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Did you know that sugar gliders love to cuddle when it’s cold? I think I will to, this holiday season.

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hey don, i wanna go back to school but im stuck between two majors. what should i do to figure out which one i truly want to do?

A good way I’ve found is seeing if your potential career paths will let you shadow them. Contacting businesses or other places to see what it’s like can help a lot!

Volunteering can help to, and really show you if you’d like to consider studying it more.

And of course doing solo studying into your options can help. Pretending you’ve gone with the major for a week and assigning yourself homework can show you if it’s something you’d enjoy.

In the end I hope that whatever you choose brings you great happiness and success.

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I’m currently stuck in a stagnant place. I’ve tried getting out, going everywhere to get help. I don’t know how to slow down and not panic that I won’t get anywhere in life.

I’m sad too. A person who is abusive lives with me and he has not been kicked out. I’m trying to give myself a safe space and make myself look at positives. But it’s really hard.

How do you help yourself and give peace when everything around you is chaos?

Slowing down is a lot more difficult than it seems. Something that could really help keep you steady is a schedule. Writing a list and checking off boxes can keep you focused on one task at a time, which can help you panic less. Giving yourself little rewards can help to. You do deserve those things. Little snacks or a book or game can help a lot.

Expressing yourself through art or another creative medium can help you, along with distracting you from your sadness.

If it’s an option try the police for any abuse, and if you’re a minor maybe try a trusted adult. I’d recommend moving out to, but I understand how that can be very expensive and difficult.

If these aren’t options, try and find a safe space outside of your home. The local library is always a good bet, and so are any nearby cafes. Nature can help to, long walks or a special spot that’s not easy to see can help you get away.

I’m truly sorry you’re being hurt, and I hope you’re able to get somewhere your abuser can’t follow. Or if you’re an adult, buying a door knob with a lock for your room, or safe for the things you don’t want ruined, could help.

Please always prioritize your own safety. If you’re being hurt, that’s not legal no matter who this person is to you.

Not all abuse is physical though. Try and remember that their cruelty is wrong. You are valued and you deserve better. Their words may hurt, and I am sorry if you are hurt using words.

I hope you can get somewhere you’ll truly be safe in the future.

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My favorite part of spooky season is the trick-or-treaters, and we do something special in my family that I thought would spread some holiday joy:

1) Every year, we decorate our house with massive pipe cleaner spiders and a yarn spiderweb. Every year.

2) My dad and I usually have trick or treat duty, and we have to make a game of how many layers we can fit under our costumes so we don't freeze to death.

3) We don't do candy; we do a cider/cocoa bar where we make a bunch of hot water and then have apple cider packets and hot cocoa packets with all kinds of toppings. It means the kids and their parents have to stay a little longer and we have time to compliment their costumes. This has the bonus of not making the trick-or-treaters knock, which freaks out our dog.

4) We usually bring the portable dvd player out and watch Hocus Pocus, a random Scooby-Doo movie, and the Charlie Brown Halloween special. Fun thing to do during slow periods.

5) We always have a bin of fun little party favor toys for kids with allergies or who don't like our offerings.

It just brings me a lot of joy and I thought I'd share.

This seems like an absolutely lovely way to spend Halloween! The hot drink station is an especially creative and wonderful touch. These are amazing ideas, and I very much appreciate you sharing!

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You’re worth more than you think. Please remember that you’re biased against yourself. You’re an inaccurate narrator.

Be kinder to yourself than you have been, because your brain is biased against you. You deserve more than you give yourself.

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People often point out silly little things that others do. I recommend incorporating as many silly little things into your routine as possible.

It’s good for you.

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Sometimes it’s hard to motivate myself to do self care.

If I pretend to be a rare and priceless specimen being studied by aliens, it gets easier.

The alien has recommended vitamin d and it’s gonna make alien noises at me until I get some. I must because otherwise the alien will be worried and sad. Gotta make a good impression, I’m representing all of humanity here!

It’s very motivating, and I recommend it.

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Sometimes it is okay to take a nap.

It is okay to rest.

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At times, my body doesn’t seem to match me and that can be hard. What I’ve done is picked a single thing out that I like, and stuck with it.

No matter how I’m feeling about my body, at least I still like that bit. One of my favorite bits right now is my tailbone.

It doesn’t affect my appearance much, and it helps me move and sit. Thank you tailbone, for being a piece of my body I don’t have to hate.

Regardless of how you feel about your body, I recommend trying this. Sometimes things can feel a little bit better knowing that everyone has the same bones.

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I highly encourage googling rain frogs, and checking out the images. Also look up rain frog squeaks on youtube, to truly witness the fierce and majestic rain frog!

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life update from the dysphoric guy from ages ago

after 7 months of bullshit, today was my first day openly wearing the masculine uniform!! it was rlly good!! so yeah it took forever but im here now.

my mother doesnt love it, shes kinda avoiding me, but yk- it is what it is-

Congratulations! I know how scary it can be to take that step(as an openly trans person, I get it.) and you’ve done amazing!

I hope that you have a wonderfully validating experience from here on out.

It’s a very lovely experience to wear clothes that match who you are, I’m glad you get that chance.

I’m sorry your mother isn’t happy about it. It’s always tough to not be accepted. I hope you’re able to get to a point with her, where she accepts it because it makes you happy, even if she doesn’t understand it.

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Remember you are making a difference. Even if it’s just to one person.

You matter.

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I’ve always had food issues and lately they’ve been flaring up, so here’s something I wish someone would’ve told me when I was younger.

It is okay to have the same thing, for the same meal, repeatedly. It is okay if you only eat the certain things.

There’s nothing wrong with being picky.

Try and plan to eat healthy of course, but if all you can manage is a pack of chips that’s okay to.

It’s okay to struggle. You are valid.

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It is okay to be weird in public. I promise that no matter how cringe it feels to bring an emotional support stuffed animal in your bag, it is valid and worth it.

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Halloween is approaching and I’m very excited!

What’s your favorite part of spooky month?

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Sometimes it’s good to just lie down and take a nap.

You deserve rest.

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If I was an animal I think I’d want to be a dragon! What would you be?