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they better announce a new Smash Bros tonight bro

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sakura » crazy @ studio choom

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we talk a lot about how mental and physical disabilities are different lived experiences and just having one doesnt mean you understand the other, BUT i dont see a lot of people talk about how they can still interact with and feed off of each other!! so heres a shoutout to:

medical trauma survivors

medical abuse survivors

people with endocrine disorders that affect their brain chemicals

people who are depressed due to the isolation of living in an inaccessible world

people who are anxious due to ableism in the world

people whose mental illnesses led to their physical condition worsening

suicide attempt/self harm survivors who retained lasting injuries, pain, or other illnesses

physical abuse survivors who retained lasting injuries, pain, or other illnesses

people with chronic illnesses induced by eating disorders

people with chronic illnesses induced by substance abuse

developmentally disabled people whose condition affects both their mental and physical motor skills

people whose psychiatric medical team doesnt understand their physical barriers

people whose physical medical team doesnt understand their mental barriers

people caught in the loop of their mental and physical conditions making each other worse

and everyone else who lives with me in the middle of the venn diagram of physical & mental disabilities. its hard when everyone seems to assume you can only be one or the other, especially on a website full of discourse yet entirely devoid of nuance. i love each and every one of you!

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but it really is so important to find people who don’t lose patience with you or get angry if you’re being irrational or insecure or downright ridiculous, it is so so necessary to be treated with gentleness from loved ones and not to be made to feel like you’re irritating or a burden

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QUICK REMINDER

In the US: threatening government officials is a felony under federal law (18 U.S.C. § 871). Even memes.

be careful with your jokes if they spill over to active officials.

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“Learning never exhausts the mind.”

— Leonardo da Vinci

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sometimes it is straight up impossible accommodate some disabled people in a particular event. someone's dietary needs are too restrictive for anything provided to be edible for them. sometimes your house or apartment has unavoidable stairs that your landlord refuses to have adjusted. sometimes a deadly allergen is going to have to exist in a workplace (for example a company that makes peanut butter is not going to be able to have a peanut free workplace).

the solution is not to deny this. the solution is to be upfront about it and let us make our own decisions and cost/benefit analysis about whether to attend.

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EITHER WAY IVE (2023)

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shout out to people with unclear or unknown prognoses.

For people whose condition is under researched. For people whose condition is rare. For people whose condition doesn’t react to typical treatment. For people whose condition interacts with other comorbidities in unpredictable ways. For people without access to specialists.

It can be exhausting not knowing how your future (weeks or decades) will look. And it can be exhausting trying to explain to people that you don’t have the answers, that you don’t know if you’ll get better or when. It can be scary not knowing how to move forward, and what treatments to seek.

Look after yourself best you can with the uncertainty. You’re not alone.

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Ok I'm just gonna say it, a phone is a tool for neurodivergent, social, and sensory processing issues. Yes it's important to have non-screen time and yes blah blah blah tech can be bad and social media can be worse but I'm also tired of people acting like phones are the devil. Being able to interact with people via tech means I can still have actual interaction and relationships while at a distance. My phone keeps me from being both under and overstimulated. I have a constant need to stim and have some kind of input for my brain, but like, fidget toys and crafts aren't always satisfying enough nor do I always have the physical capacity to do crafts. If I need space to myself to decompress before sensory overload turns me into a Huge Bitch? Phone. Creates a nice little bubble to Do Stuff while unbothered. Not to mention the dozen additional reasons related to physical disability why being able to do so much on a device is useful and enriching. I used to feel so bad about my amount of screen time but honestly? Nah.

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only yesterday » 1991

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snoopy of the day

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CHAEWON at ASIAN ARTISTS AWARDS 2023

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Crowdsourcing a question

Okay totally personal post here because, now that search engines suck, my research is failing me. So I'm crowdsourcing my question about the residential care work industry!

Hoping at least some of my followers have experience in/with the industry and some intel on this:

Actual question: How common is it for jobs in residential care work (residential centers, btw, not home care) to actually have two people on the night shift? vs. just saying they always have two people on the night shift in interviews and their official policies, and actually it's not true?

Because my current job was, it turns out, apparently totally lying about "you'll never be on shift alone with clients" at orientation (when it comes to the night shift, anyway). Which, holy fucking safety issues, Batman!

Suffice to say this was a very fun thing to find out like three days before my first regular shift

So, I'm thinking realllll hard about switching companies, and I'm trying to figure out if I could expect to actually have a coworker at a different company, or if it's like an open secret in the field that actually, basically all the night shifts end up being solo shifts, because the industry is so chronically understaffed or w/e