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An apparently unpopular opinion: disabled people can have and do their hobbies. They deserve to have fun. They deserve to live their lives.

Their inability to do some things (like work, for example) does not mean they should be judged for… idk hanging out with their friends or to going outside. After all, having interests outside of work is often essential to our mental and physical health OUTSIDE of our disability.

And also *you might want to sit down for this* disabled people know what’s disabling for them (unless they people-please or push through due to necessity or survival of some sort). Disabilities don’t have to be visible or persistent to be disabling.

So yeah - my declaration: if an activity you want to do feels good and you’re able to do it, then do it. REGARDLESS OF YOUR DISABILITY WITH OTHER THINGS.

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When your living space is a mess, don’t ever look around and think you should have managed better. Don’t look at the chaos as all the things you should have done. Look around and think, “Look how exhausted I’ve been. I have been saving my energy to save myself and that is right.” And then ask yourself what is one thing you could do that would make you feel more at home in your space–one thing you can manage right now. If that’s fluffing up your pillows, if that’s putting the cups back in the kitchen, if that’s writing a list of fruit you haven’t had in a while and going out to buy it, if it’s picking up your laundry from the floor and putting it on the chair, if it’s wiping the dust off your crystals–that’s enough. Do what would help you now. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to be a mess. It’s enough to do what would help and leave the rest.

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There’s no such thing as work-life balance for neurodivergent & chronically ill people.

This is because everything in my life requires work:

maintaining friendships

keeping up with my hygiene

managing bills

making money

remembering my basic needs

sleeping regularly

outputting creatively

All requires some aspect of work for me.

And when everything in your life requires work, your balance goes out the window.

If you're neurodivergent and overwhelmed — I see you.

If you're chronically ill and overwhelmed — I see you.

You're not dysfunctional.

You're not incapable.

You're doing your best.

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it’s such a simple thing but i am so proud of myself for brushing my teeth.

i never built up the habit. it was sensory hell as a little kid and i very quickly learned to avoid it, which then created a sort of irrational fear of it. fast forward years and i still struggle. it isn’t such a nightmare anymore, but my gums are sick and sensitive and painful, and i just. don’t have the habit. and routine changes are scary.

there were times i’d be like okay, i’m finally going to commit to it, twice a day every day, and then slip up in less than a week and feel like shit and go back to avoiding it all. but then my dentist said something that literally changed the game. “don’t just go full throttle, you won’t stick with it. pick a couple days a week and be consistent with those.”

so i started keeping my toothbrush and paste and floss in my shower bucket. and for the past few months, i have brushed my teeth EVERY time i have showered. this is fucking HUGE for me! it’s not ideal, but once every two days or so?? I HAVE NOT BRUSHED MY TEETH THIS MUCH SINCE MT PARENTS LITERALLY DID IT FOR ME. and it HURTS less! my gums don’t bleed anymore! i looked in the mirror today and they were mostly PINK. PINK!!!!! i cannot remember a time when my gums were not red and puffy but they’re pink and they don’t bleed and they don’t hurt!

i’m thinking of ways to make a transition to every day smoother. and i WANT to now. i actually WANT to! routine changes are hard but i WANT this to become a part of my routine because i actually FEEL BETTER. woah

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ok universe i’m getting out of bed i’m drinking water i’m making breakfast i’m trying please have something kind in store for me ok. i need a win

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having short-term memory is like. this book profoundly affected me. that show bared my soul. i don’t remember a single thing about it. but it did

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wheelchairs and canes and glasses and hearing aids and every single other disability aid should be free btw and if you disagree i hate you

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graph of what being hungry is like with adhd

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🧠✨️ Positive self descriptions that I attribute to being influenced by my ADHD:

Adventurous, Bold, Charismatic,

Cheerful, Clever, Creative, Curious,

Daring, Dedicated, Determined,

Dynamic, Eager, Empathetic,

Energetic, Fair-minded, Friendly,

Fun-loving, Funny, Generous,

Gentle, Hardworking, Helpful,

Idealistic, Imaginative, Impartial,

Independent, Innovative, Inquisitive,

Insightful, Intelligent, Intuitive,

Inventive, Knowledgeable, Lively,

Logical-minded, Methodical, Meticulous,

Objective, Observant, Open minded,

Optimistic, Outgoing, Passionate,

Perceptive, Persistent, Personable,

Persuasive, Philosophical, Pioneering,

Playful, Reflective, Resourceful,

Respectful, Savvy, Sensitive, Sensual,

Spontaneous, Sweet-natured, Sympathetic,

Systematic, Talented, Understanding,

Unique, Versatile.

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chronic fatigue from mental illness and neurodivergency isn't something you can just will your way out of. your nervous system is part of your body. your brain is an organ. the fatigue is real. you're not lazy. so be kinder to yourself. be gentler with your bodymind.

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Shout out to the ten year old who just got diagnosed. Shout out to the housebound fourteen year old. Shout out to the eighteen year old who can’t go to the university they wanted. Shout out to the twenty two year old who can’t get a job. Shout out to the twenty six year old with a caretaker. Shout out to the thirty year old who can’t buy their own house.

Shout out to young disabled people. We exist.

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in the same spirit as those posts reminding you to drink some water and take your meds:

if you have a car, when’s the last time you checked your spare tire? because i know at least two people who’ve recently discovered that they couldn’t actually access their spare because they’d misplaced the necessary tool or some other thing. check your spare tire!! make sure you’ll be able to use it when you need it!!!

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for ppl that have a binary gender, i get that it is hard to relearn people’s pronouns. i do. i even got my own pronouns mixed up a few times when i first realized that i’m nonbinary. nobody is perfect, and nobody expects you to be. when my best friends accidentally misgender me they say sorry, correct themselves, and keep going. this is good.

if you misgender someone, the second to worst thing you can do is turn it into a massive dramatic apology. it immediately reverses the dynamic of the situation and forces the misgendered to comfort the misgenderer. The misgendered is often forced to assure this random person they it doesn’t make them a bad person. in a second, it becomes about the discomfort and sadness of the person whose fault it was.

it’s even worse when the misgenderer says something along the lines of “i’m SO sorry, you have to understand, this is so new to me and I just completely forgot! It’s so hard to remember!”

because yes, i do understand. And because i am a reasonable person i also understand that there is often absolutely zero ill intent causing the situation. i will not blame someone for a small error when I am so often prone to them myself. but telling a trans person that it’s hard to remember their pronouns is such a backhanded blow. I know it is not intended that way, but please never say that phrase to a trans person. to the trans person reading between the lines it says “you don’t look trans enough for me to consciously consider you a member of your actual gender group.” this invalidating comment is often invisible to cis people when it slips into their defensive arguments, but i promise you that trans people notice.