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“Asexual activist Yasmin Benoit talks to PinkNews about how she realised she was asexual, why the LGBT community needs to be more inclusive, annoying comments people make about asexuality, and why she’s embracing her asexuality as a proud, black model.“

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I remember how throughout middle school - high school there was so much pressure around to be dating someone, and if you weren’t, you were a loser or deemed unattractive. Your relationship status was like a social status, and if you’ve never been in one, you’re inexperienced and missing out.

I always thought to myself, what about the work I put into my personal interests? What about the friends I build deep connections with? What about me just being capable of taking care of myself? I feel like there was a lack of emphasis of being your own self and not giving a shit about what other people are doing back in middle school / high school.

While some people may think it’s important to have had previous relationship experiences before (which yeah, it works for some people that way), there’s also nothing wrong with investing that time in yourself and your friendships, and placing yourself first ✌🏻

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Some fun LGBT+ history from today’s #Pride tag on twitter

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Story of my life people. You know what’s real ? The struggle.

Happy Pride Month ♥

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The way that exclusionists treat ace and aro people often reminds me of how the average person would treat me when I started being open as non-binary. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it a thousand times, we are not enemies. Our experiences do not oppose each other, they are intertwined. If you’re ace, if you’re aromantic, if you’re any variation thereupon; your home is here. You belong here, too. You are beautiful, and powerful; and you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. You are a valued part of this community.

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gay culture is knowing and accepting that aces and aros belong in the LGBT+ community

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*sips coffee* what a beautiful day to remember that asexuality is real and what the A in LGBTQA+ stands for and that they are not straight but a part of the LGBTQA+ community

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i dont care if u never listen to me ever again just let me be ur internet dad for just one second: dont start cutting yourselves please ever

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listen, when you single out heteromamtic aces as not being allowed in the community, you are actually making a statement about all aces, whether you realize it or not.

by saying only sga aces are allowed in the community, you are saying that being ace in and of itself is not queer, unless you have another, “actually”, “more valid” queer identity. asexuality, you are saying, is not actually queer; it is non existent; it is inconsequential and virtually the same as straightness; you are saying, unless it is modified by “actual” queernes, or by being sga, asexuality is essentially straightness.

all aces are in the community, by virtue of being ace. aceness does not need to be qualified, in order to be taken seriously. pls stop equating aceness to nothingness or straightness

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You don’t have to be something plus ace to be lgbt, why else would there be an A in the whole acronym if that were true?

You don’t have to be trans AND gay to be lgbt

You don’t have to be bi AND nb to be lgbt

You don’t have to be poly AND pan to be lgbt

So why do you have to be ace (or other gray spectrum) AND something else to be LGBTQAI+?

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Honestly being asexual is so hard sometimes. It feels like the entire world is in on some joke you just don’t get. You’re surrounded by media talking about sparks and uncontrollable desire and all the rest of it and you just keep waiting for the punch line because either everyone must be lying and exaggerating or you’re missing something which everyone says is a vital part of their lives and the be all or end all and you just feel confused and empty. 

And being ace and suffering mental illness just makes it harder because you wonder if you really are ace or your numbness to the world has spread to your sexuality. 

There needs to be more representation to validate our experiences because this confusion and self-doubt is horrible.

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the drawings on this one are really shit, but I’m tired and I have school… please be nice I’m super self conscious lmao

so uh yeah, another BPD/my feelings comic. ok to reblog for anyone, whether you can relate or just find it pretty.

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Your identity is never too complex or too simple. There’s no such thing as either.

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shout out to ace and aro kids who are constantly bombarded with the opinion that sex and romantic love are directly connected to living a happy life.