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Oh hyenas & their catnip 🙂‍↔️

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we lost the culture war so bad after 1865... we should live in an america where every single citizen looks back with patriotic fervor at how bad the union kicked the confederacy's ass. that should be universally regarded as a triumph of the capital U capital S capital A U-S-A. everyone regardless of geography should feel themselves living in the legacy of the union. the fact that confederate generals went down in anyone's history as anything but a bunch of delusional war-losing loser traitor weenies who dragged their states into a bloodbath and couldn't even keep their own men from deserting in droves is perhaps our greatest historiographical sin and one i truly with all my heart believe we are paying for as americans to this day.

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“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.

What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.

And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.”

~ Howard Zinn

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I just wanted you to know that a writing professor at my university used your "in the current, moving forward" fic as an example in class so I found out about your work through class which is pretty cool lol.

WHAT

that's actually lowkey so crazy ahsbbdjssjsnsnsn

...what did they say

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happy 1st of october now where's the anne of green gables quote

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so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god

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Remember to check your registration often! They're increasing their efforts to cheat and disenfranchise.

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appalachia is devastated. towns i loved, towns i visited all the time, are gone. not damaged, GONE. they are leveled to the ground. there is nothing left but rubble and ruin. people are dead. appalachia is poor to begin with and relies on tourism for a lot of its income, and multiple of those tourist locations are just...gone.

my town is okay, but it's flooded and wrecked. trees are blocking all but one way out of our neighborhood. power lines are hanging limp in the roads. we've been without power for over 24 hours and will continue to be without power for likely another 24+. disabled people and poor people are GOING to die from this. gods save appalachia.

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breakup asker here i talked to him and said that i was wrong to think long distance would never work out and that i wanted him back and could close the distance soon and he said i hurt him too bad and he would have to be an idiot to let me hurt him again so now i feel even ten billion times shittier

oh love i'm so so sorry :( i wish i could give better advice than just time heals all wounds...because i know it to be true and it has in the past and it will for you too. sending you love and i hope it gets better soon

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exes that keep you around as friends just keep you around as options! drop him and move on

it was more that i wanted to be friends HAHA. we were friends to lovers so uh

honestly i don't even really want to get back together (we broke up because of practical/logistical reasons), i was more just blindsided that he went back to his other ex

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look I'm just a random follower but if this guy jumped back into an ex-relationship this quickly after a fairly serious relationship then he's literally not even worth thinking let alone crying about. guy can't even stand to be alone. imagine if it had all magically worked out and you ended up married to a loser who is too incapable of emotional investment to even properly move on a relationship before fucking someone else's day up. OR! OR! a loser who thinks life is some buffet where you can just sample girls and move on! a schmuck like that isn't "one year" material let alone forever. you can do better. and you know this deep inside yourself too.

HAHA wait it's actually very fine...it is very much on me because we've been broken up for a good while and i actually told a mutual friend that i hoped he started dating again, i just uh. did not expect it to be his other ex-girlfriend. who also befriended me during the spring ahshshsbdbsshs. i think it would be less difficult if we weren't also friends and i hadn't leaned on him so heavily for emotional and mental support post-breakup haha

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"Dostoevsky as lover", Henrik Karlsson

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wtf are you supposed to do when youre the one who ended things but you would do anything to be back together again. read your fic bawling my eyes out

oh my god...well ok i am maybe not the best advice-giver given that this was a vent fic that was inspired by some of my own experiences with my most recent ex (who actually just went back to the girl he dated before me who's also my friend but. that's a whole different story)

this is a tough question on many fronts though. i think the main thing to think about here is why you would want to get back together. is it because you miss them specifically or because you miss having someone? those are two very different things and i think it can sometimes be really hard to distinguish them, but i think one good thing to contemplate is what exactly you miss (is it their jokes or is it just having some to hold/someone to hold you, etc.)

the other big factor, of course, is why you broke up in the first place. was it an insurmountable difference? was it purely circumstantial (and even when/if it is purely circumstantial, circumstances can mean a lot)?

i have friends who got back together with an ex and it went great and they're still together to this day. i also have friends who got back together with an ex and it only hurt more after it ended the second time. i think ultimately the two main things to contemplate are why exactly you would get back together and how feasible it is that things would work out for the better if you did get back together. another factor certainly is time — are the factors that led you to break up resolved now, or can they be resolved at this point in time?

ultimately though i really hope that this advice helps at least a little bit and i'm sending you love...please keep me in the loop on what you decide to do!

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WELL. my ex went back to his ex before me (who also befriended me). have not been having the best time lmfao

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