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[ID: A knight, labelled “me”, protects a princess, labelled “my aroace headcanons”, from an angry crowd, labelled “shippers”. End ID]

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a couple versions of some valentines to send to your one and only <3 mothman

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Jughead+Tumblr textposts

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Someone: your taste in media is really weird

Me: being aro alienates me from most genres and most media in general because most media at least has part of its core surrounding something i don’t experience and can’t relate to

Them: what?

Me: i mean uhh,,, romcoms boring

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The aromantic agenda is a good one.

Go and think about what kinds of relationships you want. Don't think about labels like romantic or platonic or sexual, think purely about what relationships would make you happiest.

When I realized I was aromantic, I was asked things like "Would you still date? Would you have a QPR? Will you ever kiss?"

But the aromantic community didn't ask that. Instead, they focused on "What do you want in a world where anything is possible?"

And I realized I want to be alone, surrounded by friends and family I love who are close enough, I can bring them fresh baked scones when I overbake.

They asked me "What do you want?" and the question was so broad, I could weigh labels in my hand like queerplatonic partner and nonpartnering and significant other. I could look at these and shrug and say, "What I want is to not worry about questions I don't care about." I could shelve these indefinitely. Maybe even forever. And just enjoy being myself.

The aromantic community celebrates exploration. Tells people asking if they are aromantic, "This is a personal decision. Your personal decision. If this label helps you, take it. If this community helps you, stay as long as you need. You don't have to be labelled anything, aromantic or otherwise, unless it would bring you comfort. You don't have to be anything you aren't."

It's a good community with good philosophies born from a unique experience, not rooted in missing out, but in being forced to consider what you want when you don't want what's expected.

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Sometimes I remember how little explicit representation aspec people have in media and how most people have no idea what terms like "aroace" or "demisexual" mean and I feel the urge to commit a violence

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When you say something unapologetically and poetically gay:

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So I’ve seen almost no social media promotion for it, but someone created a website where people can list/find aromantic friendly professionals like therapists and doctors. It’s a little sparse at the moment, but almost all of the information is crowdsourced, so if people know of aro-friendly professionals I encourage you to submit a recommendation! The more people add to this, the better it will be as a community resource!

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Aro shipper culture is loving ship fics.... but also usually hcing one of the characters as aro... so half your fics are just elaborate fantasies about their boundaries being Respected by the romo character while still being close friends/qpps bc thats the kind of ship/bond that makes you e m o t i o n a l these days (bc no one has ever made U a priority in their lives bc u can't love them back the 'right way' and u just really wish that someone would but u know they wont so copingfic it is--)

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also I learned about this project called “queering the map.” the idea is that in the past gay neighborhoods and gay spaces were very clearly defined bc it just wasn’t safe to be yourself anywhere else. as lgbt+ people become more visible and accepted many feel that we are losing our connection to those spaces

so every dot on this map is basically someone’s queer experience: coming out, meeting their future wife, seeing another gay man in public for the first time, anything you can think of that truly left a mark on them

it started in Montreal and is primarily English-language with most pins dropped in the US, Canada, and Europe, but there are people all over the world who’ve shared their experiences. it’s great to look at places near you but it’s also great to see that even people in places you thought were the middle of nowhere are happy with themselves and finding community and living their lives

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Sky puppies

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when your relatives start telling you “don’t behave like that or you’ll never get a boyfriend” and you pretend to be scared

p.s. pic by me, feel free to use it if you want

p.p.s I wouldn’t mind living with 50 cats tho. cats are cool

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things that aces/aros are good at

-making endless memes

-helping allo people with their relationship problems with an outside perspective

-fighting aromisia and acemisia 

-Just being all around chill people

things that aces/aros are not good at

-telling other aces/aros the difference between platonic and romantic attraction based on that ace’s/aro’s feelings

-being able to tell the difference between their own platonic/romantic attraction

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“Why is everyone so horny?”

- me, a soft confused aroace

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“you’re just playing hard to get!” false. i’m playing impossible to get

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The whole "does amatanormativity exist" debate is so FUCKING stupid because the answer is simple. Does society as a whole expect people to engage in romantic relationships? Yes, but only cishet romantic relationships. Does society as a whole expect people to engage in sexual relationships? While this one is more affected by factors such as gender, religion, etc, the answer is yes, but only cishet sex.

Homophobic society does not want gay people participating in gay sex and romance. A bigot is not going to go, "well if you're not gonna have STRAIGHT sex, at LEAST have GAY sex!" because that's not how things work at all. Homophobes and transphobes would rather LGBT people be ace than to have LGBT relationships.

"Amatanormativity" is inseparable from (cis)heteronormativity because homophobic and transphobic society does not want LGBT people to date, have sex, get married, or start families. LGB people and straight trans people celebrating romance and sex in their own community (which they historically have been/currently are oppressed for engaging in) is not amatanormatity.

I'm sick of people trying to push this narrative that "allo" LGBT people have privilege over ace/aro people. "Allosexual privilege" does not exist. Get the fuck over it.