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10 Quick Ways To Tell a Sugar from Salt/Fake Daddy

 A real SD’s first message to you will be 500+ characters and/or written in a letter format. A fake / salt daddy will not take the time to write you a real response showing that he’s read your profile. A real SD will because he knows how many fake SB’s there are in the bowl. A real SB will show you he is serious by taking the time to initiate a real conversation prior to meeting up.

A salt daddy will string you along… he’ll pull out every excuse, every insult, and every card in the book to avoid paying you. He may imply or flat out call you a gold digger, guilt you for taking his money, etc. Don’t fall for it, and don’t waste your time.

If his income is less than $200k, he a salt daddy, okay? Like most SB’s you are looking for a daddy who can provide an allowance of some sort. You won’t find one with a man who brings in less than $200k before taxes. ESPECIALLY not one with a man who has a net worth less than $750k.

Salt Daddies ask for nudes right off the bat. Real SD’s pride themselves on being generous, gentlemanly benefactors. Real SD’s will not look to disrespect you in such a way if they truly value your time, company, and what you may add to their lives.

Salt Daddies tend to try lowball you into agreeing to something ridiculous like $150 per meet. Real SD’s have the financial means to support you in whatever way they claim to be able to. In my world, less than $400 per meet is laughable.

Salt Daddies may try to emotionally manipulate you, claiming they like you so much, you’re their dream woman, etc. etc. to take advantage of you and your valuable time. Don’t fall for it, just send them a thank you message for a nice date and move on.

Real SD’s know how to plan a dinner, at the most basic. Real SD’s love spoiling their sugar babies and will usually spare no expense when it comes to dinner, brunch, or other meals. Choice and price range of a restaurant is HUGELY indicative of what kind of daddy a man is/will be.

Real SD’s will compensate you by the second date. I’m not going to lie to you, you will not always be compensated for the first date. I’ve met plenty of REAL SD’s who do not compensate for a meet and greet– and understandably so. But if you’ve gone on a second date, and they have not compensated you by then, MOVE ON. Real SD’s are usually happy to or will bring a little gift to show they are legit. 

Salt Daddies will send requests to view private photos without even sending so much as a message to introduce themselves. I always ignore, ignore, ignore photo viewing requests if I have not had any adequate conversation with a POT.

Salt Daddies will ask for or mention explicit sexual favors right off the bat, within the first couple of messages. A real SD will mention ‘intimacy’ and wanting to eventually take the relationship to the next step, but they won’t devalue you so much as to speak to you in such a vulgar way. Be suspicious and block men who are 

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SA Tip #1: Curate Your Profile, Baby

I get this question a lot and I figured I’d make a little post on how to sift out the legit Sugars from the Salts. I’ve mentioned numerous times before that a big indicator of a salt daddy is the length of his initial message to you. That being said, you can’t expect a POT to send you a long letter if you hardly give them anything to go off of in your profile.

Below I’ve compiled a few tips to crafting the perfect profile to lure the legit daddies versus the salts.

1. Show that you’re serious

When I say,“show that you’re serious,” actually take time to fill out every aspect of your SA profile. It shows that you actually care how you appear to POT’s, and for the love of God– babies, PLEASE spellcheck and proofread your bio. Nothing is more of a turnoff that an illiterate SD or SB. Don’t be that bitch.

 Some necessary information that I like to include are:

Hobbies

Interests

Food preferences

What I’m looking for in an ideal arrangement

2. Talk about your interests

There is nothing more attractive than a well rounded Sugar Baby. SD’s like to feel like they’re not hiring a sex worker or hooker, so they want their girls to have a personality and hobbies/interests. If you don’t read, choose a subset of Classic literature and wikipedia the shit out of the big ones and some obscure titles too. If you don’t ski or do any physical hobbies, say that you love to do yoga. JUST HAVE SOMETHING THAT YOU LIKE TO DO OTHER THAN SPENDING MONEY. Sugar daddies aren’t stupid and they can see right through a girl looking to use them like an ATM. Alternately, I can see right through daddies looking to treat me like a machine where you insert coins and sex is spit right back out. A mutually beneficial arrangement is only good so long as there is mutual respect. You get that by being a woman who demands respect, not asks for it.

3. Make allowance clear on your profile

It is so so so important to say that you are looking for something long term and are only looking for one daddy at a time. No daddy wants to compete with others, and every single time you go out, you should be treating your daddy like he is the only one you have eyes for in the entire universe. That being said, you should definitely mention an allowance if that’s really something you are looking for down the road. Be up front, and don’t be afraid to negotiate and ask for what you want. 

4. Don’t mention sex or sound like a dominatrix/hustla baby (even if that’s what you really are)

DO. NOT. MENTION. SEX. OR. INCLUDE. INNUENDOS. IN. YOUR. BIO. This sends the completely wrong message and implies that you are only looking for someone to pay you for sex/only want an arrangement built off of sex. Even though sex is part of an arrangement, it shouldn’t be the only thing there is. Also starting off on that foot will get you nowhere except sleazy salts. Do not mention sex. It comes naturally after establishing a relationship with your SD.

Also throw in something about working a job/being a student. The less your daddy feels leeched from, the more he will be willing to give. Always always always make it CLEAR that you are not desperate or relying on their money (even if you are). They will be more apt to want to give you an allowance and spoil you if they feel like it’s a perk to your life, not the only thing you rely on.

5. Sound as SWEET as possible without being sickeningly so

You want to be the girl next door, their sweetheart, babydolll, eye candy for them to lug around to whatever fancy restaurant they’d like to frequent with you. You want to be classy, sophisticated, darling, anything that screams ACCEPTABLE DATE. To perpetuate this idea, and to sift out the sugars from salts, just add things in your bio that make it sound like you are worth spending time and money on. You want to be the hot young dreamgirl they totally couldn’t get without having money. But make them feel like you’re wholesome, good, and all that jazz for extra perks. You want them to be impressed AF with you. That’s how you get the goods babes.

6. Only have one photo that is NOT a face photo on your profile.

A real SD understands the importance of discretion, and the salts will scattershoot send requests to SB’s requesting access to private photos/face photos. Establish a relationship, conversation, and move to texting before you share any photos. Not having private photos deters superficial requests of SD’s demanding to see photos, and you have more control over personally sending them than having a private album on SA. It also encourages actual conversation, especially from your profile.

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My friend (who is against me sugaring) is low on money and in between paychecks. I asked her to come over yesterday so we can do masks and watch movies.

She tells me she has no gas. She has helped me before with $$$ when I was in a tough spot so I offered to put gas in her car until she gets paid.

She tells me she’s on her way to meet this guy who she’s in a “situationship” with. I look at her like she’s crazy. He lives 30+ mins away from her. She’s driving on E to meet him for a “movie date” and will probably 100% be sucking his dick later and IM the one that should be putting gas in her car???? (I left her a long annoyed voice note lmao.)

I told her to get him to pay for her gas since she’s going out of her way to meet him and she came up with every excuse NOT to ask him. It was so sad. I just want my friend to win, but she’s so male identified and trapped.

All that being said, POT/SD or in your vanilla relationships: Men do not hesitate to ask for sex. Hell, they even EXPECT and feel ENTITLED to it after a date.

Don’t hesitate to be financially compensated.

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💰💕 8/30 SB UPDATE 💕💰

Hey guys…. I’m SO sorry I haven’t been updating this at all. Life gets in the way. Anyway, I’m officially all moved into my new apartment! Apartment SD bought me all new furniture and paid for a painting company to come in. I’m literally over the moon about it, so I’ve been planning a housewarming party for some friends of mine. Apartment SD has been nothing short of amazing and it feels more like a FWB than anything else…. he stops by for about every Sunday afternoon (if he’s not out of town for work), we order in food and enjoy each other’s company. We literally text each other memes and stupid Twitter posts about Donald Trump during the week too; it’s pretty hilarious. He gives me $850 a week via SquareCash (I recommend this so much!!! SquareCash also literally sends you a legitimate Visa debit card and you don’t need to use your banking information or anything). The other day he came over and I’d bought a few of those stick-and-poke tattoo kits to do with my best friend…. I had a kit left over so he asked if I’d tattoo something on him. Was originally going to just do a little Saturn but I tattooed a ‘K’ instead and he loved it 😇

Recently, I also met another SD through WYP a few weeks ago. He’s produced a handful of Broadway shows among other things and picked me up in this beautiful Porsche Panamera for our first date. He gave me $600 in an envelope just for showing up…. he kept saying how happy he was that I actually showed up and that most girls just end up ghosting so I suppose that was him showing his appreciation, considering I’d agreed to a $200 date. 😋 I ended up Ubering to meet up with a friend after we finished dinner and before I got there, he’d already asked for an official arrangement - 5k a month. 5k!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is honestly my biggest allowance yet and I don’t even know how to channel my excitement because I don’t want to jinx it! But yeah, I see him again tomorrow and I’m going to get a wax, get my hair done, and buy a new outfit in about an hour because this is no joke lol.

Xoxo, talk soon 💕

- K

P.S. If anyone’s been messaging me and I haven’t gotten back to you, it’s mainly because I was giving out all types of advice and information to people who weren’t even courteous enough to send me a simple “thank you” after I’d typed out a five paragraph essay for them w/ a damn intro and conclusion lol 🙄

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7am is a very good time to be messaging these men, they’re up, either going to work or working their millionaire empire from home (hopefully lmao) and checking their inboxs hoping for that one message that’ll make their day a bit brighter- utilise this!! Xo

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Seemed like a fair exchange to me. He wanted to picture me being naked and I wanted to picture money being deposited into my account.

Cash rules everything around me.

Updates: Before anyone points it out, I spelled curricular wrong. My silly ass. When a clap back goes wrong.

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Mr.Global is now officially my SD. We have arranged to meet on weeknds and weekdays. How many times has yet to be discussed yet. I suppose whenever our schedule permits. He’s my only SD as of the moment. I have other dates lined up, but it appears he’s solid and serious. We agreed to $1200 a month at dinner but he later changed his mind about some things which bought it down to 1K a month.

This morning I woke up and he transferred me $600 to my Google Wallet. 😊 Let the hoeing begin.

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For my black SBs that wear wigs:

Don’t you just love when you pass a woman on the street and the smell of her hair literally makes you do a double take?

Well men love it too!

I obviously wash my hair more frequently than my wigs, so I buy a body mist (I use Nude by Rihanna, Vince Camuto, and this Coconut body mist from Victoria’s Secret) and spray down my wigs.

And when I spray down, I basically spray ¼ to ½ of the bottle on them. To the roots to the ends and particularly in the cap and netting.

So find a body mist that compliments your perfume (because remember! Body mist is meant to be layered) and one that’s relatively inexpensive and easy to obtain.

This method works for me because the scent STAYS on my wigs in between uses and washes.

This way, you can be THAT girl with the great smelling hair. 🌬💇🏾

When you laugh with your whole body and your hair flushes your face at a dinner/bar, or you enter an elevator and you’re the literal breath of fresh air, when someone calls your name and you do a 180, or you’re just passing by someone, you’ll make a lasting impression with the people around you.

I DON’T recommend doing this to your real hair for a number of reasons. Please use your common sense.

(I give these tips about scents and fragrance on my blog, particularly because I have had men and women stop me in the middle of the street JUST to tell me how nice I smell. And scent is a powerful memory trigger. )

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💰 Paypal for sugaring 💰

“Will paypal show my real name?” YES IT WILL. You have to use your legal name if you want to connect it to a bank, and paypal does show that name.

“Can I use paypal with a sugar name?” Yes absolutely, but it is extra work. You can make a second account with a fake name, and not connect that to your bank. Have your SD send money to that account, then transfer it to your real account.

“What if a SD can’t use paypal, and can only transfer the money directly to my bank?” He’s lying. If he can’t use paypal, suggest one of the other online payment apps. If he still will only pay with your bank info, drop him asap he’s just trying to scam you.

“What other online payment apps can I use?” Squarecash, and venmo are both great options. You can use a fake name without any trouble on both apps. They aren’t as well known as paypal, so most SBs automatically use paypal.

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Me, being a routine savage. Letting old men know their place. Who fucking old limp dicks for FREE?! Please explain to me. You hoes could be having money and paying off your debt but you want to ride old dick and complain about how men ain’t shit. You HOES allow them to be AIN’T SHIT MEN! DON’T.TALK.TO.ME.UNLESS.YOU.HAVE.A.CHECK.TO.SPEND.

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Hi! Do you have a specific list of apps that you personally think every sugar baby should have? Like what you consider the best money transaction app and things like that?

Dating apps and sites:-Seeking arrangement -Tinder -Okcupid -Bumble -Plenty of fish -Clover

Payment apps-Paypal-Cash app-Venmo-Google wallet

Texting apps-Sideline -Google voice-Kik

This is just off the top of my head, so if anyone can think of any other good ones please add them!!

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POT Dating Tips

1. Always confirm the same day that you guys are meeting. These men have crazy schedules and they can cancel on you same day, best to know before you do your hair & makeup. 

2. Never drive or uber a long distance to meet them. They should offer to come to you and if they don’t they should offer to uber you. I always get ubered to my dates, I never give them my real address obviously but somewhere close that I could walk or a place I could drive to and leave my car. Driving or ubering a far distance because he said he would reimburse you isn’t worth the risk. These men ain’t shit! they will lie to you. Don’t risk being out of gas or money, never worth it. 

3. Always vet them before you meet them, nothing worse than going on POT date to find out he wants to pay you 200 per meeting. ASk questions nothing to invasive but just enough to see if can meet your needs. If you want monthly allowances make sure he’s open to that. IF he wants to do per meet to start, discuss how much. You can obviously negotiate a better price in person, but make sure you guys are in the same range $$$.  Don't’ waste your hair/makeup and a cute outfit on a fuck boy who thinks he’s a sugar daddy. NEVER go on the POT with someone who gives you weird vibes, I mean if he’s weird over the phone he probably won’t be better in person, nothing is worth your safety. 

4. Be cute but comfortable, Opt for the heels that are more comfortable over the ones that may look better with the outfit.  Nothing worst than being out and having your feet hurt the entire time. 

5. Be sexy and alluring without showing too much. I have big boobs so no matter what I wear their gonna show, but I always wear dresses that aren’t  too tight or show that much cleavage. He may want to take you to social events with his colleagues or friends, you don’t want to show up on your first encounter with your boobs out or a dress that barely covers your ass. You want to give off a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets vibe. You don’t have to spend much to look great, Forever 21 or Zara has great dress options that are affordable. Macy’s always has in store sales on shoes ( Got a couple of heels from there), DSW also. A little black dress with some cute heels and some simple accessories can go a long way, ladies. For new sugars, you can spend under 100 bucks buy a cute outfit that you can re-wear to multiple POT dates. Ball on a budget until you can get him to take you, to Saks ;)

6. Knowledge is key! reading book  Ho Tactics and the art of seduction has really stepped my sugar skills up. Body language and confidence is everything! This may sound silly but I practice my faces in the mirror so I can get an idea of what I’m looking like when I say certain things, also what angles i look best in so I know how to tilt my head or smile. You have to mindfuck these to give you everything you want but never had. I always give eye contact it shows that you are really engaged it also turns guys on. I always order martinis or wine because of the way the glass fit in your hand. Eating a  olive off a  toothpick while eye fucking a guy will drive him crazy. Always ask follow up questions, whens he’s going on and on about his job or life, in general, show that your interested make comments be engaging. Also, brush up on current events, I use the SKIMM to help keep me up to date on current events. Be pretty but also cultured.

7. Always choose a high-end restaurant in your area. I usually yelp and look for restaurants with $$$ that has the best reviews, I legit have been to areas in D.C that I wouldn’t have been able to afford or even heard of. Set your standards high and don’t lower them. Don’t ever go out with a guy who thinks going to some cheap chain restaurant is acceptable. Like your makeup shouldn’t cost more than the menu. Gain knowledge on the nicest spots in your area, if he wants to take you somewhere lower end that’s the easiest way to spot a Splenda. If it doesn’t go anywhere at least you got to go to a nice ass restaurant, ate some good ass food, and drank some wine that cost as much your textbooks. Still a win. 

8. If you’re meeting for a quick date such as Starbucks ( which I don’t even recommend, they give me Splenda vibes)  make sure you choose a time when it’s not too pack. You don’t want to walk into a packed Starbucks with the line to door and no seats for your first date it sets an awkward tone. You want to be in a quiet setting where you can discuss the arrangement privately, without random people walking by every minute.  Choose a time after lunch, or later in the evening. 

9.Safety First! Never give out private information, give out fake email address, phone numbers, etc. The only thing I’m truthful about is that I’m a student and my age. Never get into a POT car, or go back to his place. I also send my friends my location so they know where I’m at all times. Also download a safety app, very useful. If a guy gives you weird vibe excuse yourself to the bathroom and call a uber, try to find a different exit and leave his ass. Never meet up in a sketchy area or place. Make sure the place is public and that it is quiet but moderately packed. Never meet up too late in the night, and don't’ over a drink. Overdrinking puts you in a bad head space which can lead to a bad situation that could be unsafe. I have no more than 3 cocktails on date depending on the time we are together. These sites are filled with psychos, be careful !. 

10. Last but not least Never give up the pussy until you get yours. Things happen maybe you drank too much, or he was really cute so the chemistry was there but it is never a good idea to sleep with POT before the arrangement has been hashed out.  This is not normal dating and he is not your bf. Unless he’s paying your bills, tuition, rent or aiding your makeup addiction why does he deserve pussy???? Always get your first, these men will fuck and dip out never to be seen again. GIving him quick access will not get your bills paid sis, don’t do it. Before you think about giving him some think about your rent that’s about to be due, the tuition you still have to pay, that car payment, or Rihanna new makeup line that’s about to drop.  Pussy is power use it wisely!

Feel free to add on ladies. Pusssy is power, let’s encourage each other and help each other to mindfuck these men! #TeamVagina

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