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I dropped all my other projects to finish this in time for pride and it's finally done!! I wanted some cool aro merch (since I have absolutely nothing so far), and what's cooler than dragons?

The heart shaped flag was embroidered on afterward, and if you look closely, there are a bunch of tiny flags woven into the border.

My original intention was to use this as a long patch for the back of my denim jacket. But it makes a pretty cool necklace?? If only I didn't have to chop off half the design to realize my vision... (I have yet to commit, this is just tied on with a big ol bulky knot in the back)

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"I love you , I'm glad we're friends"

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i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs

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eye twitch,….…no you are not "demolishing the relationship hierarchy", harold……… you're just putting friendship next to romantic relationships.…… you're not actually demolishing anything……

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i’m not aromantic but i believe in their beliefs

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I think it's important to understand that discussions around amatonormativity usually aren't (or shouldn't be) asking people to see their individual romantic relationships as less important, because wanting a long-term monogamous romantic relationship isn't inherently amatonormative.

Amatonormativity is about the bigger picture of how society treats romantic relationships. It's about placing romantic relationships at the top of a hierarchy and then claiming that most meaningful close and intimate connections to other humans are only accessable through them. Amatonormativity is the assumption that everyone wants to end up in a monogamous long-term romantic relationship and then decrying anyone who wants a relationship that doesn't fit into that very narrow category.

Every individual person has to figure out for themselves which types of relationships they desire or don't desire and how much importance they want to give them. Amatonormativity criticizes the fact that that's not a question you are normally asked in the first place, because the answer is always assumed.

I think if in the end someone decides to prioritize their romantic relationships, they will still have defied amatonormativity simply through consciously making that decision, and through not assuming the same for everyone else. To me, dismantling amatonormativity is about deconstructing the assumed hierarchy of relationships, giving people the chance to actually think about what they truly want, and opening the pathways for those possibilities.

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i think a lot of people would be happier if they viewed labels like homosexual and transgender as social technologies rather than identities

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"I love you Gaza. Israel & USA are genocidal terrorists"

Seen in Puerto Rico

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I bought a little aro flag pride pin at a street festival!

Still not sure if/when i’ll ever wear it, but it makes me happy just to have it.

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"you looking for a friend?" she leans in, "or perhaps... more?"

your eyes widen; two friends?!

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In my most aromantic self today frrr

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I love being aromantic this shit fucking rules

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Happy Be Obnoxiously Aro Day!

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happy tuesday <33

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not romantic not platonic but a secret third thing (comedic)