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link to YouTube video of her discussing her demisexuality: https://youtu.be/2iTJa8aLs-s?si=1ePrWR_iMfLR-FFE&t=52

and the BBC News article which has an accurate, albeit very brief, description of demisexuality: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp87py4yryro

so exciting to see honest discussions of this on live tv

Did anyone catch Tulisa talking about her possibly being demisexual in I’m A Celeb last night?

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IM NOT SAD BECAUSE IM AROACE

IM SAD BECAUSE I WAS BUILT TO BE SURROUNDED BY FAMILY

BUT NOBODY WILL WANT THE SAME

AND NOBODY WILL UNDERSTAND WHAT THAT MEANS

I WANT SUNDAY NIGHT DINNERS TOGETHER

I WANT MOVIE NIGHTS AND HOLIDAY VACATIONS

I WANT A HOUSE OF MY OWN BUT A PLACE TO CRASH AT WHEN IM FEELING ALONE

AND YET REALITY HITS ME AND I KNOW

I WILL NEVER BE A PRIORITY

I WILL NEVER BE THEIR "REAL" FAMILY

I WASN'T BUILT FOR THIS WORLD AND IT'S IDEA OF FAMILY

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every so often, i think, and it might be so selfish of me, but i crave to be someone's first choice. i want to be the person that someone sees fun things to do and their first thought is to ask me to go with them. i want someone to be willing to inconvenience themselves a little bit sometimes for me as i would do for them. i want to be looked at in a list of people and to have someone pick me out of all of them. i want to be held at the same level as a romantic partner in terms of effort and closeness. i want someone to want me as much as i want them, even though it's not in a romantic sense. i want to be important to someone.

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hey, literally don't fuck if you're not intO that I support you

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I think I managed to pin down why aroallo people are assumed to be more sexual than anyone else but I can't quite word it. Basically, romance is seen as a sort of gateway to sex but when there is no romance involved in the sex it's assumed that there is no gateway so there's this imaginary dichotomy of good pure moral sex with the love of your life which is divine, and meaningless flings with people you don't care about which is the immoral type of sex that is done by deviants who can't keep it in their pants and will sleep with anyone. So with this in mind you can guess what assumptions this creates about aromantic allosexuals

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i love you aromanticism i love you split attraction model i love you sensual attraction i love you queer platonic relationships i love you internet for helping me figure things out about myself

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Allos can also have QPRs. Btw. In case you thought it was an aspec-only event. Or romance light. It's neither. And you can have one if you want.

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[ID: meme with two panels.

Top panel: two red buttons one is labeled with: "supporting nonpartnering aros" the other is labeled with: "supporting partnering aros". There's a hand reaching out, with two fingers going to press both buttons.

Bottom panel: image of an illustrated person sticking their thumb up and smiling approvingly.

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I think Heartbreak High might actually have the best ace representation I've ever seen in a TV show! I love that it's a significant and meaningful part of Cash's character but not the only aspect of his character, & same with in his relationship with Darren - their relationship has other elements and problems other than just Cash's asexuality. Also, their relationship isn't seen as lesser than the other relationships in the show because they're not having sex, if anything they have the most profound romantic relationship of any of the characters which is why both of them are trying so desperately to make it work. Plus, I love how Cash's asexuality isn't presented as the problem in the relationship - if there is a problem it's that Cash's asexuality and Darren's hypersexuality are somewhat incompatible, but no blame is placed on either of them for that. And like Cash's grandmother said, there are things that need to be worked through in every relationship, and asexuality isn't the be all end all thing that makes it impossible to be with someone. Honestly there are just so many little details that made me so happy, I really needed to see this type of representation <3

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i'm sorry but this shit annoys me to no end. like this is about heartstopper and you all need to stop acting like that show invented everything.

fucking anyways

1. Koisenu Futari

Show that’s specifically made to be about aromanticism and asexuality as well as how aroace people are perceived by society. They are main characters. That’s the main plot.

2. Heartbreak High

Want a teen show with ace rep? No problem. One of the main characters is ace! Would you look at that! The representation already exists! It's got a ton of other rep too and it's on Netflix but somehow we never got that ace rep yet right? You don't even need subtitles for this one.

3. SkamFr (s12)

Is it a bit too much at times? Ye sure but you know what it also is? Another teen show where the main character is asexual that deals with asexuality as the main theme. And no you don't need to watch all those seasons before to get it.

4. Bojack Horseman

I didn't even watch this one but I'm aware.

5. Cherry Magic

Oh would you look at that a show with main mlm couple where one of the side characters is aroace? I mean surely it hasn't been done before.

6. Run On

You want some casual side character ace rep? Well here you go even kdramas have done it but I guess there just aren't any shows...

Honorary mention to Sex Ed for that one scene.

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CA$H PIGGOTT.

I need to talk about Cash Piggott and how important his character is to the asexual community.

I absolutely adore the fact that Cash calls people out on their acephobia and never, ever apologises for who he is. He doesn't think he's broken.

In season one, we see Darren say "you know what, I think there's something really fucking wrong with you, Cash," and Cash immediately, with no hesitation, screams "well fuck you then".

In season two, we see Dusty say that he's being selfish asking Darren to give up sex and he immediately stands up and says "fuck this" because he knows he doesn't have to listen to people making him feel bad about his sexuality.

And when he's talking to his nan about it, Cash says "it's not fair, I would do anything, why does it have to be the one thing I can't change about myself?"

In every single one of these scenes, we never see Heartbreak High blame Cash for his sexuality. We never see him apologise to anyone for not feeling sexual attraction, and we never see him feel guilty about it, or try to change who he is.

CA$H recognises that his sexuality might be difficult for people to accept and understand, but he never lets other people make him feel like he's broken, or flawed. And that's so powerful to see.

Because asexual people are not broken. And we can't be fixed. And we are not being selfish for putting in boundaries.

I absolutely adore Douglas Piggott. He means the world to me, and this representation is so, so important.

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"It's not fair. I would do anything. Why does it have to be the one thing I can't change about myself?"

Heartbreak High have done it again. Ca$h Piggott is the most beautiful asexual representation. I have never related to anything more. He is trying so hard, but he's staying true to who he is.

And that is so important to see.

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It is SO important to me that there are separate characters in Heartbreak High that are openly celibate alongside an openly asexual character. Because being asexual does not mean you are celibate. It is a sexual orientation, not a choice.

Cash Piggott was already the best asexual representation I've ever seen, but season two has really solidified that.

Thank you Netflix. It's such a minor detail but it meant the world.

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as aromantic awareness week is coming to a close i'd like to remind everyone that we should still continue to support everyone who is aromantic!

aroaces are not the only aromantics that exist and we should remember that, and continue to bring awareness to the WHOLE spectrum, even though it's going to very soon not be awareness week anymore-

aroallos/alloaros, aroflux, and all others on the spectrum you're valid as well, my dears :)

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Queerplatonic sex, better known as you got a friend in me

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People who experience romantic and/or sexual attraction are so funny sometimes

They will ask "who's your crush?" And you will answer "i don't have one" and then it starts

"Why are you liying?", "you can trust me", "don't hide", "i don't belive you", "what?! Everyone has one come on", "hmhu it's [name] isn't it?".

in the extreme cases (mine once) they won't let you even leave the conversation and place it started

And so you lie

And when if "confession" comes from "name" and you reject it every single persson who made you lie will be angry.

Honey. Why the fuck are you angry? You decided a lie is more realistic than reality