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Two facts which can coexist:

1. Sex scenes in movies and television can have legitimate artistic value and shouldn’t be discounted just because they’re sexual. Dismissing ALL sex scenes as meaningless slop is a sign that you have some very sex-negative attitudes that you need to work on.

2. Mainstream media is heavily saturated with sexual content, much of which is poorly written, poorly executed, and included not for the purpose of enhancing a story, but because “sex sells.” These types of sex scenes aren’t always necessary and can in fact be incredibly alienating for sex repulsed asexual adults, who may want to be able to enjoy art too without having to relegate themselves exclusively to the realm of media made for children.

It’s possible to acknowledge both that sex is an important part of many people’s lives which deserves to be represented in art and media AND that the sheer inescapability of sex in adult media is a symptom of allonormativity which can be harmful and isolating for many asexual people. Not every criticism of sex-centric attitudes in our society is meant to shame people for liking or enjoying sex.

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*struggles while writing* i suck and writing is hard

*remembers some ppl use ai* i am a creative force. i am uncorrupted by theft and indolence. i am on a journey to excellence. it is my duty to keep taking joy in creating.

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Magpie call

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pure love

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the madlad made it home

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Merry 2000 Trained Rats, everybody

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I have always wanted to draw fanart of Howl's Moving Castle, specifically the iconic walking on air scene!! I really hope you folks like it! :)

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i was jumanji’d too when i was a kid but no one cared

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went to the pub for a drink on my first real day off in over a week and watched the girl behind the bar drop the entire cash drawer on the floor in the middle of the rush and then just stare at it at her feet for like a solid two minutes

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I enjoy a joke about fucked up German fairy tales as much as the next nerd, but it's genuinely striking how often the source for the really fucked up stuff turns out to be "yeah, this is only in the Brothers Grimm version and doesn't appear in any extant oral tradition, and we're like 80% sure they added it themselves". To a large extent it's not German fairy tales that are fucked up, it's two specific German dudes.

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i cant even explain why im making inspector gadget fanart rn

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I feel like there's been some misunderstandings on this front so as an asexual person I'd like to provide a guide:

When is it appropriate to say "some asexual people have/enjoy sex"?

Appropriate:

-when shutting down gatekeepers (especially allos trying to gatekeep ace people)

-in an informed educational context that includes and validates ALL ace identities and experiences

-when shutting down gatekeepers

-while validating the experiences of someone who worries they're not ace enough

-when shutting down gatekeepers

-when correcting well meaning but false assumptions about what asexuality means

-when sex-favorable/neutral aces are discussing their OWN relationships with sex

-when aces of ANY variety are discussing their relationships with sex

-when reassuring someone who had CONSENSUAL SEX with an ace person that they didn't do anything wrong

-when people conflate asexuality and celibacy and try to forcefully project the ace label into other people

NOT APPROPRIATE:

-SHUTTING DOWN aces talking about their OWN relationships with sex

-SHUTTING DOWN aces discussing other aces (in respectful ways)

-SHUTTING DOWN aces talking about sex repulsion at all

-SHUTTING DOWN aces discussing the inescapable prevalence of sex in our culture and media

-SHUTTING DOWN ace people discussing sex or sexuality at all

-SHUTTING DOWN conversations about comp-het, comp-allo, corrective rape, or social pressure to have sex

-USING aces who have sex to guilt or pressure or talk over other aces who don't have sex

-USING aces who sex as a gotcha in attempts to undermine or invalidate conversations about sex or sexual boundaries

-USING aces who have sex as weapons against other aces in ANY ways

Bottom Line:

ASEXUALS ARE NOT WEAPONS TO BE USED AGAINST OTHER ASEXUALS.

OUR LIFE EXPERIENCES DO NOT INVALIDATE OTHER LIFE EXPERIENCES

If you are not using your words to VALIDATE our experiences then keep your words to yourself!!!!

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he's seven

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I'm gonna be completely honest I'm starting to get tired of people going 'aces can have sex' 'asexuality is a SPECTRUM' in my reblogs every time I post about asexuality where I literally haven't implied or said otherwise and I've honestly thought about deleting some of them. Like... I know guys. I know. I'm either speaking on my own experience which isn't sex favourable or from a Black and/or lesbian POV of asexuality which would include sex favourable aces anyway so it should go without saying.

It's getting similar to how I see 'lesbians can have sex with men'. I'm fully aware lesbians have the physical means to do so, but I wouldn't wanna hear that in a lesbian space for centring the experiences of people who don't, especially lesbians who were coerced and/or forced into doing so. As long as lesbophobia exists, that statement can't be neutral and the wider context will always shape how I see it. I don't need to be reminded I can conform to the thing I'm actively going against. I don't want to and I can't.

We can acknowledge how diverse and varied a community is but it's disingenuous to pretend there's a single uniform experience throughout. Going 'everyone is valid' is cute but it doesn't address the specific problem, which is compulsory sexuality. In this case, the constant need to derail sex repulsed, averse and indifferent aces in our own posts and conversations does compulsory sexuality's job for it. I'm reminded of my 'wasted' sexual potential on a regular basis I don't need my own community doing it too.

As respectfully as possible, not every single asexual post is gonna personally represent you. I don't go into aro spaces and expect to be centred or represented because those weren't made for me and that's okay. Asexuality is a wide spectrum with lots of sides. I'm not part of all those sides and that's okay.

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A Brief Rundown of the IRL Ithaca Saga (to the best of my memory, in probably not chronological order)

jorge (creator, odysseus) decided it'll be cool to celebrate the ithaca saga with the epic cast via a trip to ithaca, greece

surely nothing can go wrong

mico (telemachus) seemingly found out about the trip with the rest of the fandom. he proceeded to plot a trip to ithaca

the epic cast dealt with multiple broken vans and missed a ferry by one minute. they had to cancel a stream because they were too exhausted

mico made it onto a plane

ithaca got hit by a typhoon, forcing them to move another stream indoors

mico got banned from tiktok. it was reversed

mason (tireseas) asked luke (zeus) to stop the rain. luke refused

the crew hiked up to odysseus' palace. they ran into a roadblock. mason looked into the future and did not see a way around it. (they found a way around it)

the crew found a well and sang their epic songs into it. except jp (crew) who just sang happy birthday

janani (aphrodite) also sang "royal we" into the well

anna (penelope) made it onto the plane to fly out to ithaca

hermes (troy) decided to take a plane to ithaca like a normal human instead of teleporting. he got side-eyed by a woman at the airport as he slept sprawled out in a chair. this quickly became a meme

hermes arrived in ithaca to the delight of everyone except jorge. mico also appeared in his videos. mico still had not updated anything after getting on the plane

anna's connecting flight got cancelled, leaving her stranded in a fancy hotel. she struggled to find the toilet in her hotel room

mico finally updated, claiming he was stuck in munich. mason appears in the video and gives him a water bottle, proving he is lying

the fandom believes mico anyway

mico is forced to post another video revealing he had been gaslighting us basically the entire time and was just delayed in getting to ithaca, that was all

troy and talya (circe), in character, talk about tea. troy says the tea tastes like her father's approval. earle (ares) then asks for 1000 cups and breaks down crying as luke cuts the camera

jorge posts a video apologizing for mico's absence, encouraging him to fly to ithaca, new york. mico appears in the background of this video

mico posts a video saying that he's finally in ithaca, but the crew is in ithaca, new york. jorge appears in the background of this video

jp films a behind the scenes video, calling out "some random guy" who just showed up asking if anyone knows jorge. it's mico

janani sings "royal we" again, but after she says "troy was breached" troy comes out screaming in pain. mico appears in the background of this, filming the video from two points above

it's time for the ithaca saga livestream... except it gets cancelled because the connection is bad and jorge's devices are dying

TL;DR: the gods saw the epic crew in ithaca and went "do you guys think it'll be really funny if we just. recreated the odyssey"