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This is like when a big dog thinks it's a lapdog to me

Teleram P-1800 // portable computer (US, 1974)

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'do you think you're superior for not using AI in your work' thank you for asking! yes i do

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If you’ve never been all that disobedient before, you can and should start really, really small. For example, you can wear the slightly revealing or gloriously trashy-looking garment that makes your mom roll her eyes and sigh despondently every time she sees you put it on. You will feel judged and disapproved of when you put it on, but that is fine. Your goal is to sit with the uncomfortable feelings and continue with your desired behavior anyway.  Saunter down the steps in that highlighter-yellow Garfield crop top with your chest hair flowing over the neckline, and harness as much courage as you can muster. It’s okay if you feel like a beacon of sin. Just keep it moving. Your emotions are not the target here. Your behavior is. You can feel however you are feeling in the moment so long as you keep acting like you’re free.  Do you have a favorite TV show that a partner or roommate vocally hates? Try watching that show around them without apologizing or defensively joining them in mocking the program. At first, you probably won’t be able to enjoy the show while in their presence. You’ll feel self-conscious about everything they find annoying or cringe-inducing about the show, and so focused on their reactions that you can’t relax. That’s okay. Allow those feelings of embarrassment and guilt to exist and pass through you without giving up. In time, you will be able to ignore these reactions more, and enjoy the activity.  You want to see the needle of discomfort moving down just a little, like Link’s body temperature meter in Tears of the Kingdom when he puts on a breathable outfit in a hot climate. You’re not gonna go from roiling hot to frosty cold in an instant. But after a certain point, you won’t be actively in pain anymore. Things are just gonna slowly suck less, bit by bit, until they are finally okay. That’s true of most major life adjustments, I find.  Probably the best way to develop self-advocacy skills while growing in your distress tolerance is simply by telling other people no. Do this without explanation or hedging. Nitpicky aunt wants to hear all about your dating life? “No, I don’t want to talk about that.” Unreliable ex-friend wants you to do them the tiny favor of moving their entire home gymnasium into a new third story walk-up? “No, I’m not available.” Manipulative shift supervisor wants to cajole you into sticking around for another three hours to close? “No.”  As many advice columnists smarter than me have already intoned, “no” is a complete sentence. “No” requires no explanation. “No” is not subject to debate. “No” can be repeated over and over like a broken record if a disrespectful person acts like they can’t hear it. And you can walk away at any time to make your “no” physical and impossible to argue with, when someone has proven they don’t respect your boundaries. 

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Does anyone else ever think about the hollow knight's unused dream nail dialogue and just lose their mind

They think of him as their father even though he created them not to think or feel. Even when they're being put through the torture that he specifically created them to endure they still call out to him. They loved him and wanted to make him proud and that was exactly why they couldn't. Can anyone hear me

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rb if you live in a queer rat's nest

The Atchison Champion, Kansas, March 25, 1897

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transition timeline < git history

That's it. I'm adding you to the git repo

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Guy who has wandered through the halls and corridors of your body not with any special kind of love but with the untold intimacy of a contractor assessing the damages and potentials voice: right, so the main issue here is that the body is currently a temple, okay, and what we want is for it to be a home, cause temples are pretty and all and occasionally nice to be in if you're into that sort of thing but very few people would actually want to live in one. So what we're gonna do first is you're gonna take a look at what's here, the carrying walls and windows and all that, and you're going to come up with something you'd actually like to be alive inside of, and it's going to be a lot of work and it's going to feel strange and stupid and embarrassing but you're still gonna do it, because otherwise this construction site is fucked. And maybe what you want to live in is a skatepark or an anime-themed cat cafe or an esoteric library that has a dildo section for some reason, so it might feel like it's a downgrade from a temple, but it's actually the opposite cause the main customer for a body is you and the main customer for a temple are templegoers and maybe higher powers of some kind, - i wouldn't know about those, they never hired me, - not the temple itself, which is what you are, right, cause the body/mind/soul separation doesn't actually do anything, so what you're gonna do is look at the current layout and dig out whatever hope and ability to want you have and come up with a blueprint, and then my boys can actually get to work. Oh, and you have got to change the windows, it's drafty as fuck in here.

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I'm curious if the use of homophobia to police gender made any other trans women think they were some kind of mlm before realizing they were trans.

like, when I was young, acting effeminate would get you labelled as gay (derogatory) or a f*g. This created, I think, an association between femininity and homosexuality, so when I was realizing I enjoyed being effeminate, I immediately jumped to "oh, I must be Bi then" despite the fact that I... didn't like men at all. I persisted in identifying as Bi up until I actually slept with a man at 25 and was like oh I'm actually really not into this

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Ive somehow discovered egg_irl and im absolutely hate how i relate to like 95% of the posts there

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...if it's consensual it isn't forcefem :)

I. Want to force fem you.

You and all the other linuxers on this website

Sorry, but no.

Also, cishet and my list are the only things that set me apart as a Linux blog. Would you take that away from me?

Would you allow me to become a girl then let @rust-official or someone take on the responsibility of the list?

I'm still confused why any of you want this. Conformity? Quality of life? It would be funny? Why??

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ubuntu/windows dual boot -> crunchbang -> archbang -> arch -> debian :)

I of course have crunchbang++ installed, but I don't use it atm.

Reblog with your distrohopping journey.

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Herbstluftwm, and a WM journey

I went on a little window manager journey earlier this month, so I'm going to write about it a touch. I had been using a slightly hacked up version of DWM for a while - I removed the tiling algorithm in favor of maximized windows by default, and planned on writing a new tiling layout. I wanted to do a columnar layout that showed a certain max number of windows, and allowed for scrolling through the windows sequentially. Modelled after something like GNOME's material shell or paperWM extensions. I never followed through on that, though.

When I started with Linux, my first OS was CrunchBang. It's been long defunct, but there is a continuation project - CrunchBang++, which is really just a metapackage installed over a Debian base. I already run Debian 12, so I decided to install the metapackage on my system and return to the #! days for a bit. I quickly became disillusioned with the mouse-centric flow of Openbox, and also, look how they murdered my boy:

[image is the crunchbang menu, showing an option for Google Docs under the Office tab]

So I went back to DWM for a minute. I decided what I wanted instead was to have the Maximized-by-default behavior I used with DWM, but with the option to break a window out and tile it with the main stack if I wanted two windows side-by-side. (for those curious: I maximize windows because I use a 13" laptop, so auto tiling usually just doesn't have enough screen space for each window to be useful.) That sounded like a task for a manual tiler, not a dynamic one. Old favorite BSPWM doesn't allow monocle layout by default, so I first tried i3 - but it's only monocle-type layout out-of-the-box appeared to be a tabbed layout, and I wanted to show my windows on the bar, so I wanted a straight monocle rather than a tabbed one. That led me to herstluftwm, which I'd tried once in the past.

Long story short, it does exactly what I want (with a little configuring) - windows are stacked and maximized by default, and if I want to split a window out, that's just a keybind away. The only drawback was that it doesn't have a polybar module built-in, and I wanted it to communicate its desktop and window information to the bar. Luckily, it does have a hooks system, and Polybar has an IPC client, so it was relatively easy to write a script that formats the herbstclient output for tag and window info that runs any time hlwm changes focus, tag, or window title, and prints the output to Polybar. So now things look like this:

I'll probably stick around like this for a while.

(note: this post was originally written in GemText, and posted to my gemini capsule. If you aren't familiar with the Gemini protocol, check it out!)

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Listen, you’ll be fine. Just don’t forget your library card and DON’T dog-ear the pages.

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Thinking about Laika again

I finally found a brush I like on procreate!

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stumbled upon the linuxposting tag and now sorely tempted to become the crunchbang-official blog