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Orgasm Control: A List of Benefits

I get a lot of questions about the benefits for me and for my husband about the benefits of structured orgasm control as part of addressing the issue of “mismatched libidos” in heterosexual relationships. For many people, as soon as they make a start on this journey, a range of benefits become clear pretty quickly. So, in this case, I believe the requests for providing a list benefits are for people who are still in the process of deciding if this approach is for them.

The short answer is - yes, your life (and sex life) will change for the better. Give it a try.

The second short answer - yes, use a chastity cage. While it is possible to practise orgasm control without one, the benefits for you, but especially for him, of using a chastity cage are exponential. Perhaps the list of benefits below will elucidate why:

Control vs Neglect

In most heterosexual, long-term relationships, women have a significantly lower sex drive than their male partners. Men have less sex than they would ideally like. In this sense, marriage means that females control the allocation of sex. Already. However, without a deliberate structure and communication around the element of this control, the mismatched libido is interpreted by the male as ‘neglect’ or the feeling of not being desired. This can drive the male to pornography, masturbation or ‘nagging for sex’, which puts unwanted pressure on you, and is a serious turn-off.

When orgasm control is discussed and structured as part of the couple’s sexual dynamic, the male’s perception moves from being ‘neglected’ to ‘controlled’. The latter is highly arousing, and the sexual dynamics flips on its head. By controlling his sexual release, you as a couple are indicating that it has a ‘value’ far greater than when he is simply free to masturbate at will. His greatest physical reward, and the oxytocin, bonding, dopamine rush that follows becomes linked to you, not to Pornhub.

More Sex, More Orgasms (For YOU)

Orgasm control is about controlling the MALE orgasm, not yours. The worst thing you can do is be sexually inactive between release windows. Rather just call the whole thing off now - it will not work.

Rather, you can and should have frequent orgasms - and he will love giving them to you. My partner and I have sex frequently outside of his release window. I unlock him and we have standard sex - the only difference is that he is not allowed to cum. He goes slower, uses toys, users his hands and tongue - whatever he needs to do to follow the rules - and I can deliciously and *selfishly* enjoy it. Once we're done, he is locked back up until next time.

This is what he expects and desires - don't feel bad for one second. Stop thinking in the old school "Sex is about the male being satisfied" mindset. It is mindblowing for him in every way - both mentally and physically.

Reigniting the Desire

As has been said on this blog before, males are programmed to ‘move on’ emotionally after ejaculating. Orgasm leads to a spike in prolactin which is a ‘shut off valve’ for intimacy and sexual desire. Frequent masturbation is therefore a total intimacy killer. Controlling the male orgasm leads to increases in oxytocin focused on you as his key objects of desire. He is heavily sexually aroused and his desire for you will skyrocket. Now, he is fully aware that he can’t do anything about it until his scheduled release, so it translates as increased intimacy, and increased energy for other things.

No Pressure for Sex

Modern marriages are defined by women ‘feeling bad’ every time they are not up for sex. The perception of old-world society is that it is the women’s duty to provide sex whenever the male desires. With chastity and orgasm control, this is completely reversed. Sex is not the goal, and the ongoing sexual rush of the denial is what the male will savor the most.

We have PIV (penis in vagina) sex frequently. Most often this is outside of his release window, so he knows that he is not allowed to orgasm, and after I am finished, he is re-locked. It's a mind-screw and a challenge for him, but he absolutely LOVES it!

Chastity is Effortless

With him in chastity, I can do all of this without really having to do much. A bit of attention here and there, a bit of teasing and he is at a constant, positive simmer. It is about communication, structure and commitment.

Release Days are Effortless

When I do allow him an orgasm, this too can be as effortless as you could possibly imagine. On release days, his excitement is so high that bringing him to climax can take as little as a few seconds. This is about “release” - after weeks locked up he will not be able to last very long. Sometimes he will cum just by taking the cage off... In which case, job done 😂.

I usually start by having him bring me to orgasm as usual - with his tongue, hands or a toy. Now it's his turn (for once!).

First decision - do you want him to have his release while in the cage or unlocked?

Caged: it's about balls and nipples. I recommend one hand plays with his nips while the other pulls, squeezes and strokes his balls. Then begin tapping his balls at a regular rhythm, building intensity slowly. Tell him he has permission to cum... Keep tapping and in a few minutes he will come to the edge. He is to ask permission one more time before he about to cum. As he is coming, tap / slap harder until he is finished.

Unlocked: Take off the cage, grip his balls tightly and pull them away from his body, back and forth. Try to touch his nub as little as possible. At most, use a slow, infrequent stroke with a single finger from the base of his nub up the shaft to the tip. He must ask permission just as he is about to cum. At this point, tighten your grip and pull his balls away from his body and hold them there until he is finished.

Tip 1: If you do unlock him for release, always relock directly after he orgasms. This significantly reduces the "drop" he will experience after orgasm and will push him through the 2-3 grouchiness period much smoother. He loves it if I put the cage on him, but if you prefer he locks himself, straight after his release, firmly tell him that it's time to go back in the cage.

Tip 2: Feed it to him! Tell him to clean up with his tongue or at least lick it off your hand. Recycling is important 😂.

Cages Look Sexy

I think of chastity cages as jewellery which is very aesthetically pleasing. Unlocked penises flop about, lean to one side, grow and shrink unpredictably and are often pretty badly manicured. When locked in a cage, everything is so neat. Males will need to do a bit of gardening down there to make it as comfortable as possible. Everything is held in place. His nub is encased and immobilized. His balls are held tight and presented forward. He will want to wear tight underwear or swimwear for comfort purposes, which presents such a neat little package. Every time I see the cage I am reminded that he is doing this for me, and I get a little shiver down my spine. It just looks better, and I love it!

Arousal on Demand

Males think about sex all the time. The vast majority of sexual thoughts and corresponding erections go completely ignored. When locked in chastity, these sexual thoughts (and erections) are contained, and are linked to you as the keyholder. This is highly arousing for the male, and will feel like direct attention from you - even though you may not even be in the same postcode. The cage works for you full-time, and is there whenever the male is aroused. Extremely powerful!

Discipline

The chastity cage helps males to stick to the rules. Most males masturbate significantly more than you will ever imagine. For the vast majority, they will NEVER have gone 21 days or more without masturbating since they first discovered it in their teens. With a cage, masturbation is simply off the table. They must direct this energy elsewhere. Which leads to :

Weight Loss and Conditioning

All of this extra energy must go somewhere, and in most cases, this is directed to physical exercise and conditioning. Many women report that time in chastity has lead to significant weight loss and body sculpting in their males. Motivation and drive are seriously tangible chastity benefits that you will notice as little as 7 days in.

Service

Oxytocin is the courting hormone. Increases in this wonder drug caused by orgasm control will often lead to a far more focused, attentive and service-oriented mentality. Whether conscious on his part or not, I notice a happier, more helpful male, with a higher attention-to-detail and eagerness to please. Use this as you see fit!

A Better Sex Life

Most importantly, chastity and orgasm denial will improve your sex life. Sex does not equate to penetration anymore, although it certainly can if you wish. Unlock him at any point in the schedule for sex of you're keen for it - it's just that outside of the release window, he will have to find a way not to orgasm. You are the focus until his release date!

Most importantly, "sex" in long-term marriages is about sexual interaction - intimacy, honesty, communication and care. This is why you are doing this in the first place. Rewire your thinking as a couple, and become a highly engaged, balanced and aligned sexual partnership.

Conclusions

These are just some of the many benefits that are associated with the exciting journey of male orgasm control. Drop some more in the comments and I can add to this ever-growing list.

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Pegging, The Alpha Male's Perspective

A post that spoke to my own sexual maelstrom. Just because I like to be penetrated, doesn’t mean I like to be submissive. In fact, being penetrated as follows is always better. This is not about me submitting. This is not about being dominated. This is all about me getting fucked. If you get off on the control aspect, the power exchange aspect, or the role reversal aspect, great. Get off on what ever gets you off. For me, this is about getting fucked, in the ass, by a woman, that I find sexy, attractive, and deserving enough to share this with. Make no mistake though, this is about me.

If you spend more than a few minutes looking for pegging porn inline you will typically find men in submissive postures, Fem Dom porn, huge strap-ons, and lots of humiliation. That’s not the way it has to be. That’s not the way I enjoy pegging for pegging’s sake. If, huge if, we are in a D/s relationship and you decide that it’s time to make me grovel on my knees and destroy me with a horse cock strap on, well I don’t have much say. The act, for me, is then submission, not pegging.

Generally I prefer some amount of role reversal but, I like extra kink on everything: a tight cock ring, rough sex, name calling, hair pulling, face slapping, spitting, degradation. I want to get fucked. Don’t get me wrong, there might be a time where I’d enjoy some gentle bend over boyfriend lovemaking but, in general I want to get fucked porn star style.

Unless it’s in a D/s aspect I need some notice. I like to get cleaned up. I like to rub one out a few hours before. Trust me, I need too, or I’m not going to last and I want to last. That want to last is going to be the only reason I might want my hands bound or a gates of hell on my cock. I don’t want to cum too soon and once I’m in the “I love getting fucked like this” head space, a gust of wind is all it would take to set me off.

Now when I say I want to be fucked I mean it just like that. I want to get fucked just like any girl on the planet wants to get fucked. I want foreplay, I want reciprocating oral, I want you to pay attention to me, and focus on giving me pleasure.

Your strap on and harness is going to matter. I said I want you to fuck me not, I want you to use this toy on me. I can do that myself. Your harness should be comfortable to you and hold your strap on in place firmly so that there isn’t a need for constant readjustment. Your strap on doesn’t need to be Jon Holes sized. Most are going to be uncomfortable at that girth. Remember most commercial strap-ons are made with the idea women will be receiving them and come in a very thick diameter. Sadly, I’m an armature. I don’t take anything in my ass near enough accommodate the massive cocks. Length is where it is. It needs to be long enough to hit my prostate. The bigger the head, the better. That’s more surface area stimulating my prostate. I don’t mean 13.5 inches long and skinny. You bottoming out in my colon does nothing for me but, make me clench up and focus more on the pain then the potential pleasure. I understand this is all subjective to the receiver and what they can accommodate but, this is my perspective.

Make me comfortable. Make out with me. Hot, passionate kissing. Grab my cock, jerk me off a little. When was the last time you tried anal sex when you weren’t turned on and relaxed. As much as I enjoy pegging I still get nervous about it. Once you are fucking me it’s not all about fucking my ass. I have abs, Pecs, nipples, arms, a cock, a mouth, and a brain that all need to be stimulated. Don’t let me touch myself for more than a few seconds at a time until we both decide I want to cum. It will be hard for me not to but, help me. If I we talk about pegging what I’m asking you to do it to fuck me the way you want to get fucked and when you want to get fucked isn’t it about your pleasure more than mine?

Position is something else of an inaccuracy portrayed in porn. The curve of a normal strap on is going to miss my prostate just like the curve of a normal cock is going to miss your g spot in many positions. I’m not saying that doggy style isn’t going to be fun but, it’s not going to provide the most prostate stimulation that missionary or “cowboy” (in this case) would provide. Remember then main stimuli here is your cock directly stimulating my prostate. A curved “realistic” strap on will be better suited from on top and flat back positions. The straighter the strap-on the better it will be for all positions.

When talking dirty forget for a second that your cock is rubber. Saying things like “I wish I could feel you.” or “I wish I could cum all over you.” are going to be mood breakers. Indulge the fantasy. Your cock is the most real thing in the world at this point for me. Own that. Trust me, at this point I wish you could fill me with your cum or let loose in my face. Remember I want to be your porn star whore right now.

Like with any sex act I want us both to enjoy ourselves, I want passion, I want an amazing orgasm, and for this one act I want it to be about me.

-From Fetlife.com, Copyright 2011 by Username Josef_Abrams

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Hot to make him cum from anal only:

It is a fact that ALL men, CAN cum with no stimulation to their penis.

All that is required is to not let your man cum under any circumstances, for any reason.

So lets begin…

The first thing you need to do is let your husband/boyfriend know your intentions. Tell him know right now that you are going to run an experiment on him. Tell him it will be tough on him, but the reward at the end of your experiment will be well worth it. Let him know that you are going to teach him how to have an “anal orgasm” where he will feel a full orgasm and cum without any stimulation to his cock whatsoever. Let him know that when he has it, that it will be the most intense orgasm of his life, and that the wait for this will be worth it. Also let him know that you do not know how long this will take, but it will involve lots of sex, but he is not allowed to cum. (this will make him interested for sure.)

Stage 1.

Every day you must tease your husband or boyfriend. You must make him hard, and if possible EDGE him every day. This is where you bring him really close, and then stop prior to the point of no return. Also be sure to tease him verbally and talk dirty to him. Make him bring you to orgasm as many times as you like, and for him to do things like lick your ass. This is a giant turn on.

The main point of this stage, is to tease and deny for approximately 2-5 days following his last orgasm.

Stage 2.

This is very much the same as stage 1 except after 5 days, you will start to anally penetrate on a regular basis. After you tease him and his cock is really hard, flip him over, and start working his ass. Plant some triggers here while you are doing this. Tell him how horny he is, and how much he likes it when you fuck his ass. At this point, use your fingers, dildos, anything you have ever used in the past, and use lots of language to keep him turned on during this. Let him know what a good anal slut he is for you, and that good boys get great rewards. The point is, keep the tease and level of excitement high, while you penetrate his ass.

As you are using your dildo, fingers, strapon, or whatever you want, ask him how it feels best. Slow it down, and speed it up, and try different things. Get him to tell you what feels best. Find out if slower or faster is better, and find the perfect speed that he likes a lot. Don’t just take his word for it, judge by how his body is reacting along with what he is saying.

At this point it would be a good idea to do this at least once every second day. Every day is better, and at the same time too, so it becomes something he expects. For the ultimate and best results, at some point, switch to strap on only. Use varying rhythms, and lots of verbalization as you take him each time. Let him know how much you are turned on.

Stage 3.

Pretty much keep on repeating stage 2. Do it daily or at least regularly. Make sure you talk to him while you are doing it. Make sure you make him hard everytime before you start doing this. At this point it is really only a matter of time. The only rule you need to get from this point on, is that he does not get to cum again normally UNTIL he blows his load from you anally entering him. At some point his semen buildup will need to be released, and between your verbal encouragement, and cock teasing, it will happen. Definitely.

One thing is for sure though. All men can cum through anal penetration only, and this exercise is to find out how long that is for your man regardless.

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