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In France a woman has been sentenced to 2 years and 9 months in prison for taking away her daughter after she revealed her father was raping her.

Alain Chauvet, already a father of four, married Priscilla Majani when she was only 18 and he was 45. They had a daughter and a few years later they were divorcing. Upon learning that the father might get shared custody, Priscilla reported him to the police for violence and rape on her daughter. The 5 years old was interviewed by the police three times, said her father was violent and had raped her. The policemen chose to believe the girl had been coached by her manipulative mother into saying that. The case was dismissed and the father got shared custody. The day the mother was supposed to drop the girl at the father's place, she refused and was arrested. After that she took her daughter to the hospital. The medical reports written after examining the girl said it was very probable she had been raped and they even filed a report themselves... and were ignored. So the mother took her child and ran. They hid under a fake identity for 11 years. The woman was on an Interpol list. She was caught in March 2022 in Switzerland and sentenced in January 2023 not only to prison but to pay the father 30 000€ for "moral prejudice". Her daughter (now 17) has filed a complaint against her father for sexual assault and uploaded a video praising her mother. She also said her father would lock her in a dark room, punch her in the face and burn her with hot water as punishment when she was a child. She said she was relieved when they left and that she wished more people would have believed her, instead of just her mother. She said that during her interview with the police as a kid, the policeman kept laughing as she described what her father had done. The court had no compassion for the mother however, blaming her for thinking she was "all powerful and above the law" and having no consideration for "father's rights", even saying that she's the one who caused trauma to her kid by taking her away. The court said that making the daughter grow up without a father must have created "defiencies" in the girl. The mother maintained that she did it to protect her daughter and that it remained the most beautiful thing she'd ever done. The court took it as further proof that she wasn't repentant and that she didn't care about the law. The daughter is still refusing to see her father. On french twitter the hashtag #Iwouldhavedonethesame is trending, in support of the mother.

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"You run the risk of misconditioning yourself into stimuli that you’re never going to get.”

This woman talks about how frequent porn consumers tend to not only have less gray matter but that the connections between the “reward center” in the brain and the prefrontal cortex tend to be fewer – affecting relationship satisfaction among other things.

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I love when the train machinist says something

Bububuhubuhbh buhuhbuhhb hubb. Buhughg ghgyb.

Thank you. What?

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On the topic of Leftist Andrew Tate and other mythical creatures of the liberal mind

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Ma’am that is a whole Armenian man

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and the swimming suits!

they came up with a stupid shape for panties then decided it's the pussy who's wrong and you should remove the hair sticking out.......... the state of this world

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Catholics: women can’t be priests sorry that’s just how it is

liberals:

pretty much every other religion until very recently: yeah women aren’t allowed to be in leadership positions, can’t come to certain services or parts of our temples, etc.

liberals:

women: men can’t be witches

liberals: H OW DAR E Y UO

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A clam with pearls inside.

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I know it's unfair vilification and stuff but it's also a lot of fun to see old media and stuff where people were SO scared of big animals like lions, sharks, crocodiles and wolves were fully expected to just come and eat you the moment you stepped into their territory. In older media we also made that assumption about gorillas and in still older we thought it'd be whales. But some animals that will actually fuck you up got left behind. Boars will kill you and eat you. They're way more likely to do so than any of those other things actually. Hippos, obviously, got off like bandits always being depicted as cute and dopey. And then there's the squids. Not giant kraken size squids. The eight foot squids that hunt in packs and will fuck you up if you fall in the water at night. I can't BELIEVE people slept on that. It's like all they cared about were the huge deep sea ones we never see. The medium size wolf pack squids were right there.

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There was this post with a poll about experiencing sexual attraction, and I want to talk about it.

The question

The specific question asked is "People who aren't asexual/on the ace spectrum: how old were you when you first experienced sexual attraction?". The options are then ages, with an additional option of "ace/ace spectrum" and "idk/don't remember/see results".

I have a problem with this phrasing, and specifically the description of the target audience. It is evident, by reading what tumblr users say about asexuality, that it is a widespread belief that asexuals can and do experience sexual attraction. However, the question implies that it is not the case, and the options solidify that idea, by including a separate option for people on the "ace spectrum". Indeed, it could be the case - and sometimes is, as we'll see - that a person is both ace and has experienced attraction. In this poll, they have to choose between voting according to the question asked or according to their identity.

As some users pointed out in the notes, it would be more clear if there was simply an option "have never experienced sexual attraction" or "don't experience sexual attraction", without the option "ace spectrum". If a person does not want to vote, they could always press the "see results" button.

As it is, there is no real option to indicate that one does not experience attraction, and for some people the correct answer would be two options simultaneously.

This makes the results muddled.

The votes

The poll amassed almost 40000 votes, which is a lot for a tumblr poll, and for some studies as well, but we have to note that the sample is representative neither of the tumblr user base, nor of the general population. There would have to be some filtering involved to achieve that.

We can guess that when big blogs reblogged the poll, their specific following skewed the results, not to mention the audience of the original poster. Contrary to the prevailing opinion in the notes, voting "ace" does not technically skew the results, since the poll is intended for "non-ace" people, and if needed we can always exclude the 48% to count the number of votes and their distribution for the intended population. What, in my opinion, does skew the results, is the working definition of "ace spectrum" itself, which I'll discuss later.

Still, regardless of the bad representation, one can frivolously theorize about the results))

The results

First thing to note, is the prevalence of people on the ace spectrum - 48% is not quite half but is incredibly close.

Second, is the distribution of the remaining votes: it's an asymmetrical distribution with a peak at 10-12 years, and smaller diminishing edges. The edge with higher age options is longer, with 4 choices, counting the "older than that" option. Additionally, you could say the the number of people who answered relatively young (0-9 years) is approximately equal the number of people who answered older (16+ years), with both being around 9%.

The speculation

So, if the goal of the poll is to survey people who don't identify as ace, we have the results. Simply disregard all the votes for "ace spectrum", and there you have it.

I personally am more interested in the results for all the voters, regardless of identity. To get these results, it is insufficient to simply discard the ace voters, since they also could have experienced attraction. And I have some theories about what the result would be, if they were counted.

As I said above, I believe that the option of "ace-spectrum" distorted the results. Looking through the notes adds credibility to that hunch:

(That first user agrees with me that it would be more interesting to hear from the ace-spectrum people as well)

And it is my (unproven) belief that these voters would have skewed the results towards the older age:

It makes sense in a intuitive sort of way that people who experience sexual attraction later than the various teenage tv shows and books show us, would identify as ace. Additionally, if you already have uneasy feelings about sexuality, you are likely both to identify as ace and to experience attraction later in life. All this leads to the "non-ace" demographic being suddenly dramatically overpopulated with people who experience sexual attraction young. Which, in turn, leads to the leading option in this poll being 10-12.

(And imagine if even a fifth of the 48% votes went to the option 16-18. That would have immediately changed the leading answer)

You could say that the poll measures not the likelihood of experiencing first sexual attraction at certain ages, but the likelihood of identifying as ace if you experience the first sexual attraction at a certain age. (not quite, because for that you'd need to know the results regardless of identity. but still.)

Another note here is age. The poll has several options with ages higher than 16, and it would overall best suit people over 22. I strongly suspect that the average tumblr userbase age is much lower than that. Therefore, some voters choosing options "idk" or "ace" might, in the future, experience attraction at an older age. But of course they wouldn't know this now, so they vote smth else.

As a result, I believe that the number of votes for higher ages is underestimated, and would, in a proper survey, be much higher.

The conclusion

Personally, I believe in human variation, both in biology and circumstance. I do not think that it is that uncommon to experience sexual attraction after turning 16, or 18, or 20. It is ok to take your time, and it is ok, in a society so saturated with pornography, to have complex feelings about sexuality. We're in this together, is what I'm saying.

In truth, I do not know what would be a definition of "ace spectrum" that is not "sexuality that is abnormal". And I do believe that you people are normal. You're just not a Euphoria sexy girl. And that's fine. We're fine.

So no, tumblr user whose account name I painted over,

"allos" are not a "different breed". This poll is designed to skew the results younger, since many users who would vote for an older age opted for the "ace" option, and some users who would have voted for an older age are simply not old enough yet.

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Men and women have different bodies and need different care, op. We react differently to medication, we need different doses, not to mention that we have different body build and body parts.

There are sex-specific diseases that are not related directly to reproduction. The diseases which both men and women can have, can manifest differently. Men and women respond differently to treatment.

If anything, people should pay more attention to women's healthcare.

And, I agree, everyone should read Invisible women)

Stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare