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It is not only uncomfortable but legitimately heartbreaking to me when the ideal “feminist” sexualization of men is a soft, gentle, maybe a lil dumb, kind man who is good with animals and would die protecting you and could not imagine hurting you, whereas the sexualized ideal for butches tends to be a more classically dominant, aggressive, almost-or-legitimately BDSM role where they insult you, are rough with you, “get what they want” from you, etc. Like this actually fucking hurts so much and it���s painful that this is framed as progressive simply by nature of being gay. Like, it’s the same unhealthy sexual dynamic but since they’re a butch it’s fine? The same heteropatriarchal sexual ideals but just replace man with butch and it’s all great fun? Not to mention it’s *always* the butch in the ‘dominant’ and sexually aggressive role, like please make it more obvious you just see us as the kinky version of a straight man.

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what about my daughter : (

sir, you cannot name your son “Papa_Roach_Scars.mp3”, we just won’t allow it

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trans women donation masterlist

aka for every transphobe i had to interact with i found a link to help donate to trans women. you can definitely send me more because i bet im gonna need more.

trans women of color collective

homeless black transwomen (nearly there)

black trans woman transition fund (23k of 50k)

help a trans woman escape yemen (3k of 12k)

save the gully queens of jamaica (45k of 100k)

memorial fund for bree black (3k of 10k)

trans woman of color seeking housing (nearly there)

memorial fund for chyna gibson (4k of 15k donated)

black trans woman gender affirmation fund (20k of 45k)

transition fund (2k of 15k)

medical funds (tw: r*pe) (11k of 20k)

poc trans woman transition fund (5k of 35k)

transition fund (6k of 10k)

support trans asylum seekers (usage of queer) (19k of 25k)

major surgery transitional fund (2k of 95k)

medical support (diabetic coma) (13k of 15k)

transitional funds (10k of 25k)

trans pride march (920 of 1.8k)

hrt fundraiser (445 of 3.6k)

reentry fund (help with housing, clothing, etc) (2k of 4k)

transitional surgery (990 of 5k)

transition fund (2k of 50k)

memorial fund for lisa bryk (tw s*icide mention in description) (7k of 20k)

transitional fund (3k of 20k)

bottom surgery fund (2.5k of 5k)

help two trans women get on their feet (160 of 5k)

supports trans women of color in legal system (and reentry) 

help a trans woman escape a bad household (4.5k of 10k)

support a trans woman after being attacked (810 of 2k)

help for medical treatments + better living (545 of 3.5k)

help trans woman pay for car repairs (19.7k of 25k)

trans woman of color transition fund (3.8k of 20k)

incarcerated trans woman college fund (12k of 20k)

donation to flee an ab*sive house before becoming homeless (1.3k of 6k)

vocal surgery fundraiser (1k of 5k)

support to keep a trans woman off the streets (immediately 150 but anything past that helps as well)

gender conformation surgery donation (77.5k of 100k)

help two trans women get conceal and carry permits (50 of 1.5k)

LAST UPDATED: 8/27

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“some of us are Black”

Follow this link to find a bundle of videos and resources related to the sociological study of sexuality

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Me still closing then fridge to see if the lights turn off

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Baby elephant seal vs adult elephant seal

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Source: https://thenib.com/give-a-man-a-fish?t=recent

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What Cis People Say To Trans People Vs. What We Hear

By Meredith Talusan and Rory Midhani

TRANSlator 3000: Amazing technology translates cissexist BS!

“Oh you’re trans but you look so good!” “Trans people are ugly.”

“I’ve never met a trans person before.” “I assume I can identify any trans person.”

“I would date a trans person.” “Trans people are usually undateable so I deserve a prize.” 

“You look just like a real woman.” “Trans women aren’t really women.”

“I’m glad you’re being honest with me about being trans.” “Trans people who don’t tell me they’re trans are deceivers and liars.”

“I loooooove trans people!” “I fetishize trans people.”

“It’s so hard to switch pronouns.” “Trans people are an inconvenience to me.”

“I don’t have a problem with trans people.” “I have a problem with trans people.” 

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If you need a lovely story to make you feel better today, this is it.

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If you call pedophilia a kink please unfollow me and never talk to me again

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How to spot signs and symptoms of Breast Cancer 

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Any Blog without this picture will be deleted in the following 24 hours.

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The Craft (1996) dir. Andrew Fleming

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In honor of Day of the Dead, here’s a repost of my comic about the San Francisco Columbarium and the man who spent 26 years restoring it.

This comic originally appeared on Medium at The Nib. Go check out my other work there.