asnarkyandironicusername

[asnarkyandironicusername]

“You’re trained in triage, right?” Remus started. He kept his eyes on the opposite wall. “And how, when disasters happen, there are some people you shouldn’t try to save. Some people you can’t save?” She nodded, slowly. “I’m one of those people. The ones you shouldn’t try and save.”

“I’m not trying to save you, Remus. I’m trying to love you.”

[X]

[asnarkyandironicusername]

the real Remus Lupin

i love the real Remus Lupin. you can torture me and i’ll still say he’s kind, gentle, polite…

yeah, all of that is true. but i love him too much not to talk about his other side, because he deserves to be loved completely.

i love angry Remus, who bottles up his feelings until he snaps so hard he throws a teenager into a wall, and for a second, there’s a wolf behind his human face.

i love desperate Remus, so used to being an outcast that he leaves his dream job without even fighting for it, and is ready to give up the woman he loves, and stop fighting for himself.

i love sarcastic, sharp-tongued Remus, who, when exposed in front of his dear students, just goes: oh, Hermione, you’re not up to your usual standard — only one right answer out of three, i’m afraid.

i love the worn-out-by-life Remus, who’s willing to thank people just for letting him live, because “it could have been worse.”

i love terrifying Remus, who was a soldier, who probably killed people and was ready to do it again if he had to — who nearly killed Peter the traitor.

because the heroes in the Harry Potter books are always complex and messy, and i want to love every part of them, even the hard, scary pieces — everything we were shown. i want to remember that Remus isn’t 100% good or 100% bad. but with all his problems and flaws, he’s still kind anyway.

maybe that’s exactly why i love him so much.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

trust that everything will fall into place without you forcing it there.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

🐺💥 Canon vs Fanon: Remadora vs W*lfstar 💥🐺

Someone on TikTok commented under a post about Tonks: “I hated her relationship with Remus. W*lfstar made much more sense.”

Hmmm... More sense? Really??!

How can a fanon ship built entirely on projection make “more sense” than a canon relationship that showed emotional growth, mutual sacrifice, and real consequences?

Ok, let's brake this down:

Canon Sirius never gave much thought to Remus’ well-being.

- In Prisoner of Azkaban, we learn that Sirius literally used Remus as a weapon against Snape. That wasn’t a joke. If Remus had attacked Snape, he wouldn’t just have been expelled. He could have been executed. Sirius didn’t care.

- Sirius openly wished for a full moon when he was bored in Order of the Phoenix. Remus answered him dryly, because Sirius was being inconsiderate again.

- Sirius didn’t even trust Remus during the war.

He advised James to make Peter the Secret Keeper instead, specifically because he didn’t trust Remus. He says so himself in Book 3, and he even apologizes for it later (so no, it's not a headcanon that he didn't trust him, it's canon, it's his own words).

- Sirius left Remus nothing in his will.

Not a thing. Remus was poor, homeless, grieving, and Sirius — supposedly his best friend — didn’t leave him so much as a spare room in Grimmauld Place. That doesn’t scream “deep emotional connection” to me.

And the go-to argument?

"But Sirius became an Animagus to help Remus!"

So did James. So did Peter. They were teenagers, it was exciting, and for Sirius, it was probably more about doing whatever James was doing than any grand act of loyalty. Sure, Remus saw it as a huge act of friendship, but Remus was a lonely kid with no friends. Of course he idealized them. Even JKR says in his official bio that his biggest flaw was cutting his friends far too much slack because he was afraid of losing them.

Meanwhile, Tonks:

- Lost her powers and her Patronus changed because Remus tried to protect her by pushing her away.

- Fought for his love despite prejudice, danger, and family disapproval.

- Was nearly killed multiple times because she chose to be with Remus — Bellatrix targeted her because she married him. Guess what? Yes, Tonks actually DIED because she married Remus!

- Left her newborn baby behind to go fight beside him, because she 'couldn’t bear not knowing" (her words) if he was okay.

JKR’s own canon bio for Remus confirms: he had never fallen in love before Tonks. As for Sirius? He always got the women.

And don’t get me started on fandom reaching:

• “Remus was living with Sirius!” — So were a dozen other Order members. Including Tonks.

• “Remus looked at Sirius for 40 lines!” — Because Sirius was unstable, and Remus was bracing to intervene. Which he did. Like the responsible adult he was.

Remadora is not just canon. It’s about unconditional love in the face of prejudice. About two people who chose each other even when the world said they shouldn’t.

And for the record? I’m not even a hardcore Remadora shipper. I’ve always written Remus with my OC, before Remadora was even a thing. But saying "Wolfstar makes more sense" is not only ignoring canon. It’s ignoring character dynamics, consequences, and context.

Ship whoever you want. Really. But don’t pretend fanon is more "logical" than the canon story about love, sacrifice, and growth.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

I once again find myself needing to remind everyone that the spell James Potter uses to hang Severus Snape by his ankles in OoTP was a spell invented by... that's right, Severus Snape. The only way James would have learned the spell was if.... that's right, again, if Severus used the spell on someone else first.

And also, the scene might have been the first time that he called Lily a Mudblood, but to quote Lily, "you call everyone of my birth Mudblood, Severus. Why should I be any different?"

James wasn't bullying some innocent kid. He was bullying a wannabe death eater with his own spells.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

aw look at them, so happy and healthy and not at all dead or orphaned

[asnarkyandironicusername]

My headcanon is that she never legally changed her surname because she still goes by "Tonks," but that she'll introduce herself as "Tonks Lupin" following the Battle of Hogwarts, which she and Remus most definitely, 1000% survived.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

need to ramble about my favorite werewolf: i'm ALL in for the remus loser boy agenda, but when i say my boy is a loser i mean he's all lumpy, with clumsy hands and worn-off sweaters. i mean he spills coffee on his shirt every morning at breakfast and thinks he's the most boring person in the world. i mean he usually prefers books over most people and believes that having many friends is overrated. i mean he hates too much attention and doesn't think he's worthy of good things. i do not mean he's unfunny, unsmart or has the humor capacity of a doorknob.

i usually don't really like bringing up canon, but i'm gonna do it just this once: he became my favorite character in canon (and then the other million fanon versions of him became it too) because of how incredible he was. i was out there reading the books and thinking to myself: oh god i understand why he's harry's favorite teacher. i wish i had an authority figure like him around.

and you can't be a teacher like that without being charismatic and intelligent. maybe he wasn't academically gifted like sirius and james, but he was very smart and a damn good wizard. he also had such a good sense of humor (and i mean really good) that was perfectly blended with his kindness and his natural way of caring about other people.

like, maybe at first he might've seemed too serious during his time as a kid at hogwarts, but the people really close to him knew how unexpectedly fresh his personality was. my remus is a gay half blood werewolf. this guy is made out of sassy self deprecating humor and clever puns. he's funny and fun as fuck.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

hi! I'm writing this story about a woman (20-27??) who lives in a haunted house, and treats some of the younger spirits like their younger siblings and the older ghosts like her overbearing parents, constantly warning her not to die in the same ways they did. I would like dialogue prompts for it or something similar please, thank you :)

Hi :) Interesting story and I tried to come up with some good dialogue for it!

Human/Ghost Dialogue Prompts

"You seem exceptionally happy today." "Yes, you could say I'm in high spirits." "That was like an awful dad joke coming from a ghost." "You mean, a dead joke?"

"I love living with you all. But sometimes it just gets to much."

"You can't always protect me from everything. You can't even leave this house." "Well, would you consider not leaving the house either, for your own safety." "Definitely not."

"We definitely need to have the talk about boundaries again."

"Every time people ask me about my family, I want to tell them about you guys, but I'm not sure how they would take the information that I live with a bunch of ghosts."

"I know you're always scared I would die the same way you did, but at least dying from the bubonic plague is not that easy to achieve in this day and age." "Oh, never say never."

Hope you like them!

- Jana

[asnarkyandironicusername]

In Defense of Remus Lupin: Misunderstood, Not a Coward

There’s a recurring pattern in fandom that deeply saddens me: the tendency to vilify Remus Lupin for the lowest moment of his life — leaving Tonks during her pregnancy — while ignoring the lifetime of pain, sacrifice, and silent heroism that led him there.

Let’s be clear: Remus Lupin is not a coward. He is a man shaped by a society that taught him to hate himself.

A Life of Stigma and Loss

Remus was bitten as a child and spent his life being treated like a dangerous outcast. Even when he did everything right — got an education, made friends, joined the Order — he lived in fear of being discovered and rejected. His trauma wasn’t just physical; it was systemic, emotional, and constant.

His self-control wasn’t just about keeping others safe — it was about trying to hold on to his humanity. When he calls himself a “creature,” it’s not metaphor. It’s how he sees himself. And that’s tragic.

The War, Grief, and a Crumbling Mind

By the time Deathly Hallows opens, Remus has:

• Lost his only connection to his teenage years, Sirius;

• Lost his mentor and father figure (Dumbledore);

• Been shamed into a relationship he didn’t think he deserved;

• Been shamed publicly and privately for not accepting that relationship sooner;

• Been forced to live under constant threat, while society still devalues his existence.

When he tries to leave Tonks, it isn’t out of neglect. It’s because he believes he is hurting her by being near (and, let's face it, he was right!). He thinks that loving him will destroy her (and it did!) That Teddy will grow up ashamed. That the best gift he can give them is his absence.

It’s heartbreaking, but it’s not cowardice. It’s despair.

The Scene We Should All Re-Read

“Lupin actually seized handfuls of his own hair; he looked quite deranged.”

— Deathly Hallows, Chapter 11

In this scene, Lupin doesn’t speak like a man who made a rational choice. He speaks like someone in the midst of a mental breakdown. Everything he says is steeped in self-loathing:

“I made a grave mistake in marrying Tonks…”

“Even her own family is disgusted by our marriage…”

“It will be better off… without a father of whom it must always be ashamed.”

This is not someone running from responsibility. This is someone convinced that his very presence is the danger.

Everyone Else Broke, Too

The wizarding world was collapsing. People we admire made horrific choices under stress: Harry used Unforgivable Curses. Dumbledore lied for years. Ron abandoned his friends. Even Hermione nearly erased herself from existence.

Remus had one breakdown (after a long period of pressure) and for that, fandom calls him a coward?

And Here’s What’s Strange

Fandom often bends over backward to redeem characters like Sirius Black — who was reckless, emotionally manipulative, and treated both Remus and Harry poorly — and Severus Snape, who bullied children, held lifelong grudges, and only switched sides out of unrequited love.

But Remus? The man who spent his life protecting others, who carried his burdens in silence, who came back to face the consequences of his worst moment — he is the one people won’t forgive?

It says something sad about how fandom defines strength and worth.

But He Came Back

That’s the part people forget: Remus came back.

He returned to Tonks. He held his baby in his arms. He fought and died for a better world — not for glory, but so that Teddy could live in a better world, and free from the shame Remus carried all his life.

And that… is not cowardice. That is strength.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

Love this! I've always had a headcanon that James was the only marauders who joined the Order because he truly believed it. Not that the others didn't believe in the mission, I just don't think it was their primary reasoning.

James joined because he believed that blood purity was dumb & wanted to help protect/save the Wizarding world.

Remus doesn't even believe that he'll ever actually find himself treated equally in a Wizarding society, but he genuinely believe that he owes everything to Dumbledore & immediately joins out of obligation.

Sirius joined because James and Remus did & because it put him in direct opposition to his parents & their beliefs. While he also wants a better world, again, it's not his primary motivator.

Peter joins solely because his friends did and he craves security. He wants to feel safe and there's a war and all of his friends join, so he does, too. Because his motivator was security, though, and not loyalty, or belief in justice, or desire to rebel, he was the easiest to sway. Once his security amongst his friends was threatened, he turned to the next person he could get it from - the people who were already leading the war.

Sorry, but Sirius Black was a privileged brat who supported causes superficially without understanding discrimination or making an effort to do so. Throughout his story, we repeatedly see behaviors that could easily belong to members of his own family, only instead of directing them at "Mudbloods," he targets other groups: poor half-bloods, werewolves, house-elves... Because Sirius Black never understood his own privilege, nor did he understand what privilege itself entails. He only hated his family, and therefore, anything his family thought was good, he thought was bad, but not from a studied, logical, or well-thought-out perspective. Not from a position where he wanted to give up everything that made his life easier, but purely out of hate, resentment, and family trauma.

And that makes him very interesting because he constantly defends certain moral issues and fights for them without truly understanding them. And not understanding them leads to him constantly displaying very questionable and hypocritical behaviors. He supposedly believes in equality, yet the first person he suspects of being a spy for Voldemort is his werewolf friend because he’s a werewolf. He supposedly defends the weak, yet he spent years enjoying himself while bullying a poor, resource-less kid who clearly couldn’t compete with the status or surname of the Blacks. He supposedly should treat those below him well, yet he treats his house-elf like garbage.

Sirius Black is contradictory and is a great example of the typical rich kid from radicalized, highly sectarian families who opposes those families, leaves them, but never abandons their privileged environments nor gives up their money or resources. As a result, his social awareness is very performative because he hasn’t engaged in self-criticism. And that’s what gives the character realism and interest. If you take that away from him, he becomes incredibly boring. So please stop saying he wasn’t a privileged elitist, because he was, and he also had violent and sadistic tendencies.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

I’m not a fan of Snape, so I’d make him the abuser if I were writing it. I feel like he would give a more interesting twist than Sirius:

In a magical-but-no-voldy AU, maybe Voldemort is defeated, James & Lily die but Harry survives & Sirius raises him. Remus feels wrong-footed with Sirius because he knows that they suspected him of being the spy at least in part due to his lycanthropy, so, one night at the pub - still reeling from the changes in his life - Remus bumps into Snape. Snape is also displeased at his current predicament, but blames Remus in part because he almost killed him at Hogwarts. They end up hatefucking & it’s meant to be a one time thing, but Snape realizes how easily Remus is manipulated and takes advantage of it and eventually it turns into a complicated relationship of sorts. Remus stays only out of a sense of obligation and because he sees it as a form of self punishment - like it’s something he deserves because of his Lycanthropy. In this AU (ages/timelines would need to be changed), Tonks is assigned to his case shortly after she is hired because they are still cleaning up after the defeat of voldy. She sees what is happening & helps him leave Snape. Along the way, he reconnects with Sirius and Harry, who he had lost contact with at Snape’s insistence.

In a non-magical AU, it’d basically be the same but Remus first hooks up with Snape because Snape told him he owed it to him after costing him Lily because Snape didn’t believe that Remus was as chronically ill as he claimed so Sirius told him one of Remus’s flare triggers and Snape does it to him, but James saves Remus from the flare’s worst parts and Lily is impressed. James & Lily would die in a car crash & Remus would grow distant with Sirius & Harry because he felt like a burden & then Snape would continue to convince him that he was one until he lost all contact, but by the end they’d all reconnect. Tonks would meet Remus when she is hired to work at the library as the children’s director and Remus is just general staff. She sees what is happening & helps him leave Snape. I’d have him actually move in with Sirius & Harry while he and Tonks begin their relationship because it leaves him hesitant to become dependent on another person so quickly. While Tonks can be impulsive, I’d have that be part of her character arc, learning to be patient with important things, and she’d tell him that she’s willing to go at whatever pace he needs. She’ll still manage to draw him slightly outside of his comfort zone, but in a good way.

So an idea I've been playing with in my head for a while. Tell me what you think.

Remus is in an abusive relationship (physical, financial and emotional) with either Snape or Sirius.

Tonks finds out what's happening accidentally, and wants to help. She doesn't quite know how. She can't bear to see anyone suffer having suffered some similar things in the past.

With support from Tonks, will Remus have the strength to leave his abuser? Will Tonks be patient enough to help (I feel she can be impulsive at times).

Neither expects to fall in love with each other. Tonks and Lupin are pansexual, drawn more to a personality rather than anything being sexual.

What do you guys think? Who should be the abuser? Snape or Black? I'm 50/50 at present. I can make either of them work.

Will of course be an AU.

Let me know what you think in the comments section.

[asnarkyandironicusername]

A literal note from my “detailed outline”:

“Chapter 07: Full Moon”

(Other chapters have paragraph’s of info, but there are a few that are only two or three words)

me, struggling to write: hmm, this part is a little difficult. maybe i should check my planning document, which i created as a helpful tool for my writing process!

the planning document:

[asnarkyandironicusername]

Some idiot: "Why are you reading your own fic, that's shallow and stupid"

All fanfic writers and writers everywhere: "Who the fuck do you think I wrote it for?!"

[asnarkyandironicusername]

subscribing to a fic isn’t enough I need the author to blast a bat signal into the night sky whenever they update

[asnarkyandironicusername]

My villain origin story is the time Google Docs autocorrected “irrefusable” to “unrefusable” and then flagged “unrefusable” as incorrect. Buddy, you made that mistake, I knew what I was doing😂😂😂

Do you think I meant to write "stoopid" google docs. Do you think I meant to describe a character as "stoopid." Do you think that is what I meant to do