other with time, listen to critisms from each other, and continously adapt as your perceptions of the dynamic change over time. If you have a 24/7 dynamic, I would recomend a regularly scheduled pause every day to talk about the dynamic, voice any critisms, and adjust accordingly. If a dom doesn't want to adjust their approach for you, or shift things in your dynamic based on what you want and like🚩🚩🚩

Punishments - the dynamics conceptualization of punishments should always be pre-negotiated. What is the purpose of punishments? Are they meant to be fun for both parties? Does the sub even want to be punished? Does the dom want to preform punishments? What activities are both parties okay with? If a dom refuses to take all this int account, or wants to give you punishments you dissgree with despite any out-of-dynamic protests🚩🚩🚩

General tips:

Trust your gut - If a situation feels wrong, back out. If someone feels off, or if something isn’t adding up, don't do it. If your gut tells you to run, run. Most BDSM carries inherent risk, if you aren't 100% sure you're willing to accept that risk, don't do it.

Don’t compromise on your boundaries. Ever. - If you feel uncomfortable doing something don’t do it. If a fantasy or scene seems like too much, refuse. There are plenty of doms out there, ignoring your feelings for one that makes you uncomfortable is never worth it.

Talk to others in the community - Please please please for the love of god talk to other subs. Talk to doms that aren’t interested in you. Talk with your dom’s other playmates. Talk with your friends who do kink. Other members of the community are an essential resource and act as a great bullshit detector if something doesn't seem right. Provide support to each other, be as open about your dynamic/potential partners as you comfortably can be. Listen to their feedback.

Sub drop/dom drop - Drops are completely normal during kink. I’ve had them, subs I’ve been with have had them, friends who participate in kink have had them. If you do kink, you’ll probably have a drop at some point, and that’s okay. Your dom should be someone who can comfort you during a drop, the same way you would comfort them if they have one. Your dom should be someone who can make you feel safe during a drop. They should be someone who is willing to comfort you and be there for you while you feel those feelings. 

If you have questions about any of this please dm me or send me an ask.

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Best type of tummy

Made this for y’all this morning, then the day got away from me. Like I said in the video, better late than never! 😛

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Tummy traces are the best.

I don’t want to tickle you Kirsty…said this ler NEVER!! 💜 ———————————————— WHY DOES THIS GIF HAVE TO EXIST

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PSA: Friendly reminder that behind all of your favourite kinky blogs are actual human beings with their own lives and priorities who deserve to be treated with respect!

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Can someone bring me a lee to gently love on and tickle? I mean just the softest touches over their belly and sides, gliding along the waistline while I look at them lovingly?? Gentle neck and cheek caresses with some soft kisses and praise??

Please I do believe this is what I need for the dopamine levels to rise back to normal

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Don't call me out like this!

oh thanks for the compliment unfortunately i don’t believe you

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I believe in tummy supremacy.

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A little belly tease! (my moans make me so embarassed 😳🫣)