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I’m so tired.

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Happiness is knowing yourself, knowing what you want and what you don’t, accepting yourself as you are, and living on your own terms.

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What’s the word for when your partner takes an innocuous turn of phrase and turns it into an unexplainable fight and then proceeds to give you the silent treatment for the entire following day? 🤔

I literally track his behavior now but just in my sleep app. I should use something where the pattern is easier to follow...

1. Tension building

2. Incident/acute

3. Reconciliation/honeymoon

4. Calm

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I am asking other men to please pay attention to this. Sexual predators and airplane creeps, a thread: https://twitter.com/joannachiu/status/1110079640998023168?s=21

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Before and after her prime-time address at the Republican National Convention on Tuesday night, anti-abortion activist Abby Johnson was publicly voicing her support for head-of-household voting.

This voting system would allow only the head of a household to cast a ballot. In Johnson’s opinion, that means that “in a Godly household, the husband would get the final say.”

Johnson launched into the national spotlight in 2009 when she quit her job as a clinic director at Planned Parenthood and joined the anti-abortion movement. She bills herself as embodying a “new kind of feminism” on her website.

“I would support bringing back household voting,” she tweeted in May. “How anti-feminist of me.”

When asked how this would play out if members of a household held different political beliefs, she replied, “Then they would have to decide on one vote” and that it should be the husband’s.

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Changes to the state’s Judicial Proceedings Reports Act, which were made quietly in February, make it an offense for anyone to publicly disseminate information that leads to the identification of a victim of sexual assault.The law makes no allowances for the victims themselves, meaning that they could be prosecuted for discussing their own experiences in the media, on television, online or by writing a book, unless they use a fake name.Critics have described the amendment as a “gag” law, and have launched the #LetUsSpeak campaign demanding that the state’s government changes the regulations.

“This has been described as a ‘win’ for paedophiles and rapists, and is a huge blow for survivors who no longer have the legal right to speak out,” campaigner Nina Funnell wrote on a fundraising page that has raised more than $42,000 AUD (about $30,300 USD).

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“He wasn’t exactly the straight and narrow type. He dropped out of high school and joined the Navy. He met my mom while watching the Stanley Cup in a midtown bar. Both of them were pretty big partiers at the time. But when I came along, my dad said: ‘We’re going to settle down. And we’re going to start a family.’ But my mom wasn’t ready to leave it all behind. So I was born into what would become a very turbulent home. It was a two-bedroom apartment next to a busy road in New Jersey. I think it was always meant to be a starter home. But my dad ended up raising three children there. For ten years he slept on a pullout couch in the living room, so that the rest of us could have our own bedroom. He always held multiple jobs to make ends meet. We didn’t get fancy things. But we never went hungry. And even though he dropped out of high school, he always insisted on education. When I was a little girl, he’d squeeze next to me at the kitchen table every Thursday night, still in his mailman’s uniform, so he could prepare me for my spelling test on Friday. He’d treat it like a courtroom cross-examination. He’d go down the list of words, and any time I struggled, he’d say: ‘Are you asking me? Or are you telling me?’ He wouldn’t stop until I had every one correct. Then I’d ask if we could move on to the next subject. But he’d always suggest we take a break first. He’d go off to cook dinner, and somehow we never got back to it. I’d finish the rest of my homework alone. But I was a motivated student. I got accepted into one of the best high schools in the state. And all three of us ended up graduating college. To this day, my dad says: ‘The best thing I ever had was you.’ He was the only one of his siblings who never bought a house. But no house could be worth what he gave us. A few years ago, I was sitting next to him at Thanksgiving dinner. We started talking about childhood memories, and I asked him: ‘What was the deal with the spelling? Why were so intense about it?’ He laughed, and said: ‘I chose spelling because the answers were right in front of me. It’s the only subject I could help you with. But I knew if I pushed you on that, you’d take care of the rest.’”

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While the past month has shown us the myriad ways in which Donald Trump is racist, let’s not forget that our contemptible president is also a raving misogynist. This is not news: we’ve known about Trump’s rampant hate of women from his days bullying Rosie O’Donnell, to his harassment of the women in his beauty pageants, to his sexist and gross campaign against Hillary Clinton in 2016. And let’s not forget the double-digit accusations of sexual misconduct, rape, and sexual assault.

So it’s no surprise that Trump’s malignant misogyny extends to his treatment of women leaders. A new report by reporter Carl Bernstein details hundreds of highly classified phone calls with foreign leaders which Trump was woefully unprepared for. And following Trump’s well-known pattern, he oscillated between praising and sucking up to dictators like Vladimir Putin and Turkish President Recep Erdogan, while hurling verbal abuse at America’s allies.

Trump saved his bullying and vitriol for female world leaders, like German Chancellor Angela Merkel and former UK Prime Minister Theresa May. Bernstein wrote:

“But his most vicious attacks, said the sources, were aimed at women heads of state. In conversations with both May and Merkel, the President demeaned and denigrated them in diatribes described as “near-sadistic” by one of the sources and confirmed by others. “Some of the things he said to Angela Merkel are just unbelievable: he called her ‘stupid,’ and accused her of being in the pocket of the Russians … He’s toughest [in the phone calls] with those he looks at as weaklings and weakest with the ones he ought to be tough with.”

German officials described Trump’s calls with Merkel as “very aggressive”, so much so that they were kept quiet by Merkel’s staff. Trump’s words were so abusive that his phone calls were only heard by a limited group: “It’s just a small circle of people who are involved and the reason, the main reason, is that they are indeed problematic.”

That Trump would call Angela Merkel, who is the de facto leader of the free world and holds a doctorate in quantum chemistry “stupid,” would be laughable if it weren’t so depressing. But it is textbook Trump to accuse his enemies of the exact behavior he himself is engaged in. Sources say that Merkel remained cool under pressure, and that “the Chancellor indeed stayed calm, and that’s what she does on the phone.”

But Merkel wasn’t the only recipient of Trump’s vitriol. Former UK Prime Minister Theresa May was subject to “humiliating and bullying” words from Trump, who called her “a fool” and “spineless” regarding issues such as Brexit and NATO. According to an unnamed source, “He’d get agitated about something with Theresa May, then he’d get nasty with her on the phone call … It’s the same interaction in every setting — coronavirus or Brexit — with just no filter applied.”

Unlike Merkel, May was said to be “flustered and nervous” in her conversations with Trump, as a source added, “He clearly intimidated her and meant to.”

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Private First-Class Vanessa Guillen, aged only 20 years old, was reported missing two months ago at the Fort Hood Army Base in Killeen, Texas, on April 22. She went missing shortly after she confided in her family she was being sexually harassed by an unnamed sergeant. She said she felt unsafe while on-duty. On Monday this week, a group of 30 volunteers searching for the Private discovered human remains and items believed to be linked to her in an undisclosed area, The Daily Mail reports. During the desperate search for Guillen, the Third Cavalry Regiment commander also launched an investigation into her sexual assault allegations. To highlight the prevalence of sexual assault in the force, other army women shared their stories via Twitter using the hashtag #IAmVanessaGuillen.

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There’s always that moment...

It never fails, you’ll act like a normal human for a while and I let my guard down, partly because I always hope that things can get better and maybe even be as good as they used to be, and then, BAM! You go right back to being an asshole in things big and small.

#deathbypapercut