aromantic-sanders

[aromantic-sanders]

i feel this so much. <3 I used to ID as demiro (now as aro) and even now im still afraid my friends will think im flirting, and i thought smth was wrong with me when i realized i didnt know the difference between platonic and romantic attraction. love never has to be romantic. 💚🤍🖤

Ultra delayed post for Aro Awareness Week a while back bc I haven’t been on tumblr in a while, but hopefully this resonates in a few of you too!!

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aromantic and asexual terms you may or may not know

this isnt an exhaustive list, feel free to add more or correct me if im wrong!

ace: short for asexuals (experiences little or no sexual attraction)

aro: short for aromantic (experiences little or no romantic attraction)

aroace: short for aromantic asexual (note: not all aces or aros are aroace)

allo: short for either allosexual or alloromantic (opposite of aro/ace; experiences sexual/romantic attraction)

demiace: demisexual (can’t experience sexual attraction without a strong emotional bond being formed)

demiaro/demiro: demiromantic  (can’t experience romantic attraction without a strong emotional bond being formed)

grayace: grayasexual (only experiences sexual attraction in certain circumstances or very rarely experiences sexual attraction)

grayro/grayaro: grayaromantic  (only experiences aromantic attraction in certain circumstances or very rarely experiences romantic attraction)

ace of spades: aroaces

ace of diamonds: demiaces (may also be used by demiaros)

ace of clubs: grayaces (may also be used by grayaros)

ace of hearts: alloaces (may also be used by aroallos)

sex-repulsed or sex-averse: an ace who is disgusted by/doesn’t like sex

sex-indifferent: an ace who doesn’t mind sex or has no opinion on it

sex-favorable: an ace who enjoys sex. they may not seek out sexual relationships, but still enjoy it if they do engage in it, or they may seek out sexual relationships despite not experiencing sexual attraction

romance-repulsed or romance-averse: an aro who is disgusted by/doesn’t like romance

romance-indifferent: an aro who doesn’t mind sex or has no opinion on it

romance-favorable: an aro who enjoys romance (either for themselves or in media). they may not seek out or desire romantic relationships, but still like the idea of romance or seeing romance in media, or they might seek out romantic relationships despite not experiencing romantic attraction.

queer/quasiplatonic: blurring the lines between different types of attraction, something different from being friends or romantic partners. quasi is for those who don’t like the term queer.

QPR: queer/quasiplatonic relationship

QPP: queer/quasiplatonic partner

aspec: used usually to mean aromantic and/or asexual spectrum, but can also be used just to mean asexual spectrum (i personally use it to refer to anyone on either or bothspectrums)

acespec: people on the asexual spectrum

arospec: people on the aromantic spectrum

aphobe: you know what homophobic means? that’s this, but for aspecs. like homophobic, it can be used to mean specifically one identity (asexual/acespec) or the entire community (all aspecs)

acephobe: specifically against aces

arophobe: specifically against aros

aroflux: orientation (or intensity of their aro-ness) changes, but is usually aro or stays on the aro spectrum.

aceflux: sexuality (or intensity of their ace-ness) changes, but is usually ace or stays on the ace spectrum.

[aromantic-sanders]

you’ve heard of ace of spades, but consider this..

we all know the ace of spades is an asexual’s favourite card (/hj), but there’s other cards we could use, too. you might not already know, but..

ace of spades is for aroaces!

ace of diamonds is for demisexuals!

ace of clubs is for grayaces!

ace of hearts is for alloromantic aces!

but consider this: we use the other cards as well.

joker for general aspecs (anyone on the aro or ace spectrum)

jack for gnc aspecs

king for male/masc aspecs

queen for female/fem aspec

we could also extend the ace cards to being used for both aces and aros? (ace of diamonds for demisexuals/demiromantics, ace of hearts for alloaces/aroallos, etc.) maybe a specific colour could be used to specify romantic, sexual or both (seeing as decks usually come in blue, red, and black)

and maybe we could find a card for aro/aceflux peeps. :]

im open to any suggestions, i just think it’d be neat if we stole used the other cards and made playing cards in general ace/aro culture. i personally really like the idea of us using the joker card in prticular since most aspecs have an A+ sense of humour (get it) and like jokers, we’re seen as sort of the lowest class, but we’re actually incredibly valuable to society and our communities.

[aromantic-sanders]

random things that are aro/ace culture

dragons

cake

garlic bread

ace cards (esp ace of spades)

puns

sex jokes being funny until it’s about us

pointing out all the unnecessary sex scenes and romantic subplots

swords

axolotls

starfish

plants

being rejected by both sides

not understanding sexual and/or romantic attraction

space

chaos

world domination

bows and arrows

a+ puns (get it?)

being swag af

glitter (not really but we should make it our culture)

also make stingrays aro/ace culture pls

reblog with anything i missed

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petition to make axolotls a more known part of ace culture

Ace culture moodboard

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folks on the aro and ace spectrums who fall in between ace/aro and allo are still valid aspecs.

demisexuals, demiromantics, grayasexuals, grayromantics, aroflux aspecs, aceflux aspecs, those who just identify as “on the spectrum”, and anyone else who isn’t absolutely asexual/aromantic.

reblog if you agree.

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reblog if you think hetero-romantic aces and heterosexual aros are valid and a valuable part of the lgbtq+ communities.

[aromantic-sanders]

shout out to aros and aces.

shout out to aroaces.

shout out to aces who hate the idea of sex.

shout out to aces who dont mind sex.

shout out to aces who enjoy sex.

shout out to aces who make dirty jokes and have a dirty mind.

shout out to aces who aren’t aromantic.

shout out to grayaces.

shout out to demisexuals.

shout out to aros who still feel sexual attraction.

shout out to aros who hate romance.

shout out to aros who dont mind romance.

shout out to aros who like romance.

shout out to aros who still want romantic relationships.

shout out to grayromantics.

shout out to demiromantics.

shout out to aroflux people.

shout out to aceflux people.

shout out to a(ro/ce)spec folks who dont know their place on the spectrum.

shout out to to aspec folks who dont have a label for their feelings.

shout out to aspec folks who dont want a label.

shout out to neurodivergent aspecs.

shout out to disabled aspecs.

shout out to POC aspecs.

shout out to trans and gnc aspecs.

shout out to aces who are heteroromantic.

shout out to aros who are heterosexual.

shout out to aspecs who dont feel like they belong.

shout out to aces with a high sex drive.

shout out to aros who are still hopeless romantics.

shout out to aspecs who ever felt broken, wrong, alone or lost.

shout out to aspecs who’ve faced a(ce/ro)phobia.

shout out to aspecs who feel shunned by both communities.

shout out to aspecs who’re afraid to identify as lgbtq+.

shout out to young aspecs.

shout out to old aspecs.

shout out to aspecs who realized early.

shout out to aspecs who realized later.

shout out to who are questioning.

shout out to aspecs who feel like their childhood dreams were shattered.

shout out to with internalized aphobia.

shout out to aros and aces. we’re so brave and not only valid, but valuable. no one else breaks down love and attraction like us. we get hate from both sides, we get very little or innaccurate representation, we get shoved into the same box even when being ace vs aro is actually really different. we are so strong. there is nothing wrong with you, i promise. <3

feel free to reblog with any additions to this list.

just shout out to us. we’re worthy of love, no matter what form we find it in.

[aromantic-sanders]

lucky for me, i have an ace up my sleeve!

[i reach into my sleeve to retrieve the ace card, only to accidentally spill the entire deck of aces i had been hoarding in my shirt for this joke]

me:

me: that wasn’t meant to happen

[aromantic-sanders]

I'm so confusing sometimes

[aromantic-sanders]

in a society where sex and romance is so deeply engrained and normalized, and you’re viewed as abnormal if you’re not into those, it’s hella cool to be aroace.

it is so cool to be aroace

like it is just so cool to not feel attraction i think!

[aromantic-sanders]

Me: I’m aromantic

My friend: Why

Me:

[aromantic-sanders]

we should start reblogging this w our favourite touch-averse character

mines virgil sanders

reading about a character who's touch averse and slowly learns to trust this one person about it & even while accepting his feelings for him, he still struggles with touch but slowly let's him touch his face, neck, chest and so on... is so special to me as an aromantic touch-averse person. Yes, this is about Andrew Minyard 🥺😭.

[aromantic-sanders]

guess they.. aced that conversation

Ace Love 💜♠️ lgballt

[aromantic-sanders]

You can’t normalize being “alone and single,” then fail to support aromantic and asexual people. It’s not possible to normalize things that aromantic and asexual people already deal with, while alienating us at the same time. That’s not how normalizing things work. If you want a system that values “unpartnered” individuals by providing them the financial, physical, emotional, etc. support they need to thrive, you can start by valuing aromantic and asexual people who have been advocating for this for forever.

[aromantic-sanders]

!!!!

As a sex repulsed ace I really think sex favorable aces deserve more representation/visibility. I really don't think we sex repulsed aces should be getting all the rep and we definitely shouldn't be seen as the only "version" of ace. This goes for aros who date as well (I am one of them). You sex favorable aces are so cool and valid, y'all deserve so much better

[aromantic-sanders]

Grayarograyace people who call themselves aroace are very sexy, reblog if you agree 👀👀