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i'm in an almost 8 year relationship with a cis straight man. came out as a trans man last year and tried to break up with him bc i knew we just weren't going to be compatible. he begged me for a year to "get used to the idea" of dating a man. almost a year later, i share that i finally scheduled my intake appointments for testosterone. i'm literally getting my blood drawn on wednesday. he just asked me if i would consider delaying starting hrt so he can "start getting things in order" in case we don't work out.

i'm absolutely crushed. i asked him if he had a timeline he could give me because it wasn't fair for me to wait until he's ready and he couldn't give me one. the entire time, he just kept saying "i feel so guilty for asking this" but asked anyway.

i told him i'd need to think about it, but the answer is no. me delaying my transition wouldn't do anything but continue to let him live in denial and make me miserable. i'm just so fucking upset about this. i know he was taking it hard but i thought he would ultimately support me. guess not

He's had since last year to come to terms with you actually being a man and wanting to be on T. It's time for him to nut up or shut up. Either he accepts you for you being a trans man, or you toss him to the curb. Sorry to say it, but that's what has to happen in order for you to be your most authentic self.

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say it with me kids. just cause i experience nonhumanism, alterhumanity, otherkin feelings, physical and non physical therian feelings, gender identity a certain way doesn’t mean someone else does. my experiences do not define the labels others use to define themselves. i can freely and happily explore my identity whatever that entails no matter how many times it changes. it is okay if i explore something and it turns out it isn’t for me. gender sexuality and species identities cannot be limited by rules and boxes. no you are not faking it if you truly and deeply feel a certain way. i don’t have to seek validation from others to confirm my feelings and my experiences. i don’t have to be like everyone else to feel validated.

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Also, this one:

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and i was so young when i behaved 25 yet now i find i have grown into a tall child

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You will be in so much pain that it's hard to watch TV and drs will be like nah just take otc pain relievers until they damage your liver and kidneys, writing prescriptions is scawy.

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The Onion continues to never miss

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Stop just asking "is it normal?" and start asking "is it harming anyone?" Lots of harmful things are normalized in this society and lots of things considered weird or rare are completely harmless. Whether something is considered normal or common shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether it's okay

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For me this isn't even about empathy or sympathy (though there's value in those as well), it is just straight-up a human rights thing. Once you have decided that there is *any* category of human that can be treated as less-than-human you've said that humanity is conditional, and so are the rights that come with it. You've already lost, you've granted the fascists their point because *you agree with them* that some people don't deserve to be treated like humans.

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Be ungovernable help your fellow human beings and yell la migra while running. The racist will continue to chase you and the people in actual danger will have the opportunity to get out of harms way.

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"right to life" is the name of an anti-choice group in Texas that introduced some of the harshest anti-abortion laws in the country. The idea that fetuses have a human "right to life" is literally killing people as they are denied medical care out of the fear that terminating their pregnancies might make doctors complicit in the death of a fetus.

I cannot begin to explain how much I am not fucking around about abortion.

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Many intersex adults who underwent childhood medical interventions may have experienced repeated genital examinations throughout childhood and into adulthood, which may increase their medical mistrust. Many intersex adults delay or avoid seeking mental health support due to medical mistrust. This mistrust and avoidance of care is exacerbated by the incorrect attribution by some health care workers of mental health conditions to intersex variation itself rather than to stigma and trauma from previous medical interventions, further underscoring the benefit of affirming, trained mental health providers in mitigating self-harm and suicide risk. To combat medical mistrust, training for the next generation of health care professionals must account for both the medical and interpersonal needs of intersex patients, especially young children. When intersex individuals receive appropriate and affirming social support and mental health care, they can thrive.

from Advancing Health Equity for Intersex Individuals, a paper by the U.S. Department of Health and the Human Services Office of the Assistant Secretary for Health that was censored by the trump administration