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[actualbisexual]

Fact: Bisexuals are constantly swinging from one side to the other. This is often done while the bisexuals are whilst dangling precariously from metal bars, using thin wires. Originally bisexuals swinging from one side to the other  to illustrate the conservation of energy, and momentum in the field of physics.  The following is a rare image of bisexuals in action: 

[actualbisexual]

I cannot speak to the original messages sent to you by a member of BiCast as I did not see them. I do think you are personally nursing BiFurious Babe's pain regarding bi men and using that to lash out against a community resource staffed by volunteers. While I am deeply sorry for her terrible personal tragedy the community can't further marginalize bi men for the despicable actions of one. Just as we wouldn't want to alienate people of color or disabled people because one seriously fucked up.

From my experience with Binet, any accusation of racism, transphobia or ablism would be laughable if it weren't so offensive. Who do you think makes up the bisexual community? White men who play the stock market when they aren't running marathons? We are more susceptible as a community to rape, sexual abuse, mental illness, social isolation and suicide. We are predominantly women and a higher number of people of color than in the general population.

I'm sure that future hashtags will include bi women, bi people with disabilities bi and bi people of color but don't think that we are marginalized in the community, we are the community.

So to sum up about the BiCast:

They harassed me for criticizing the misogyny and racism in the bi community, specifically the unjustifiable choice to have days dedicated to bi men and bi allies during Bi Visibility Week but nothing for bi women or bi people...

[actualbisexual]

The invisible Stereotypes of Bisexual Men

Here's a post to pick up where I left off with queeravenger. 

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The invisible stereotypes of bisexual men. Zivony A1, Lobel T. Author information Abstract

Bisexual men have little public visibility, yet previous reports indicate that heterosexuals have specific prejudicial attitudes towards them. This article reports on two studies that examined the stereotypical beliefs of heterosexual men and women regarding bisexual men. In Study 1 (n = 88), we examined awareness of social stereotypes (stereotype knowledge). Most of the participants were unable to describe the various stereotypes of bisexual men. Contrary to previous studies, low-prejudiced participants had more stereotype knowledge than high-prejudiced participants. In Study 2 (n = 232), we examined prejudice in a contextual evaluation task that required no stereotype knowledge. Participants evaluated a single target character on a first date: a bisexual man dating a heterosexual woman, a bisexual man dating a gay man, a heterosexual man dating a heterosexual woman, or a gay man dating a gay man. The findings indicated that participants implemented stereotypical beliefs in their evaluation of bisexual men: compared to heterosexual and gay men, bisexual men were evaluated as more confused, untrustworthy, open to new experiences, as well as less inclined towards monogamous relationships and not as able to maintain a long-term relationship. Overall, the two studies suggest that the stereotypical beliefs regarding bisexual men are prevalent, but often not acknowledged as stereotypes. In addition, the implementation of stereotypes in the evaluations was shown to be dependent on the potential romantic partner of the target. Possible theoretical explanations and implications are discussed. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24558124

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[actualbisexual]

Please note that I had no part in coming up with the hashtags. These are merely my thoughts.

A hashtag is not a resource. I think the assumption was  that using and suggesting others use the hashtag would bring visibility to the less visible portions of our community as with youth, people of color and allies (not so much that they're less visible). When I say bi men are less visible than bi women I am not talking about porn. I am talking about people in both communities (and science) who say they believe in female bisexuality but they don't believe in bisexual men. So to call a hashtag that brings focus to bisexual men without also doing so for bisexual women "rampant misogyny within the bisexual community" with no further evidence is nuts.

I have personally experienced every bit of the crap that comes with being a bisexual woman. I am not speaking from a place of internalized misogyny-- I have been a vocal, obnoxious, women loving feminist since the fourth grade. I am merely not ALSO a misandrist. 

What you just did by creating #biwomen and explaining why you did so is how you deal with a perceived problem like this in a mature way. It brings it to the attention of the people who thought up the hashtags to begin with without sowing seeds of discontent and manufacturing drama.

let’s talk about the rampant misogyny in the bi community that leads to bi men getting specialized resources with the assumption that bi women have been hogging all the resources, that leads to conversations about the erasure and stigma of male bisexuality with the implication…

[actualbisexual]

Come ON ladies. Male bisexuals are blamed for bringing HIV to the heterosexual community. We all face erasure but the level of distrust hurled against bi men by the world at large is unfathomable.

Why can't we give bisexual men a break. Why can't we give them the love they need. For frak's sake, it was both men and women who came up with that hashtag because we are together in this. I'm not saying bi women don't have it rough all around but this is not misogyny.

let’s talk about the rampant misogyny in the bi community that leads to bi men getting specialized resources with the assumption that bi women have been hogging all the resources, that leads to conversations about the erasure and stigma of male bisexuality with the implication...

[actualbisexual]

Nice one!

[actualbisexual]

Feel like steppin' out!

I have had this Tumblr account for awhile. There are a number of blog names on it and nothing has amounted to anything. I feel like it's time to get out there and add my own bisexual voice to the mix.  It's not an uncommon story. First, I was confused, I didn't know where I fit in. Of course I was in grade school so it didn't really matter, right. I kissed girls, I kissed boys but that was just curiosity...In high school I fell in love with a girl who could reciprocate and I thought of course, this is where I belong. I had a community, I had a support group, I had a pride parade. Other teens defined themselves as bisexuals but I thought it was just girls for me. Until it wasn't and I was stuck into my lesbian identity and had to pull out, lose a lot of friends and come to a new understanding as to what my sexuality meant.  Jump forward and now I'm married to a man who is supportive and loving and not any more butch than my first girlfriend. Sorry honey.  The name of my blog comes from a friend declaring to me, many moons ago, that I was the only "actual bisexual" she knew. I know this is not true and it's time to show that for what it is. The habitual practice of both the LG camp and the straight camp "claiming" historical bisexual figures as their own. The habitual practice of bisexuals of "passing" and society's predilection for wanting to reduce sexual orientation to sexual acts. We know it's about who we are on the inside-- our thoughts, our fantasies, our imaginations. It's about how we interact with people. We can't easily shuffle people into camps of potential conquests because it's about more than a gender/sexual orientation match up. It's how we conceive of those things to begin with, right? At least that's what I think. But I'm a 3 on the Kinsey scale.  Thoughts?