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Gendered parenting is so weird. As a little kid I was a total daddy's girl, I was told I would always try to sneak into the garage, I was always very interested in everything he was doing and would follow him around while he was working, but while my family was never the type to outright say "you can't do that because you're a girl", they simply didn't entertain the idea that I could possibly be interested in cars. Then when my little brother was born, it was just assumed he would become a mechanic like our dad because he was a boy. Even though he, unlike me, didn't like being in the garage much and wasn't all that interested in what dad was doing. Once he got to a certain age, dad started making him help and would drag him away from his actual interests for it, which lead to a lot of arguing and not much actual learning.

Gendered expectations sort of create doubles of children. There's the real child with their actual personality, interests and behaviors, and then there's the Gender Child.

My real brother hated soccer and team sports. The Gender Child that existed only the minds of the adults in his life needed to play soccer because that's what a Boy Child does.

Growing up, I always felt like adults didn't actually know me as a person and they weren't interested in getting to know me. Because they felt they'd already learned everything there was to know about me when they were told "it's a girl".

When I talk about how I never got gifts I actually liked from my relatives (to this day I still don't like getting gifts that aren't something I picked out myself), it isn't actually about the gifts themselves. I don't even remember them. What I do remember is the feeling of being given gifts that were seemingly not bought with the real me in mind. They were for the Girl Child™️ version of me. The me that adults wanted me to be, not who I actually was.

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His Dark Materials | 1.03 "The Spies"

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We ask your questions anonymously so you don’t have to! Submissions are open on the 1st and 15th of the month.

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Turned on TikTok today and got a video from Spiders Georg. Amazing.

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not gonna lie, when i saw that a cybertruck had exploded i legit didn't realize it was some sort of premeditated thing, i just thought it was just another extreme flaw in it's design. i had no idea fireworks were involved, i honest to god thought it just did that on its own

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105 year old artist, Loongkoonan 🫶🏼

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Putting together a mood board for this year's art new years reminders:

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what is HAPPENING

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Oh yeah, I know them, we grew up together on tumblr.com

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gang. gang please i am begging you if you are underage do not DO NOT. LISTEN TO ME. HEY.

HEY LISTEN TO ME.

DO NOT PUT YOUR AGE IN YOUR BIO. DO NOT PUT YOUR ASSIGNED GENDER IN YOUR BIO (agab terminology is flawed in general but i don't fault you for using it in this case). DO NOT PUT YOUR TRIGGERS IN YOUR BIO. I AM NOT YELLING AT YOU I AM SAYING THIS URGENTLY. I AM NOT MAD. I AM WORRIED.

NO STRANGER NEEDS TO KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE. NO STRANGER NEEDS TO KNOW YOUR ASSIGNED GENDER/BODY *ESPECIALLY* IF YOU'RE UNDERAGE. NO STRANGER NEEDS TO KNOW WHAT HURTS YOU.

this goes double if you plan on posting your face--if you are a minor i highly discourage you from posting your face at all. this goes triple if you've posted where you're from. you do NOT need anyone you don't trust online having that information. even if nobody wants to hurt you directly--which is the case for 99% of people, nobody is out to hurt you specifically if they don't know you--it's also about your digital footprint.

please. stay anonymous, stay safe

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One thing they don’t tell you about sewing is that it is actually ironing

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i want the world to stop for like 1 year so i can rest

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musk is going to die in a Tesla explosion in 6 months after sticking his nose where it doesn't belong and we will never get a conclusive answer on whether it was a CIA car bomb or just a normal Tesla malfunction

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"we want to protect the kids!!"

— in a way that will also protect them from their parents & guardians right?

"what"

— if a parent or guardian wanted to abuse their child, would what you're trying to do make it harder for them?

"..."

— *pulls out a chart that shows 76% of abused children were victimized by a parent or legal guardian* will what you're advocating for make it easier for the majority child abusers, which is overwhelmingly parents & guardians, to get away with abuse?

"idk what this has to do with anything we just want to restrict children's freedoms more & give parents more control over them. you know. to protect them from adults who want to abuse them"

Every. Single. Time.