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old people are allowed to be horny. so what if your elderly neighbor posted her cowboy sex fantasy on Facebook. so what if your nana only watches westerns where the main character is shirtless 40% of the time. so what if your great aunt reads bodice rippers voraciously. they’re loving life.

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I haven’t posted anything about Luigi Mangione and all of that yet, but I just have to say that it’s been hitting me hard. For lots of reasons, not the least of which is that I had a cousin—about twelve years younger than I—who had serious back pain/back issues. After a couple years, his insurance stopped covering his pain meds, but he still had such severe back pain that he couldn’t function without it. So he started getting opioids illegally, and wound up with a dose that was cut with fentanyl, and died. He was 21. He’d be 30, now. He should have been able to continue getting pain medication safely and legally, and covered by his insurance. He should still be alive.

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seeing a lot of people suggest that healthcare CEOs should go into hiding or employ more private security and i could not possibly disagree more. you can't live the rest of your life in fear. i think it's imperative that they get back to work, in person at least 3 days a week at the headquarters address listed on their company's website.

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I hate when people are like “as a child of divorced parents, divorce is terrible 🥺” as the child of divorced parents who had a contentious and toxic divorce, divorce is awesome, it’s vital and liberating

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The extreme difference between these photos is mind boggling

How this country treats someone who (ALLEGEDLY) killed ONE PERSON

Verses how this country treats a man who has and continues to bomb people he knows are innocent…

Update: and the one on the left possibly faces the death penalty. Here’s my thoughts.

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legit so annoyed about the way the corporate media wants to paint those women waiting outside the court as crazy and as only being there because Luigi is hot. I looked up pictures of them outside the court and they all held signs and were there to send a message: "health over wealth", "denial of medical care = violence", "murder for profit = terrorism", "the United States healthcare stole my livelihood", "insurance lobbyists line politicians' pockets", "healthcare reform NOW". Yeah, they're there because he's hot for sure. Also, there were a lot of men as well but hey, that's not helping the narrative right?

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July 25 2020 - A tear gas grenade tossed by a federal agent is caught in mid-air by a protester using a lacrosse stick and returned back over the fence, after which other protesters treat the feds to some fireworks. [video]

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Costume appreciation series: The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992) dir Brian Henson

Costume Design by Ann Hollowood and Polly Smith

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this callout couldve been a block button

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if you have the Honey browser extension installed, uninstall it immediately. big big story broke on youtube today strongly indicating that Honey has been massively defrauding basically everyone who does any business with them at every level, including influencers, customers, and actual retailers.

the short version of ONE of the alleged crimes is that they've been hijacking referral links and codes. if you have honey installed on your browser at all, and you use any referral code from anyone, there is a high probability honey will swap out the referral link identifier for their own even if they don't provide a coupon at checkout.

they also are just lying to you, and hiding coupons that very much exist. they're completely fraudulent

paypal bought honey in 2019 for 4 billion, so paypal has been strip mining the influencer economy for 5 years now. the amount of money that's been essentially stolen is unfathomable

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[“Sometimes it’s a curse, and sometimes it’s a blessing,” said Greg Siegle, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist at the University of Pittsburgh. He studies the brains of C-PTSD patients, and he told me that my suspicions were right—there were many ways in which C-PTSD could be considered an actual asset. “I call them superpowers,” he told me. “So many of what we call psychopathologies are actually skills and capabilities gone awry.”

Much of my research had stated that people with PTSD had shrunken prefrontal cortices—that experiencing triggers often shut down the logical centers of our brains and left us irrational and incapable of complex thought. But Siegle told me he’d discovered that research to be flawed. He’d found that for many people with complex PTSD, the exact opposite was happening. In moments of intense stress and trauma, our prefrontal cortices were actually far more active.

Normally, if you’re facing a threat, your body immediately reacts to it. Your heart starts pumping blood. The hair on the back of your neck stands up. This is all in service of getting blood to your legs so you can run the hell away from it. On top of this, you feel your heart beating faster. You recognize that you’re freaking out. That makes you even more anxious, and your heart beats even faster.

But Siegle told me, “As far as we can tell with complex PTSD, in really stressful situations, you’ve got this coping skill that allows the prefrontal cortex to just shut off some of our evolutionary freak-out mechanisms and instead have high levels of prefrontal activity. So our bodies stop reacting.”

In other words, in some moments of intense stress, we are super-duper good at dissociation. Our hearts don’t pump as hard. Our brains cut themselves off from our bodies, so we don’t really have that feedback loop of getting anxious about getting anxious. Instead, our prefrontal cortices blink online—we become hyperrational. Super focused. Calm.

Siegle explained it this way: “If running away has never been an option for you, you have to be cunning and do other things. So it’s like, this is time to bring all of our resources online, because we’re going to survive this.”

People with C-PTSD might have an outsized, gnarly freak-out about a cockroach in the house or a flash of anger on someone’s face. But in times of real danger—when someone furious is coming toward us with an actual machete in their hand, ready to kill—we face the problem head-on, while everyone else is cowering. A lot of the time, we’re the ones getting shit done.”]

Stephanie Foo, from What My Bones Know: Healing From Complex Trauma

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CNN suggested that Luigi Mangione stage a boycott instead of what he did. a boycott of the health care industry. exercising my right to protest by fucking dying.

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The only way in which selling sex is exceptional as a form of work is that it involves having sex.

Sex work is not more emotionally intimate than all other forms of work. Emotional intimacy can be involved in therapy, care work, and writing about deeply personal topics.

Sex work is not the only form of work which can involve genital contact. This happens in medical environments, care work and when giving genital piercings.

Sex work is not uniquely dangerous. Fishing, construction and underwater welding all have high fatality and injury rates.

Sex work is not more prone to trafficking than all other forms of work. People are trafficked in huge numbers in the agricultural industry and for the manufacture of textiles.

Sex work is not the only form of work which involves frequent sexual harassment. People are often sexually harassed whilst doing bar work, waiting tables and providing health care and social assistance.

Sex work is not the only type of work that is criminalized. Other types of work like busking without a license, drug dealing, con artistry and any kind of job which requires authorisation form a third party where that isn't obtained.

Stop it with the sex work exceptionalism! Treat it like other work.

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In my community right now there's a missing teen and a lot of people I know are sharing their missing poster on social media. I'm being asked to share it too.

Trouble is I'm reluctant because I'm skeptical of the narrative about why the teen is missing. They're being described as "troubled". I also grew up "troubled", and in my case the trouble was my parents. I was too scared to attempt running away but I can understand why some kids do. But most adults seem to think runaways are all either crazy or just spoiled brats.

I might be over thinking it but I don't want to be complicit in maybe helping return a kid to an abusive or toxic household. But I also know the streets come with their own dangers. Is there a right thing to do here?

Yeah, don't share missing person posters unless you absolutely know the person's situation intimately. Much of the time when a person (especially a young person) is reported missing, they have fled from an abuser or a parent who is fighting for custody over them, and the last thing you want to do is put them on blast. If you want to look after the wellbeing of missing or runaway teens, the best thing that you can do is support the unhoused people in your area by helping them with money, food, access to housing and warming centers, etc -- you do not want to get involved with the police apparatus that is responsible for following leads on a missing person's case, or the people who decided to make a missing person's filing with the cops.