aspiringteenageauthor

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Exactly we aren't experiments

[aspiringteenageauthor]

Today I want to dive into the land of social media. It's a pretty exhausted topic but I want to share with you something I wish I had been told before I embarked on my social media journey.

See social media can either break you or make you. You're probably wondering, "gee where have I heard that from" well it's in pretty much every social media article there is.

Majority of them though, don't exactly explain how it can break you, they explain things like how you get so addicted to it you forget about other commitments which are natural but primary concerns.

I want to explain to you something I have learned about social media in the year that I have been active on platforms such as Wattpad, inkitt, Instagram, YouTube, Facebook etc.

Like every other teenager, when I first joined these platforms I was out to watch what my friends where watching. I found myself spending a lot of time watching relationship channels like Naka and Dom, Mazelee, Riss and Quan and the Ace family, I would keep up with the Kardashians and other celebraties. I would also subscribe to channels such as the talko where I would find out what Billie Eilish uses her millions on or what James Charles wore to the met gala.

Before I go on, I want to say that there is nothing wrong with these platforms, entertainment is good but i want to share my experience with you and hopefully prevent you from making the same mistakes I made.

When I watched the pranks they played in each other, the tears they shed over breakups, the amount of money they had and what they spent it on, it often left me feeling either neutral or degraded.

Before I continue I want to say no, they did not say or portray anything that could make me feel degraded.

See instead of aspiring to be a better person, I found myself wishing to be like them. I ended up comparing myself with the teenage millionaires and the reality stars.

I found myself wishing I was more like them, wishing I had Kim Kardashians body or Kylie Jenner's money, wishing I had Billies voice and comparing myself to them.

I started wishing I had my own Riss, or Dom, you get the point. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be like someone, it's something that normally motivates you to do better in life but I didn't just want to be like them, I wanted what they had, the way they had it and I started degrading myself because of it.

Most of the couples I saw on YouTube where mixed race so naturally like all of my friends, I started to want a white boy. I'm pretty sure I wasted a lot of good dating opportunities because my mind was set on having my own white boy, my own Austin.

See I realized that what I was watching wasnt building me in any way. It was merely destroying me and my already weak self-esteem. What works for others, won't always work for you, relationship couples, reality TV shows and channels like the Talko may build others but they won't always build you. If you're not careful, things that are considered harmless will destroy you. A wise person once said what uplifts someone else can bring you down.

I realised that instead of watching things that everybody watched, things that made me feel less than everyone else, things that often left me feeling neutral, I should watch things that would build me, things that would help me become a better person, that could help me in my future endeavors.

I hope my experience will make a difference in some else's life.

Again there is nothing wrong with those platforms.

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[aspiringteenageauthor]

This is something most teenagers my age face. All my life I've wanted people's approval, I've wanted to fit into the crowd , to be liked. I found myself getting very sad when I was different. If you're like me, you're probably a little weird. You love screaming everything you enter your sisters room just to irritate her, you're always in a hurry, you don't eat salads and people ridicule you for that. Guess what you don't need to be like them. You just need to be you. Beyoutiful

Everyday is a new chance to become whatever you want to be...you don’t need anyone’s approval

[aspiringteenageauthor]

Last year, I took an interest in writing. It was my way of letting go of all the stress I had inside of me. I was going through a lot and writing became my solace.

I loved the power and thrill writing gave me. I created my own world, where I could control everything. I controlled who suffered, why they suffered, when they suffered and how they suffered.

With the snap of my fingers I could change their reality, I could give them a son, kill their son or make their son gay. I was incharge and in a way I felt like a goddess. I was the goddess of my own little world and I loved it.

Join me as I talk about the challenges I face as a teenager, as a junior in highschool, as a girl and as an aspiring author.

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