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Hey can we talk about how disheartening it is when as a disabled person unable to work you're given money to live off of but its actually nowhere close to being able to live off of? And how it makes no sense? I am disabled, I have been officially judged by the welfare department as being unable to and/or impacted in my ability to work, so theoretically the money I recieve is to make up for this and ensure that I can live, but it's literally not even enough to cover rent most places let alone other bills and food. I am lucky in that I live with my mom and she covers many costs, but not everyone has that option, that or staying with their parents or a partner means staying in an abusive or harmful environment, studies show disabled people are more likely to be abused. This system is trapping them. And so then you're presented with two choices: Work, no matter how hard and damaging it is to your mind and body and health so you might be able to live, or do what you can with what little money the government gives you, if it's even possible, at detriment to you and your quality of life.

And honestly, this just feels like the government doesn't care and wants us to die. That's the message they're sending, when they say "we recognize you can't work, but we won't give you the money you need to be able to live". And what's sickening is that the people around us don't bat an eye about this and may even think what we do get we don't deserve or is enough. My own father went on an angry tirade to me about how he has to pay alot of taxes, a portion of which go to this, which just tells me he doesn't care about me or my disabled friends and familys wellbeing. That he would rather us die or destroy ourselves working so he has a bit more money in his pocket. It's a sick individualistic mindset, to only worry about yourself, and not care about having a functioning society in which everyone is taken care of, including your family, friends, and even yourself, in the case you become disabled or simply grow old. Who doesn't want that? To be against that isn't only harming your close ones but also yourself. Why are you so upset about the idea of contributing to a society that takes care of its people.

This is a bit of an unprompted post, this topic has just been on my mind for a while. I wish things were better for us and that we could all live the lifes we deserve

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harm mitigation is NOT:

shaming people into starting recovery

coercive or forced

pressuring people to take steps they’re not ready for

harm mitigation is:

paced at whatever pace works for the individual

focussed on providing information that will keep people safe while they continue to engage in “unhealthy” behaviours

sometimes a stepping stone towards recovery, but NOT ALWAYS

an option that should be available for all people, regardless of their situation

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they better announce a new Smash Bros tonight bro

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sakura » crazy @ studio choom

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we talk a lot about how mental and physical disabilities are different lived experiences and just having one doesnt mean you understand the other, BUT i dont see a lot of people talk about how they can still interact with and feed off of each other!! so heres a shoutout to:

medical trauma survivors

medical abuse survivors

people with endocrine disorders that affect their brain chemicals

people who are depressed due to the isolation of living in an inaccessible world

people who are anxious due to ableism in the world

people whose mental illnesses led to their physical condition worsening

suicide attempt/self harm survivors who retained lasting injuries, pain, or other illnesses

physical abuse survivors who retained lasting injuries, pain, or other illnesses

people with chronic illnesses induced by eating disorders

people with chronic illnesses induced by substance abuse

developmentally disabled people whose condition affects both their mental and physical motor skills

people whose psychiatric medical team doesnt understand their physical barriers

people whose physical medical team doesnt understand their mental barriers

people caught in the loop of their mental and physical conditions making each other worse

and everyone else who lives with me in the middle of the venn diagram of physical & mental disabilities. its hard when everyone seems to assume you can only be one or the other, especially on a website full of discourse yet entirely devoid of nuance. i love each and every one of you!

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but it really is so important to find people who don’t lose patience with you or get angry if you’re being irrational or insecure or downright ridiculous, it is so so necessary to be treated with gentleness from loved ones and not to be made to feel like you’re irritating or a burden

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QUICK REMINDER

In the US: threatening government officials is a felony under federal law (18 U.S.C. § 871). Even memes.

be careful with your jokes if they spill over to active officials.

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“Learning never exhausts the mind.”

— Leonardo da Vinci

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sometimes it is straight up impossible accommodate some disabled people in a particular event. someone's dietary needs are too restrictive for anything provided to be edible for them. sometimes your house or apartment has unavoidable stairs that your landlord refuses to have adjusted. sometimes a deadly allergen is going to have to exist in a workplace (for example a company that makes peanut butter is not going to be able to have a peanut free workplace).

the solution is not to deny this. the solution is to be upfront about it and let us make our own decisions and cost/benefit analysis about whether to attend.

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EITHER WAY IVE (2023)

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shout out to people with unclear or unknown prognoses.

For people whose condition is under researched. For people whose condition is rare. For people whose condition doesn’t react to typical treatment. For people whose condition interacts with other comorbidities in unpredictable ways. For people without access to specialists.

It can be exhausting not knowing how your future (weeks or decades) will look. And it can be exhausting trying to explain to people that you don’t have the answers, that you don’t know if you’ll get better or when. It can be scary not knowing how to move forward, and what treatments to seek.

Look after yourself best you can with the uncertainty. You’re not alone.

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Ok I'm just gonna say it, a phone is a tool for neurodivergent, social, and sensory processing issues. Yes it's important to have non-screen time and yes blah blah blah tech can be bad and social media can be worse but I'm also tired of people acting like phones are the devil. Being able to interact with people via tech means I can still have actual interaction and relationships while at a distance. My phone keeps me from being both under and overstimulated. I have a constant need to stim and have some kind of input for my brain, but like, fidget toys and crafts aren't always satisfying enough nor do I always have the physical capacity to do crafts. If I need space to myself to decompress before sensory overload turns me into a Huge Bitch? Phone. Creates a nice little bubble to Do Stuff while unbothered. Not to mention the dozen additional reasons related to physical disability why being able to do so much on a device is useful and enriching. I used to feel so bad about my amount of screen time but honestly? Nah.

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only yesterday » 1991

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